Love is risky, marriage needs to be cautious, I don't know how many tragic love stories have been heard or seen, so that this sentence has become the mantra of contemporary young people, and it is ridiculed from time to time.
Long live single, but not guilty in love
When do people most want to fall in love?
When a person goes shopping and sees a couple holding hands next to him; when a person moves and bears dozens of pounds of heavy loads; when a person goes to the hospital and no one around to take care of it.
Because of loneliness, need, so at a certain moment, the impulse to fall in love suddenly arises in the heart, but rather than coveting the warmth of a certain moment, a person is free and unrestrained, which fascinates them more, unless the other party's participation is more pleasant than when he is alone.
Therefore, indirect sex wants to fall in love, continue to enjoy being single, occasionally envy couples, and occasionally rejoice that singleness has become the daily routine of contemporary single youth.
And behind such thoughts and behaviors, it may not be that they do not want to, but that they "do not dare". I don't know when people's definition of love is no longer beautiful, but hurtful, troublesome, and degrading quality of life.
In the eyes of men, girls after falling in love, like "old mothers", nagging and loving discipline, which makes him lose his freedom, so they enjoy ambiguity more than love.
For women, love is trial and error, exhausting and exhausting, adults' love loss is not like eighteen years old, no matter how sad, the next day still have to get up early to work, and now they have no ability to love someone so much.
Re-acquaintance, understanding, and running-in, this process is already very tiring even if you think about it. Because they were doomed to lose, they were too lazy to start, which became the reason why they would inertia push away even if they met.
Of course, some people have entered the world of low desire in advance because of the pressure of life and work, and they can't even see their own future, so they no longer want to hope for the future of the two. After all, the intervention of another person may make a qualitative change in their current lives. Therefore, ta are more eager to get rid of poverty than to get rid of orders.
Love is a combination of material conditions and spiritual needs, in general, perhaps they are not resisting love, but rejecting the uncontrolled mood of stress, trouble, and sorrow that comes with falling in love.
Single, ambiguous, in love, married, these are several stages in love, it is not a breakthrough, just different choices for each person in different dimensions.
The quiet years are a moment, and a place of chicken feathers is daily
"The quiet years are a moment, and the chicken feathers in a place are daily", this is a sentence said by Mr. Yang Dai, it is suitable for life and love, and more suitable for marriage.
Some people in life worsen love, naturally some people beautify love, maybe the story in the novel is too old and quiet, maybe the plot in the TV series is too ups and downs, so many people have raised love more than one degree.
However, few people seem to notice that most of the notes behind the ending are purely fictional, and very few are true adaptations.
And this has also become the reason why most people can't find a partner, compared to not meeting true love, not choosing to be, those who know that they have achieved nothing, but "the eyes are high and low", long-term trapped in the "domineering president fell in love with me" such an imaginary person, more sad, like only two or three hundred points, but firmly believe that you can go to a prestigious university.
Some things are beautiful because they rarely appear in real life, which makes people extremely yearn, how can they universally exist in the world, and how can they become precious "collectibles".
Xiao Chen's longest love period is six months, but his love experience is very rich, friends always ridicule him: say that you are the sea king, you are very serious in every relationship, say that you are not, you can withdraw at any time.
Unable to maintain a long-term intimate relationship with people is the most painful thing for Xiao Chen for more than twenty years, for love, he has always maintained a bondage, that is, the idea of division, and then his emotional experience has been in a state of constant talk and division.
At the age of thirty, he looked at the list of married friends, confused for a long time, not long ago when friends got married, he also sincerely asked: Do you say that I am particularly unsuitable for love?
The friend smiled and did not answer his question positively, but said: I have been talking to my wife for nearly five years, I don't know how many fights I have quarreled, how many breakups have been mentioned, listening to you say this, compared with your five years of love, I think I am still much happier.
Freedom in love is based on certain standards and conditions, and perhaps for most people, what they want is "just right" love, comfortable, comfortable, like friends and family, no worries, no constraints, but when needed, the other party is there, in essence, this kind of thinking and the call to come and go, there is no difference.
Imaginary love is too beautiful to make reality too bad. In love, rather than the result, we should pay more attention to the process, and if you want to get it, you must first deliver it.
Live well and meet slowly
There is a saying that goes like this: Love is a long stream of water, and it is a long time after the joy of first sight. At a time when some people dare not even try love again, some people linger in various opposite sexes and experience "different" feelings.
In the fast-paced era, even love has been catalyzed, and they classify a momentary moment of seeing as love at first sight, and call a moment's heartbeat love, these people seem to have a "easy to fall in love" physique, and can be "bought" by others with extremely low love.
The development of the network has allowed too many people to see the love of others, and slowly some people envy, some people contrast, some people are unwilling, and the increase in negative emotions makes love become a high and low comparison like movie ratings.
The common result of these two is that love comes and goes quickly.
Love that does not stand the test is not enough love, and even more is not love. The bitterness and sweetness of love can only be known by careful tasting. For the "easy to fall in love" system and people who always flaunt themselves with the love of others, what they need is to suppress themselves with absolute reason, and what is suppressed here is not their own love, but those ideas that do not conform to reality.
And for those who dare not try to fall in love again, what needs to be known is that every encounter has its meaning, trial and error, trial and error, only try to know that it is wrong, the flowers in the greenhouse can not withstand the outside cold, and it is better to make mistakes when in love than after marriage.
Young people do not want to fall in love is actually a false proposition, after all, most people will not say their true thoughts, external factors affect too much, they have enough capital is one thing, there is no "fate" to meet true love is another thing, passive does not mean to give up, but the initiative to fight for must be to increase the possibility of success.
Breaking up is the norm in life, and no one will be an exception. No one has been with you, but there has always been someone to accompany you, a good life is the foundation of your own happiness, of course, it is good to be loved, no matter.
Slowly meet, day by day to see people's hearts, rather lack of love, do not stop.