Companionship is the longest confession of affection. I think this sentence applies not only to lovers, but also to children. In the most precious time of his growth, these two words should be the best gifts. Unfortunately, many children have only seen it in the hands of other children.
I had a very good tablemate in elementary school, and I was under the impression that she was smiling and lively, well-behaved and kind. If nothing else, she would be a popular girl. But when I met her again in middle school, my assumptions just became for granted. At the age of thirteen or fourteen, she drank, skipped school, and put on a lot of makeup on her face. If I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, it would have been hard for me to imagine what a teenager should look like.
The story behind these changes is: her parents divorced, and she lived with her busy mother. In that broken home, there was not too much care, no too much warmth. She was like a weed that had no one to rely on, growing wildly on a barren ground. Where the future is, she should not know.
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What is it like to get used to life without another person and that person suddenly returns to your life? My table mates didn't give me answers. In the drama "Great Time", Yuan Hao, played by Hu Ge, answered for her.
In the face of his mother, whom he had not seen for many years, his first reaction was not to be happy, not to accept, but to carry resistance and a part of resentment. This emotion was like a wave, beating wave after wave on the most sensitive embankment hidden in the depths of Yuan Hao's heart. He doesn't accept her gifts or the good she wants to make up for him. Although this intensity was gradually dissolved as the plot progressed, I could still feel Yuan Hao's far-fetched acceptance of her mother, and the deep barrier that was always placed in their hearts.
After all, some spiritual wounds do not heal because of people and time. This is true for Yuan Hao in "Good Times", and it is also true for Shuji Terayama, who likes to create movies.
According to his autobiography, he always had a speeding train going back and forth throughout his life. Drifting and foster care from an early age and the emotional indifference between him and his parents from an early age have created the luxury of love. For him, the memory of being with his mother was vague, as vague as many dreams that could not be remembered. The only profound thing was that every time he was separated from his mother in front of the station, she told him she was going to go further and earn him more money. He habitually accepted this fact. Then they turned to each other and walked through different doors.
Years later, when he lived with his mother again, the word home left him with only a burden. Faced with something he had never really owned, his mother, and the experience of being abandoned again and again in his childhood, only one word flashed through his mind—ruin
On the topic of parent-child, Yan Rujing, who said that Qibao said, said a paragraph: The life of a child is not like a TV series. You don't watch TV dramas, you can make up for it, and once you miss the child's life, you can't watch it if you want to. So, just as we don't want to miss beautiful scenery when we travel, we also don't want to miss the most precious stage in a child's life. Don't wait for the day when someone says to us: You missed my best time.