After a long time in an environment of big talk and empty talk, speaking from the heart, I am full of doubts and distrust of the process of everything, even if the result is visible at a glance. Until the last moment, the uneasy mood is always like a kite floating in the air, up and down, all by the unreliable long line in the hands of others.
Children sent to the United States to study, the root of the problem, the above factors accounted for the vast majority - do not want to do to others, this is a traditional culture, isn't it?
The teenage child carried the suitcase and went to the other side of the earth alone, which looked like himself at that time - ten years old, alone, carrying luggage, from thousands of miles away to Guangzhou.
The right one is the best. Before you can't find it, do your best to find the soil suitable for your own life, which is the greatest life motivation for individual human beings to work hard, and it is also the best way to challenge the limits of their own ability.
The moment the child came back from the first Christmas holiday, the moment he came out of the airport, the strength and joy of saying good was gone, and I shed tears.
Is this my child? Dark and thin hair messy! It turned out that everything he described in WeChat was real and true - competing with Indian students for seats in the library until the library closed time, preferring to cut his own hair in order to save sixty dollars in haircuts...
The first sentence of the skinny child is to eat intestinal noodles, pied egg porridge and glutinous rice chicken from the breakfast shop at the entrance of the Huagong.
When I arrived at the airport at 3:30 in the morning and arrived at the door of huagong, the breakfast restaurant was still tightly closed. The child was very happy, sitting on an open bench waiting for the store to open.
Looking at the child silently, I didn't say a word. Because at that time, I was also facing my parents who were worried about my hometown with such a happy appearance. Swallowing all the tribulations and tears, giving relatives the most beautiful smiles, this is cultivation, but also the courage to choose life.
After all, the store doors opened on time. Two sticky rice chickens, two plates of intestinal flour, a bowl of porridge, plus small dumplings, it seems that the child is really home.
The well-fed and drunk child sat silently in the back seat, not making a sound for a long time.
Jet lag needs a break, and I drive quietly. The child in the rearview mirror turned his head and looked out the window and did not sleep.
"I've budgeted for the tuition and living expenses for the next semester, and I don't have to give that much." When he was almost home, the child suddenly came up with a sentence.
budget?! Before my child studied abroad, I would mention such a term whenever it came to expenses other than basic life. At that time, the children did not care - what the students around them wanted to open directly to their parents was, willing to give, unwilling to be unwilling, but when he opened his mouth, we did not say agree, nor did we say reject, in a word: write a budget report, list the reasons, purposes, service life and daily management methods.
For this, the child did not lose his temper. Temper is temper, and the rules of the family are iron-like existence.
This is full of porridge noodles in Guangzhou, propping out these two words that we have always hoped that the child will do, but the child would rather give up his desire than submit?
It turned out that this was homework that American schools required children to do. The first lesson a child attends at school is attended by a school life teacher. In addition to the school's facilities and rules, students are required to learn to do their own financial daily accounts.
The finances of underage children, income from parents, expenditure is their own consumption, which is necessary, which is dispensable, which is luxury, as soon as the account is made, the child immediately has the answer and standard in mind, and also has a new understanding of the value of money.
Economic independence is the basis of human beings' social foundation, and the recognition of money begins with daily flow accounts. If we climb Mount Everest together before the children study abroad, the children have a new shock to their birthplace, and this move of the American school also plays a role in the children's understanding of the family, parents and society.
Details determine quality, which is the obsession of being a science and engineering person. From that moment on, I knew my child's decision to study abroad was not wrong. Before doing big things, learn to be down-to-earth in daily life, and only in a down-to-earth daily life will there be true gratitude, which I like very much.