Just wrote the autumn sun is the most like middle age, and the back foot was sharply questioned by a reader: In middle age, there are several people who can have the calm and calm you say! You are also middle-aged, you can only say that you live in heaven, you are not difficult!
First out of anger, then out of sorrow.
What's wrong, in middle age, even to give yourself relief and reassurance, can make middle age have a little softness is not allowed? Do you have to rip open that forty- or fifty-year-old face and suppress the anger for others to see, in order to understand?
How to understand? How many middle-aged people need to be understood? As a middle-aged person, who doesn't feel empathy for the difficulties of each other?
Tear your face apart and try to prove something? To whom is the proof shown?!
It is not unknown, after people reach middle age, they will always be looked down upon by too many people, saying that they are greasy, saying that they are timid, saying that they are obscene, saying that there is no light in their eyes, saying that there is no bone on their waists, saying that they have no courage in their hearts, and saying that they are useless except for smoking, drinking, bragging and spanking.
I didn't admit it before, it was just because I kept denying that I had reached middle age and pretended not to see my age. But not acknowledging it, it doesn't prevent living at this age from giving you cruelty and hard blows.
Do you want to tear your face apart? Then tear it up!
Just two days ago, I had a small gathering with a classmate who had been together for thirty years. Classmates said that they could not move, hypertension and diabetes had to be hospitalized every year, but the child had just been in high school, and the old woman was alone after the old father left, so she did not dare to stop at all.
Chatting and chatting, some people and things that deliberately did not want to mention slowly surfaced, and tears suddenly fell.
Last week, a friend who was a few years younger than me suddenly went into shock and was hospitalized, and after a check, the heart could not afford the high load of work, but he said that he could not stop, the child had just gone to college, and there was a father and mother.
Last month, Fa Xiao sent a message late at night that his sky had fallen, and I knew that her old mother was gone, and no one would treat him as a child anymore. Then, his chemical raw materials company began to experience the third or fourth relocation, each time moving, the savings were shrinking, but did not dare not work, the two children have not yet come out.
In the middle of the year, an old father of my friend of the same age left, and when he said goodbye, he said that he had been in a hospital with his father, but his father did not know that his son had just had a kidney removal.
Also this year, I suddenly got the news that a former colleague, a little brother, the child just went to junior high school, was diagnosed with liver cancer for a month, and died. Similarly, two years ago, a former colleague of the same age also left in such a terminal illness, and I heard the news after a long time.
A few years ago, it was not easy to have a small range of middle school classmates gathering in Urumqi, more than a dozen people in their forties, before the party began, there was a small number of people who laughed and skillfully injected themselves with insulin.
It was also a few years ago, I was sent by the original unit to work in other cities for a few years, and then I resigned and left, and later I heard others say that half of the people who were familiar with my expatriate were divorced.
Fa Xiao came to Urumqi on a business trip, talking about sending my daughter out of the country to study, I said this is the trend, indicating that you have this condition. He said brother, this can only be bitter self-knowledge, do not want to delay the future of the child, then only the parents bear the consequences, a year of accommodation tuition and dinner is three or five hundred thousand, you say that an ordinary family can support how many years? So what about later? I didn't dare to think about it at all, I didn't dare to look at it
A former colleague in the same community, husband and wife, because they do not have any academic qualifications, have a very hard time, and the monthly full count is not more than 10,000, and even sometimes it is half a million. But this does not prevent them from taking most of their income in a few years to enroll their children in various cram schools. Fortunately, the child was angry and was admitted to a key university, but I saw an old man with white hair.
There are very few people coming and going now, and it turns out that one day I suddenly found that half of the few six or seven or eight people are unmarried. The reasons have not been encountered, and the more they go back, the more they dare not.
What about yourself? Of course, it can also be reported.
Four years ago, my brother died.
Ten years ago, the old mother had advanced cirrhosis of the liver, fortunately, to this day.
Wife rheumatoid, Meniere syndrome, asthma.
This is what I call middle age, what I know, what I am around, what I am close to, and some of the middle ages I know, who live a cruel but inevitable life, will have visible anxiety, but I have not heard anyone say that I can't live, I can't hold on, and I give up and put it down.
There are always people who say that people always have to live a hard life, a life with feelings, and a life of maintaining themselves. That's right, who wouldn't want life to be like this? But in the face of the future that parents can see through at a glance, in the face of the future that children can't see at a glance, in the face of the family partner who has experienced the same as ourselves, what can we do except completely let go of ourselves to face?
Does dreaming work, or is bone pride useful? Without those emotions and responsibilities, can a person live only himself?
If you are also middle-aged, please don't be ridiculous, okay? Who doesn't want to succeed? Who is willing to be ordinary ordinarily? But in this world, only a very small number of people are destined to shine, and the vast majority of people are destined to carry the weight forward and dare not stop all their lives.
How can you not accept it? How dare you not accept it? No matter how humble we are, we bear our own responsibilities, heal ourselves, solve ourselves, and struggle to the end, why not reserve a pride for ourselves?
If complaining is useful, if anger is useful, if it is not willing to be useful, then you can have the ability, don't take middle age seriously!
Long live the youth? Middle age is worth ten thousand years!