With the beginning of the resumption of school, the family conflicts between parents and children were alleviated, but the children's contradictions at school followed.
Sister Liu is a divorced family with her daughter Xiaoqi. The child has just started school for a week, and when he comes home, he and his mother react to the problems between the classmates, and even closes the door and cries without eating or drinking.
Sister Liu said that the current children really can't understand, only the fifth grade.
The school stipulates that the school uniform is worn, which is stronger than whose shoe brand is bigger. I didn't see each other for half a year, and when I met, I immediately had the idea of liking and hating, and I also took sides and assigned them. Two people are better than anyone when they are good, going to and from class together, eating together and going to the toilet. When it is not good, it is a nuisance to the eyes.
Hearing her complaint, I immediately remembered the book "Super Grandma of Saga" that I had just finished reading to fourth graders.
In the past month, I read half an hour's book to my students in the group at 8:30 pm every night, but I did not expect that after reading the first three chapters of "Saga's Super Grandma", I received praise from the children, and there were several parents who were iron fans, which showed that this book is indeed a very suitable work for parents and children to read together as mentioned in the review.
The Super Grandma of Saga is an autobiographical novel written in 2011 by Yochi Shimada (real name Akihiro Tokunaga) that tells the story of his childhood life with his grandmother in Saga.
In these bits of life trivia, it reveals Grandma's positive humor and funny attitude towards life, and adults unconsciously laugh at life in the process of reading, and at the same time, they will leave such a potential cognition in the child's mind - even if life is difficult, there are unexpected happiness.
The following is the three aspects of attitude to poverty, how to help others, and how to look at the evaluation of others, talk about the philosophy of life revealed in the book and my thinking after reading.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1 Poverty is not a bad thing, but being rich is actually good</h1>
Unable to support her, her mother fostered Akihiro, who was only eight years old, at Saga's grandmother's house, and the next day Akihiro, who came from the metropolis, saw the poverty of the Grandma family.
Grandma crossed the river in front of the door with a wooden stick to block the leaves, ugly rotten fruits, or other daily necessities that drifted down the vegetable market upstream.
In front of Zhao Guang, who has not "seen the world", Grandma said that this is their family's free supermarket, and the dried branches of the fished branches can not only be used as firewood, but also purify the river, killing two birds with one stone.
The turnip with a split tail, cut into pieces and cooked to taste the same. The curved cucumbers taste the same after being shredded and mixed with salt.
Because the house where Grandma lives can be said to be in the local rich area, Grandma's young and lost her husband to raise seven children alone, and the rich neighbors are in the eyes.
Neighbors often have things that can't be eaten will be delivered, and the small shop that sells soy sauce will also give a little more grandma, who will gladly accept it every time, and then clean the neighbor's door together when cleaning the door, as a return to the neighbors.
Infected by the wise grandmother, Akihiro developed a correct concept of poverty from an early age. Grandma does not feel inferior to others because of poverty, and cannot look up in front of the rich neighbors around her. Nor will they hate and love their rich people because they are poor, gladly accept the help of others, and then give back to their best. This is the right way to get along harmoniously with interpersonal relationships.
When I finished reading the chapter from poverty to poverty, the child left a message saying, Teacher, I have experienced the joy of poverty. One parent said he wanted his child to always be at 23 and have time to see the scenery.
In fact, I would like to say that there is another connotation in this book, which needs to be guided by our adults to children, that is, when you are poor and unable to change, then be content and happy instead of being satisfied with the status quo. We should be like Grandma, even if life is difficult, we must be optimistic and positive. If there is a chance to make you better, we should try to fight for once. That's why Grandma was so poor that she raised all seven of her children and had a good job.
I know there is a question, how to work hard to become a very powerful person?
A high praise answer is that if you are destined to become a powerful person, the answer to the question is deep in your blood; if you are destined not to be a powerful person, then you only need to be yourself.
As Mencius mentioned: "If you have ambition, you will add it to the people; if you don't have ambition, self-cultivation is seen in the world; if you are poor, you will be good at yourself, and if you are poor, you will be good to the world." ”
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >2 True thoughtfulness is imperceptible</h1>
To help a person is actually very simple, each of us has helped others to a greater or lesser extent, but often our help will make others have a burden, always feel that we owe us this human feeling. And we actually think the same way in our own hearts, I am enthusiastic to help you, you must not remember me well?
Since Akihiro came to Saga to school, his mother has never participated in the annual sports meeting, even if "I" take the first place every year.
Every year at the campus parent-child lunch of the Sports Day, he saw that other students were accompanied by their mothers and happily ate a rich lunch together, and every time he took the shabby meal prepared by Grandma and ran to the classroom to eat it himself.
In the first year, the homeroom teacher found Xiao Zhaoguang and exchanged the box lunch in his hand on the pretext that eating plum and sweet ginger was good for his appetite. And for the first time, he ate a sumptuous meal he had never seen before.
In the third year of the second year, the teacher would have a stomachache every time he met, and even if the homeroom teacher changed in the fourth grade, the new teacher also had a stomachache on that day.
In this way, the teacher did not embarrass Akihiro, just as Grandma said that true thoughtfulness was imperceptible.
At that time, Zhao Guang did not understand what imperceptible thoughtfulness was. Until junior high school, Kubo's classmates could not participate in the graduation trip because their mother was ill and had no money, and Akihiro called on other classmates to work together to make up enough money for the trip to give Kubo, but Kubo still did not go that day. Akihiro is very angry, everyone worked hard to earn money but you used it to buy something else, so he beat up Kubo.
Kubo said that he had no intention of attending the graduation trip in the first place, and it was at that moment that Akihiro understood what thoughtfulness was that was not detected.
Kubo did not offer help, but they went out to work without permission, forcing him to accept the money. They are not helping friends, but just to satisfy their own psychology of helping others, and to impose care on others.
This not only reminds me of what happened last year, when one of my students remarried with her due to a family change. However, life forced me to go out to work, and the children could only be left to grandma to take care of.
Every year, home visits are the same, and on that occasion I decided to take the children around each other in a group. I asked the boy if he would like to participate, and seeing her eager look I took her to the squad leader's house. When I came back, I thought that the tutoring class might not leave her food, so I bought her an egg cake. The child said she didn't want anything, and I said your mother had already given me the money, and she took it.
When I put her in the tutoring class and just entered the house, I received a thank you text message from her mother and a WeChat red envelope, which was two yuan more than the egg cake.
I'll definitely give her back the money if it's something else, isn't it just an egg pie. But I think I should be considerate of the guilt of a mother who can't be with her child, and I want to fulfill her expression of maternal love. All I can do is embrace it.
The writer Liang Xiaosheng said that the true nobility of man is: cultivation rooted in the heart; self-consciousness without reminder; freedom premised on restraint; and kindness for the sake of others.
To truly think of others is something that others cannot perceive. Instead of showing off or coercing others, to satisfy their own psychology of helping others, but to put others in a state of guilt, this is not true kindness, but condescending charity.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3 Even if two or three people hate you, there are still a hundred million people who turn around</h1>
Akihiro loves baseball, and at first he was just cheering for the cheerleaders on the field. If the voice of the running is not loud enough, it will be reprimanded by everyone. Many people couldn't stand it and left, but he persevered. In the end, he became the captain of the baseball team, and everyone was very friendly to him, even his mentally handicapped uncle received special preferential treatment.
Even so, he found that there were still people who did not like him and were criticized.
As the captain, he especially cares about what others say about him. So he said to Grandma in distress that he had done nothing, why did anyone hate him?
Grandma said, "Even if you are hated by two or three people, there are still 100 million people who turn around." People who like you may also be hated by others. Even if someone says you're good, there are still many people who hate you. Society is like that. ”
This sentence benefited the author for life, when he became a cross-talk actor, the various so-called friends around him who were flattered, denigrated behind his back, and ostensibly said that they loved you came and went, and went and went. He never suffered from gain or loss, but just be a good self and hone his talents with his heart.
There is a problem in Zhihu:
Why is the usual reaction of people when they see good photos
"It's really good, what camera are you using?"
When you see a bad photo, it is often the joke that the level of the shooter is very smelly?
One of the high-ranking zan replied:
People habitually attribute their success to themselves,
Failure is attributed to the environment; the success of others is attributed to the environment, and failure is attributed to itself.
You see, people know themselves the least, they know others best. Because people only see their own good, don't hate others. If someone says you're not good, just don't get along. Even if there are a lot of people who hate you, there are countless people who like you when you turn around. All you have to do is be yourself and live for yourself.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >4 summary</h1>
The book "Saga's Super Grandma" has sold more than 7 million copies so far, creating a miracle in the Japanese book industry. Ultimately, the reason is because of the many optimistic values revealed in the book.
It is not only suitable for children to read, but also for adults. In Grandma, we can see many educational concepts that are still at the forefront.
If our child is raised from an early age with a correct view of money, things, and friendship, then we will not worry that he will dislike his family as poorer than other classmates, and he will not be able to raise his head in school. We also don't worry that he won't be able to handle his classmate relationship well and not want to give up his life. I don't worry about feeling like I'm losing everything because of my bad grades.
Like Grandma, with positive and optimistic values, our children will become a person who knows how to respect and love, self-confidence and self-improvement, and knows how to care about the warmth of others.
I want to say to countless Xiaoqi now: Life is so long, the child you have just begun, even if you feel difficult now, the unknown future has your unexpected happiness, so your future can be expected, do not give up your right to face a better life.