People have feelings, and emotions are mutual. People should be able to think in empathy, stand in each other's perspective to feel each other's emotions; treat others as themselves, personally experience the feelings of others; we cannot force others to change, we can only understand, experience or adapt to others; all our understanding and tolerance is not for others, but for ourselves.
Many people think that if I don't forgive you, you will not be happy. And in fact, you don't forgive others, ostensibly others are embarrassed and not going well. In fact, the real unlucky people are ourselves, not to mention that there is a stomach that can't get out, and even sleep badly, and it may be harmful. In this way, revenge not only cannot achieve a blow to others, but it is a kind of destruction to one's own heart.
When you are tormented by this pain, you are immersed in painful memories, it is better to learn forgiveness and forget resentment. Forgetting resentment allows you to say goodbye to the dark emotions of the past and become positive and optimistic and free. It is not advisable to repay the eyes, to tolerate and forgive others, to be generous in oneself, and to be grateful to others!
In social life, we will have more or less misunderstandings and frictions with others, sometimes hurting our own face, sometimes making ourselves really unable to get off the stage, sometimes embarrassing ourselves in public, sometimes having prejudices about ourselves, and so on. When we remember our revenge, we have the idea of revenge, and the soul will bear the burden of revenge and will not be able to gain freedom, and the beautiful face will therefore lose its color.
Hatred is a destructive emotion that only intensifies contradictions and leads to catastrophe. And a tolerant heart can easily dissolve hatred and ease tension. If you have the heart to give tolerance to the enemy or the opponent, you can already be called a noble person.
Wise people do not hate "enemies or opponents" in the bones of people. People stand at different angles and positions, and the things they consider are naturally different. Different ideas have their raison d'être. We should learn to be tolerant, treat ourselves as others, stand in the other person's point of view to consider the problem, put ourselves in the shoes of others, which is actually tolerating ourselves.