A woman's tragic fate has ruined two generations, and people who have heard her life experience will have a kind of gritted teeth hatred, but when they see her daughter who is "abandoned" by her, they feel that she is a little indifferent.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="77" > a woman who suffers</h1>
When Zhang Lan (pseudonym) was abducted and sold by human traffickers to a remote rural area when she was young, a man bought her for 120 yuan, and the two of them married and had children.
At first, her husband was very fierce to her, did not allow her to speak, and was not allowed to cry when she was beaten, but when the first child was born and saw that it was a daughter, the husband's attitude became even more intense, and he began to punch and kick her.
At that time, the beating was too serious, 37 years later, the scars are still there, and when I dream back in the middle of the night, I will dream of a man chasing himself with a kitchen knife, and he still can't forget the scene.
Later, when she became pregnant again, her husband not only did not change his attitude toward her, but also threatened her, "If you have another daughter, I will beat you to death." ”
However, this sentence made her decide to escape the plan, she could no longer stand her husband's domestic violence, could not bear the mental torture brought to her by her husband, and wanted to escape from this "magic cave".
Three months pregnant, she left her daughter and fled, when she did not dare to give birth to a child, "If I have another daughter, my life will be gone." ”
After Zhang Lan escaped from her husband's house, she returned to her mother's house, originally wanting to get the protection of her mother's family, but what she got was a complaint and accusation from her family, even if there were three or four sisters in the family, no one was willing to accept this poor woman.
At this time, Zhang Lan fortunately met an old couple, they decided to take her back to her hometown thousands of miles away, Zhang Lan did not want to stay at home and followed the old couple.
However, after the birth of their son, the old couple actually took the boy's idea and took the child out to prepare to sell, and then just did not negotiate the price, and then hugged back.
Zhang Lan ran away again with her son in her arms, until she met her current husband, and then she lived a stable life, and the two of them raised their son (Wang Zhi) together.
However, after Wang Zhi heard about his own origins, he wanted to meet his sister and see what his biological father looked like.
He began to discuss the matter with his mother, who was extremely opposed, unwilling to mention the man who had caused her pain, to think back to the past.
But she still misses her daughter, if she has the opportunity, she is still willing to meet her daughter, want to know how her daughter is doing, and recognize herself, her daughter is her own lifelong knot, after a struggle, she agreed to find her daughter.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="75" > only want to look at it, never contact</h1>
Wang Zhi, with the help of volunteers who returned home from the baby, found his father, Liu Feng (pseudonym), an old man in his 60s through the "Search for Love" column.
When Liu Feng learned that he also had a son, the joy on his face could not be hidden, and he specially set off a firecracker at the door of his home to celebrate his son's return home.
But Wang Zhi didn't feel happy, he just wanted to look at his father, didn't want to have too much communication, just look at it, the focus was on finding his sister.
When the mediator asked whether he regretted using violence against Zhang Lan, the old man replied very crisply, "What is the use of regret, I did not beat her, I loved her in every way, usually reluctant to let her work in the field, I am working outside by myself, letting her watch the children at home." ”
"After she left, she also looked for several months, but she didn't find it."
Liu Feng always denied his domestic violence against Zhang Lan, he believed that he had rescued her from the hands of human traffickers, and he loved her in every way, but she did not cherish it and ran away.
Wang Zhi asked Liu Feng where his sister Liu Na was. Liu Feng's face showed an embarrassed color, a look of wanting to talk and stopping, and he couldn't help but make people giggle in their hearts. Could it be that her sister Liu Na had an accident?
After repeated questioning, I learned that Liu Na had already married 14 years ago, after Zhang Lan left, Liu Na lived with her grandmother, and then when her grandmother died, she lived with her father, and later after she married, there was a bit of a mental problem.
Now it has reached a serious point, often a person is laughing, talking to himself, a person is nagging there, Liu Feng has repeatedly advised his daughter to go to the hospital to see, stubborn Liu Na is not willing to go.
In the end, I went there once with the help of the police.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="73" > daughter's situation, which is heartbreaking</h1>
Wang Zhi told his mother about his sister's situation, Zhang Lan wanted to see this daughter, when she came to her daughter's house, what was waiting for her was not the joy of the reunion, but the indifference.
Liu Na was immersed in her own world, doing her own thing, and for the mother who entered the house, she did not look at it, nor did she take care of it, and she took care of herself to dry the children's clothes.
She has two children, the eldest daughter is in junior high school, the youngest son is only three years old, and the family is very poor.
Her husband has been working outside the home for many years, she lives with her in-laws, according to her mother-in-law, she can help the family do things in the first few years when she first entered the door, and now her brain is not clear and she can't do things.
Many times in life now need the care of in-laws and in-laws, but when they are older, they also hope that their daughters-in-law will get better quickly and earn money to give their grandchildren and granddaughters a good life.
When the mediator asked if she remembered her mother, Liu's answer brought tears to her eyes.
"What's the use of thinking about it, thinking about my mother and not being able to find my mother"
"When I was more than 2 years old, I couldn't remember anything, and my dad wouldn't tell me."
From Liu Na's neighbor, she learned that she did not graduate from primary school and was locked up at home by her father all day. She was locked up at home since she was a child, had few friends, and as she grew older, she didn't like to go out.
As for how life was like in her husband's family, outsiders don't know, only that her mental state before she got married was still very good, but in recent years, she has begun to be confused.
But the villagers said that Liu Feng loved his daughter and was unwilling to let her go out, afraid that her daughter would be lost, and her daughter would not let her work in the field when she was spoiled and grew up.
When Zhang Lan heard that her daughter was trapped at home and did not go to school, she said a sentence that "I guess that's it."
When she met her daughter and knew her tragic fate, she did not shed tears, perhaps the pain of that year could not let her go.
Seeing her daughter's appearance, she could imagine that she had not escaped and was living such a life.
However, she ran away, and her daughter bore it for her.
So if he doesn't run, will his son change the fate of the family after he is born?
Would running with your daughter change this fate?
If everything were if, if there had never been so many tragedies in the world.
In the end, wang zhi and Zhang Lan both hoped to help Liu Na as much as possible, to help her two children, so Zhang Lan once again stepped into the village she did not want to face. Meet liu feng and tell you to take good care of Liu Na.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="57" > the harm of domestic violence</h1>
Domestic violence not only hurts the relationship between husband and wife, but also hurts their children, who will live in the shadow of parental quarrels, and their personalities will begin to become weird, paranoid, insecure inside, and lack of trust in other people.
Especially when she lacks maternal love from childhood and has been controlled by her father for a long time, although a child who grows up gets full of fatherly love and is pampered from an early age, but when she goes to society and becomes a family, her mental condition will have some problems.
Don't know how to communicate with others, always live only in their own world, self-centered, don't care about others, don't care about anyone, are afraid to talk to others, like to be alone.
Liu Na lacked her mother's love since she was a child, and she was wrapped in her father's deformed love, and it was inevitable that there would be shadows and traumas in her heart.
Every day by the father "tied" around, do not let her go out, do not let her make friends, even the opportunity to learn has been deprived, after growing up, the family has no ability to survive, by the external force of verbal ridicule, a long time, it is inevitable that there will be no psychological pressure, mental collapse.
In "Why Home Hurts People", there is a sentence that the source of mental and psychological problems lies in the extremely bad relationship between mother and baby, and the important feelings of infancy cannot be seen by the mother and cannot be confirmed.
Zhang Lan left from liu na more than 2 years old, in her memory there is no mother, only father and grandmother, she does not understand what maternal love is, even if she is a mother, the child is also brought by the in-laws.
And she is still immersed in her own world, mechanically doing housework, washing clothes, and doing some farm work within her ability. Her three-year-old son more often revolves around his grandmother, which is a luxury for maternal love.
Therefore, the damage caused to children by family discord is indelible, not only hurting the feelings of one generation, if it is not resolved well, two or three generations will be affected.