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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > introduction</h1>
Menken said: "Marriage is like a cage, the birds outside the cage desperately want to go in, and the birds inside the cage desperately want to come out." "
When we get married, we will have children, women will be out of shape, men will begin to be blessed, and our lives will be surrounded by countless trifles.
When a woman lives in such an breathless life for a long time, and no one comes to help her and pull her along, then she is likely to fall into depression because of it.
The film "Tully" is a comedy film directed by us, which tells the story of Marlowe, a mother of three, who suffers from postpartum depression and redeems herself. Let's take a look at how Marlowe was forced to the brink of collapse by life after marriage, and how she saved herself.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >, a tired family that left Marlowe with postpartum depression</h1>
Worrying children, heavy housework, and a macho husband left Marlowe, a weary housewife, suffering from postpartum depression.
Marlowe is 40 years old and a veritable housewife. In her daily life, she had to do laundry, cooking, cleaning and other chores, as well as transporting her daughter and son to and from school, but her son was dissuaded from school because of anxiety.
In addition, marlowe, who had just given birth to her third child, needed to get up in the middle of the night to feed her baby, change diapers, and be exhausted by the child after giving birth. Marlowe's husband, on the other hand, is a typical machismo, who doesn't ask about all the trivial matters at home, and only cares about playing games after work, and doesn't help Marlowe share a little housework.
In this way, Marlowe was so exhausted by this somewhat suffocating life that she was about to fall in love, and she hovered on the verge of collapse.
The image of the heroine Marlowe in the movie is actually the real appearance of many housewives in our lives. After giving birth, they became obese and bloated, and in order to take care of the children, they had to give up their jobs and become housewives, dealing with various household chores in the family. And sometimes, they also face their husbands' incomprehension, and even scolding.
Women who have just given birth are actually very susceptible to postpartum depression, and in such a tired, busy, and bad family environment for a long time, women are more likely to suffer from depression.
So, what are the causes of postpartum depression in women after childbirth?
1. Changes in hormones in the body during pregnancy and childbirth
During pregnancy and childbirth, women's hormones in their bodies change greatly, causing women to become sensitive and their emotions are often varied.
Within 24 hours of giving birth, the hormones in their bodies will change more rapidly, and if they continue to increase suddenly and then suddenly decrease, they will make the mother's mood fall into a low mood, which is also the root cause of postpartum depression in women.
2. Family inheritance
We all know that genes can be inherited.
Therefore, when someone in the family has a history of psychiatric disease or depression, then she is likely to have the gene for this disease, and the possibility of depression after childbirth is very large.
3. The impact of the family and social environment
After giving birth, the mother's own emotions will fluctuate. Mothers will often lead to physical fatigue and lack of sleep due to the care of the baby, and the whole person's mood will begin to decline.
If at this time, the family does not give her support, share for her, let her relax a little; coupled with the increasing pressure of life facing the family today, the mother is likely to suffer from postpartum depression.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2. What are the symptoms of women suffering from postpartum depression?</h1>
1. Depressed mood
When pregnant women suffer from depression, they often fall into endless depression, often have no interest in some things, and their temper will become irritable, often because of a small matter.
In addition, the mother will often feel empty and lonely, feeling that others have no way to understand themselves, no way to communicate with her, and their mood will feel depressed.
2. Self-evaluation is reduced
Women with postpartum depression, when the child has a little problem, there will be too much worry and anxiety, but also doubt their own ability, fall into the mood of self-blame, and even give up on themselves.
3. Lose confidence in life
Women with depression will gradually lose confidence in life in negative emotions, feel that life has no meaning, and their enthusiasm for things will decrease, and they do not like to take the initiative to do something. At night, people with depression also often suffer from insomnia and sluggishness during the day.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, how should postpartum women redeem themselves</h1>
1. Marlowe's self-redemption
After Marlowe was on the brink of collapse, she finally couldn't bear it, so she accepted her brother's advice and hired a night nanny, Tully.
Tully is a youthful and beautiful, gentle and patient beauty. After Tully arrived, Marlowe began to sleep peacefully at night, and the originally chaotic home became very clean and tidy.
In addition to helping Marlowe with the children, Tully also went shopping with Marlowe, chatted together, and helped her put on makeup, and Marlowe's original bad and broken mentality gradually changed from yin to sunny, and her son also transferred to a school that was more suitable for him.
However, one night, while Tully and Marlowe were drinking at a bar, Tully suddenly offered to resign, and Marlowe was in a state of grief and resignation due to Tully's resignation, and was also in a car accident while driving because of drunk driving.
At the end of the film, Marlowe's husband begins to learn to share the housework for his wife, and her originally autistic son will also take the initiative to hug her, and her life becomes beautiful and smooth.
In fact, Tully has always been a fictional character of the heroine Marlowe after her depression, because she longs for that kind of life. Teetering on the brink of collapse, Marlowe chose this way to get herself back to life and get rid of depression.
In life, many of us will actually be as negative and depressed as Marlowe was at the beginning, but we must learn to take care of ourselves, pay attention to ourselves, prevent ourselves from being pulled into the devil's hole of depression, and believe that only when we live happily, the whole family will be happy.
2. How to carry out self-redemption
1) Adjust your mindset and relax yourself
After young mothers have children, their values will change a little, and they see their children as the most important part of themselves. Mothers, on the other hand, are in a hurry when taking care of their children because they are unfamiliar, and they will also fall into a panic and nervous mood because of their children's crying.
At this time, young mothers should try to adjust their mentality, accept all this calmly, and let everything develop naturally; mothers can also relax their mood and get rid of negative emotions by doing something they are interested in or watching some humorous passages.
2) Get enough sleep
In the process of caring for children, mothers often have a situation of lack of sleep leading to physical and mental fatigue. Therefore, mothers must learn to grasp and create various conditions for themselves to have enough sleep. For example: when the child falls asleep, the mother can sleep with the baby, raise their own spirit, you know, only if you rest well, you have enough energy to better take care of the baby.
3) Communicate with others
If the mother closes herself and the child in a space for a long time, it will make the mother's emotions more sensitive and low.
At this time, mothers should often go outside for a walk to let themselves breathe more fresh air outside; they can also ask friends to go to leisure places such as cafes to talk to their friends about their hearts or some troubles and release their emotions.
Stendhal said: "Asking anyone for advice and recounting their sufferings will be a kind of happiness that can be compared to the happiness of the unfortunate person who crosses the hot desert and receives a drop of cold water from heaven." "
When we talk to others, our emotions will be released, and the original feeling of uneasiness and tension will be reduced a lot, so when you face the depression of life, you may wish to find friends to talk to or seek some help from them.
4) Proper exercise
According to scientific research, proper exercise and maintaining a pleasant mood can promote the synthesis of andethovenin in the body and can prevent the occurrence of depression.
Moreover, proper exercise can help you regain your figure, divert your attention, and also help release bad emotions and stress to reinvigorate yourself.
So, when you are in trouble or emotionally inappropriate, you may wish to exercise appropriately.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
Master Pure Dust said, "Life, no rush, no crowding." Life should not be arranged too full, and life should not be designed to be too crowded. Whatever you do, give yourself some space so you can turn around. "
Although after marriage, we will face the birth of children, face a lot of trivial things, and life will become more complicated and stressful. Especially for postpartum women, changes in postpartum hormones and the rush to take care of children can easily make women feel depressed. No matter what, we have to find a little space of our own in this busyness, let ourselves breathe, and take care of ourselves.
As the saying goes: "Never embarrass yourself, such as not eating, crying, autism, depression, these are all things that fools do!"
Therefore, we must be a smart person, and only by taking care of ourselves can we have more energy to take care of the family.
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