American psychologist Philip Zimbardo described in detail a 1971 simulation of a psychological experiment he did in his book The Lucifer Effect: How Good People Become Demons
The experiment was attended by 24 young people who were physically and mentally healthy, emotionally stable and law-abiding, and most of those who participated in the experiment received generous bonuses and rewards
To make the situation more realistic
The basement of a teaching building at Stanford University was transformed into a real prison, and guards began to exercise their management duties, torturing and humiliating prisoners who dared to challenge their authority
Prisoners gradually develop a very similar reaction to those of first-time prisoners in real prisons, who gradually become obedient and gradually identify with their own inmate identity;
When the time for the prisoner's reception arrives, the prisoner timidly asks the guard, "Can we begin?" The conversation will only begin after receiving a positive answer; even Professor Zimbardo himself has fallen into the trap of his own "warden" using his authority to do evil.
This experiment tells us that good people can become bad people and evil people in a certain environment, and evil people will not become good people even if they don't have that evil environment. Even if they apologize for their evil deeds, they are forced to do so
There is no boundary line between good guys and bad guys, and the only thing you can believe in as a human being is yourself
If you can't think independently, you can easily be captured or used by the people around you, after all, the people around you are the most familiar with and understand you, they know how to do evil from you, or know how to get something from you
In 2001, German director Oliver Seesberg filmed the film Death Experiment, based on the Stanford Prison Experiment, in which each participant had a different identity but equal status.
In the beginning, everyone can get along peacefully, but with the change of identity, the deepening of roles, and the conflict of ranks, everyone begins to have contradictions. Once it was found that someone had violated their own interests, everyone began to fight and fight.
Human nature is originally fickle, psychology can show you the restoration of the psychological contradictions that human nature cannot understand, but he cannot control the changes of human nature in different environments and the out-of-line actions made. No one can control a person's behavior and thoughts
In 2010, American director Paul Shuerling filmed the movie "Renegade" from the perspective of jailers and prisoners, which details the conflicts, concessions, exploitation and suppression of others between prison guards and criminals in order to seek their own interests and dignity.
The film once again tells us: Don't try to test human nature, the result of the temptation is not good for one corpse and two lives. Nor should we use the so-called morality to kidnap human nature, and we must use laws, regulations, and policies to avoid the evil of human nature.
The good and evil that people show in different scenes are not the same
Each of us has a different attitude in different positions, different classes, and his attitude is different
The Lucifer effect tells us once again that people who once had a good relationship with us, once our status with them has changed, or the economic gap, and the class differences have changed
The tone of our conversation, the gesture, and the other person's attitude toward you will also change. Even if the other person behaves very modestly, you will still feel the superiority of the other party.
Why don't you say that the circle that is not suitable for you should not be strong?
Because the people in those circles are not on the same starting line as you, you force yourself to join, and all you get is the use, suppression, and humiliation of the other party.
You should never try to be a popular person, and the degree of popularity and respect that people have for you stems from the fact that you are valuable and useful to them. Once they find out that you're not worth high enough, they'll slowly alienate you.
Both men and women must be proficient in human nature in order to live a good life
The essence of human nature is evil, and this evil is only wrapped in the so-called identity of people, without fully discovering their evil nature.
Once the evil of human nature spreads, you don't know what the other person will make of you.
Each of us tries to be a good person when we are young, always trying our best to get the likes, respect, and love of others.
Later, you find that those who are really liked, respected, and loved by others are actually valuable to others.
When I was a child, I also tried to integrate into a so-called big circle, because the friends in that circle had already included all the children in our entire company
If I don't go into that circle and make friends with them, I will become an isolated child, and the world of children is also exclusive.
You must not only be good enough, but also likable enough, otherwise someone will do bad things to you. At the same time, you don't know why you are inexplicably hated by people, and do those who so-called hate you really hate you?
In fact, no, they are more afraid of authority, circles, the reason why they don't play with you, is that many people don't play with you, they play with you is to turn their backs on the will of most people, they are afraid of getting into trouble, so they also block you out
French social psychologist Gustav Le Pen said in "The Ragged Crowd: A Study of Mass Psychology": "As soon as people arrive in the group, their IQ is seriously reduced, and in order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong, and use IQ in exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe." ”
Sometimes we hold a certain opinion or idea, not because the idea itself is correct, but because the number of people who hold this idea is large. Because we are afraid of offending those who are more authoritative, we follow the crowd!
When I understand that the so-called people who hate you, or the children who don't play with you, are crowding out you, or because their so-called "bosses" are not used to you, they will bully you.
Eventually I learned to play with myself and be a loner. Because the more friends you make, the more dangerous you are.
Whether it is the so-called gang or the so-called circle of friends, if you don't get it right, there will be a group of unscrupulous people who will set you up, and in the end you don't know how to offend them, or be cheated by them.
To know that the final result of the group effect is not a group crime, or to find a person with a back pot to top the bag. You can guarantee that your companions will not betray you, or you can guarantee that the people you know best will not harm you
Keeping a distance from people is the greatest sense of security in life
Mr. Lu Xun once famously said in "Silent China": "Chinese temperament always likes to be harmonious and eclectic."
For example, you said that this room is too dark, and you say that opening a skylight here must not be allowed. But if you advocate tearing down the roof, they will come to reconcile and be willing to open the skylight. ”
The demolition effect is named after this. This effect implies a psychological dynamic game between the two sides. When you put forward an unreasonable high demand, the other party will weigh the pros and cons, adjust their own plan for your requirements, and make the worst plan.
Then you make a more reasonable request, and the other party may feel guilty for rejecting your first request, so as to give in and try to meet your request.
Don't be afraid and don't panic when you encounter things, believe that you have the confidence and chips to negotiate, the core is to find the person who helps you, to be good at solving problems, of course, you should not trust others to help you, and it is not easy to figure out which people who help you will become your people under the temptation of each other's interests.
Don't pin your hopes on others, and deal with your own affairs. Even those who want to help you are looking at whether you are worth helping or not, and how much confidence and ability you have to let them help you.
Human nature is very complicated, do not easily believe anyone, even if the old friends who have known each other for many years are also testing each other, exchanging each other's secrets, seeing each other's value, and then choosing whether to continue to be friends
In life, you can only solve and deal with your relationships, marital problems, and your relationship with your children if you believe in yourself unconditionally and believe that you can live your life by relying on your own abilities.
Never try to control and brainwash others, to know human nature, it is really difficult for you to distinguish between right and wrong, as long as people will consider their own interests, that is the way of human nature and love themselves.
Never try to sacrifice one's own interests to complete others, that kind of sacrifice is also through various ideological games, and in the sacrifice to get more praise
Never try to change a person's nature, because everyone is born, seen, and experienced differently, and they show different tensions and attitudes when dealing with affairs
Never try to criticize others in a preachy or morally kidnapped way, at first glance it is a pale expression of the weak, and the real strong is to solve the problem and let the other party know that you are not a bully
Only if you are stronger than the other party and make the other party afraid, the other party will not blatantly engage you
The reason why some people are not afraid of you, or think that you are easy to deal with, because your words and deeds tell him that you are a good bully
Don't trust anyone, the only person you can trust is yourself.
The opinions and suggestions given to you by others can be accepted or absorbed, please take your independent route, although it is not easy to go all the way, but you do not go out of your independent and self-responsibility road, your life will be more difficult. After all, the ultimate relationship between people is an equivalent exchange
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