Recently, the incident of being torn apart by the national husband and female Internet celebrities has brushed the screen, and for a time the endless spoofs on the upper level of the network make people can't help but be amused, such as "Bao'er I infused today, what liquid did I infuse?" —Thinking of your night", "Bao'er, I did nucleic acid today, what acid?" Can't get your heartache", "Bao'er, I got vaccinated today, what seedlings?" Every second with you"...
I believe that the reason why this matter has been used by friends on the whole network to do hot searches and ridicule, in addition to the humility and humor of the discourse itself, people can't help but be amused, but what is more topical and contrasting is Wang Sicong's identity as a rich second generation and the strong psychological contrast formed by his humble attitude of pursuing female Internet celebrities. What surprises everyone is how a super rich second generation can use such a humble attitude to chase a female Internet celebrity? Shouldn't he be the domineering president who flipped his hand over for the cloud to cover his hand for the rain to occupy the initiative of the love field? How come all the men under the sky will lick the dog in seconds when they meet the woman they like?
Putting aside the current arguments of the two sides and the analysis of various Taoist interpretations on the Internet that understand the king, what I can see are the following points: 1. Today's young people are no longer like the previous generation of unlimited kneeling and licking rich people, no matter how much money you have, I can live well with me no matter how poor I am, not to mention that by licking, I can't achieve a class leap. 2. The social status of women in Chinese society has been unprecedentedly improved, and the awareness of feminism is clearer than ever. 3, for the vast majority of ordinary boys, it will only become more and more difficult in the future: survival and reproduction of the two major problems from ancient times to the present have never been really solved. 4) Determination and perseverance are more terrible in the wrong direction than decadence.
So let's start with the first point: Why are today's young people no longer bottomless and uncontrolled kneeling to lick people who are stronger than themselves? In fact, before we can figure out this problem, we can start with our history, since ancient times, "human nature" has been a compulsory course for all adults and adults who are about to enter society, and even must learn to master the survival skills. If you want to survive, you must learn to show weakness in times of danger to win sympathy and pity, and use the power you do not have to help you achieve your goals. These two points determine that interpersonal communication often occupies the absolute initiative for powerful people, and if the weaker party wants to do something or become stronger, it needs to cater to and please the stronger party. But today, Chinese society has undergone earth-shaking changes, the concept and spirit of the legal system have been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and the competition between people is no longer harder than whose fist is, who has more grain in their homes, and so on. The competition between people has become a higher competition after the generalization of higher education, and this competition is more obscure than before, although the losing party will have to bear the cost of life and food, but it is more difficult than before to win the strong with the weak. There is a popular saying on the Internet called "Why do you want to surpass the efforts of three generations of others with the efforts of one generation?" I believe that this soul torture can directly ask ninety-nine percent of young people who want to achieve class leaps through their own efforts. Yeah, why? If I knew it was unlikely to happen, I thought it would be better to make my life easier. If you don't want to stoop to the leader, you should just go back, and if you encounter a rich acquaintance who doesn't want to say hello, he won't fight, anyway, he won't teach you how to be a rich man like him. As long as the development of the situation does not affect their own survival, there is no need to swallow their anger.
Second, why is the awakening of women's consciousness so clear today? The answer is that we were too accustomed to the absolute dominance of men in gender interactions and the absolute change in the way society produced and created value. In ancient times, the way of survival was for men to go out hunting and for women to take care of their children in caves. In ancient times, men also led the army to fight and defend the country, and the supremacy of male power, even if it goes back to our fathers, most of them are fathers who go out to work and earn money, and mothers are busy raising babies at home. In the initial stage of social development, men often occupy a strong body, a high sense of adventure and a sense of ownership, so men have been the dominant players in social development for thousands of years. However, with the development of social economy, physical output is no longer the main driving force for social development, coupled with the popularization of higher education, brain output has become the most important way, and the restriction of brain output on gender is almost non-existent, so after obtaining a sense of material security, women will turn their goals to the spiritual field. There is also a factor that cannot be ignored, that is, the imbalance between men and women that is prevalent in Chinese society today. From the sensational sky-high bride price to almost all men today who do housework and serve their wives, the daughters-in-law of our generation who marry home can no longer be like our mothers and grandmothers who go up to the hall and the kitchen, raise babies, cook, and earn money. The scarcity of girls has deepened the tolerance of society for them. But I think the development of anything is dynamic, can not intercept a certain period of time to define, today's society I see more is more progress, everyone lives more dignified.
Third, why do the vast majority of boys have a harder time in the future? In fact, I am not just talking about boys, but all young people. A large number of industry rolls and high housing prices are wearing down the vigor and vitality of young people. Buying a house can be a matter for two people, but it is likely to be a one person's business. You can't ask for a down payment on the house to get a portion of the girl's family unless they want to. I see many boys from the countryside like me, going to ordinary universities, doing ordinary jobs, who should have borne the burden of the family after graduation, but did not want to become a burden on the whole family again because of marriage. The family thinks that after going to college, they can get ahead, but the truth is that there is no essential difference between the young people sitting in the office and typing on the keyboard today and the people who sat on the sewing machine and workshop in the eighties and nineties, and the only difference may be that in the past, as long as they were willing to work hard, they could buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law, and now even if they work hard, they may not be able to achieve it.
Finally, to make the fourth point, why is it that determination and perseverance are more terrible than decadence? We all know that any form of "getting" almost always requires a "cost". If the direction is right, the payment is called "cost". If the direction is wrong, it is called the "cost of trial and error". I guess Wang Sicong must not have thought that when he started chasing female Internet celebrities, he would not only run into a wall, but also end up in a chicken feather and lose his reputation. Suppose that in the process of pursuit, if you find that the signs are not right, give up in time, although you will be unwilling, at least you will not end up stealing chickens and not becoming a corrupt rice. For ordinary people, the cost of trial and error is obviously higher, and every choice made should be more deliberate. If you are really not sure if you can earn something, then it is a matter of whether you can withstand the loss. After all, staying in the green mountains is not afraid of no firewood. What's more, if you cause trouble to others or the loss of partners due to your misjudgment, it will take longer and at a greater cost to make up.
That's all I can think of personally. The world is so big, so big that only we can't think of it, nothing we can't see. No matter how the world changes, I sincerely hope that after reading this article, you will not be bound by the world, and have a correct three views and a complete life.