If the first half of my life is to try to improve my temperament in order to find better men, then the second half of my life is to work harder to practice the temperament of not needing men.
What is the temperament that does not require a man? That is to make yourself strong enough, you can carry your hands, you can carry your shoulders, your children are managed by themselves, your parents are raised by yourself, you have money in your pocket, and your heart is never hurt.
The traditional idea has always been that it is not easy for men to earn money to support their families. But now this era has quietly changed, and we all know that women have to work, women have to have children, and even women don't need men.
If I hadn't met love ten years ago, even if what I couldn't get was always in turmoil, I thought there would be no regrets in that life, at least with a living heart. But there is no if in life, and now my life is only 773.
773 is to go out at seven o'clock in the morning to move bricks, to get home at seven o'clock in the evening, and then to accompany the baby with the baby for 3 hours, after ten o'clock the child basically sleeps, the time belongs to me. The best time of my day is the company shuttle benefit of commuting for more than an hour, and I can get straight home. On the shuttle I can sleep, I can look at my phone, I can be in a daze, I can sneak away tears in the corner, and when inspiration comes, I can write an article!!!
All of the above shows that I regret getting married, but I have no regrets about marriage, because my lovely two babies cannot tolerate half a "regret" word. It's just that the sweet love I once had made me overestimate marriage.
From the birth of the second child, I bathed the child in the month, a person returned from the hospital with the child at three or four o'clock in the morning, went to work on time the next day, to every homework after the child grew up, read outside the classroom, and when he was tired, the underwear was hoarded up and washed, but the man could always play his favorite game.
In the TV series "Little Shed" Tian Yulan, I saw a bit of my own appearance, a mother's single fight.
I am not as lucky as Tian Yulan, at least his husband's family is good, and he can still help at a critical moment. And me? I and my husband implement the economic AA system, A to what extent? It's as small as a pencil for a child, and we all have to bear half of it. Ask me what is the use of men? I can use more than thirty years of experience to responsibly say useless. At the same time, he made me understand that the focus of the second half of my life must be to practice without the temperament of a man, otherwise the consequences will be at my own risk.
I thought that if I understood these truths, I would be strong enough. But when I finished my child and chatted with him on a business trip, I already had a glance at the head, that is, --- continue to fight alone! Mother of a second child.
After chatting, putting down the phone, my world collapsed in an instant, and the sentence "You are invincible" felt sour for a woman in a family situation like me, but almost at the moment of collapse, a new wall was forged. I guess the reason I cry is because I still have expectations, right?
The rest of my life I will work harder to earn money, in order to provide life security for my and my life, I will also do my best to accompany the two little cute to thrive, and other things will try to follow the fate! Try to be relieved, rather than hiding it from everyone and secretly being sad.
Life is not easy, and it is necessary to cultivate this temperament that does not require men. Because only if you can weave brocade, there will be icing on the cake, if you are lucky to be old with Mr. Tong, it must be because you have love for each other, if you can't go on, you must also be different and wide, and do not bring a trace of regret and burden to each other.