Author: Insight Allergy
Look for bright spots in the chaos and embrace the light through the bright spots.
01
Let's start with a diagram.
If asked what you saw, what was your first reaction?
A black spot?
In fact, this is a question that UN Secretary-General Annan was asked when he was a child.
He and all the students in the class replied, "I saw the black dots." ”
The teacher shook his head: "The black dot is such a small piece, there are so many white areas around, why don't you see it?" ”
02
Let's look at another classroom.
A teacher wrote four questions on the blackboard:
2+2=4；
4+4=8；
8+8=16；
9+9=19。
The students looked at it and said, "Teacher, you miscalculated." ”
The teacher looked up unhurriedly and said:
"Yes, you see it very clearly.
I miscalculated this question, but the first three are all correct, why doesn't anyone see it, only staring at the one I miscalculated? ”
03
Why tell the above two short stories?
Because human nature has one weakness:
Focus more on where something went wrong than where there are bright spots.
It's like a small black dot on a white piece of paper, and white obviously occupies most of it, but most people only see that little black dot.
Just like students turn a blind eye to the questions that the teacher has done correctly, they pay more attention to the teacher's wrong questions.
This is man's habitual thinking.
It is precisely because of this inertial thinking that it is difficult for us to see that there are still bright spots hidden under the surface.
And the people who can learn to change with the trend and find bright spots in a chaotic situation are amazing people.
04
Once, the writer Lin Qingxuan passed by a lamb stove shop and was suddenly stopped by the owner: "Mr. Lin must not remember me." ”
Lin Qingxuan said awkwardly, "I'm sorry, I really can't remember where I saw you." ”
At this time, the shop owner talked about the scene when they met 20 years ago.
At that time, Lin Qingxuan worked as a reporter in a newspaper, ran social news, and found that there was a thief, and the modus operandi was very delicate.
After the thief was caught, the police took out a stack of photos of the theft and identified him, and several of them he looked at and said, "This is what I did, this is my style." ”
Some of the rooms were turned over in messy pictures, and he took a look at them and said, "That's not what I did, my technique wasn't so thick." ”
So Lin Qingxuan went back to write a special article and couldn't help but sigh:
"A thief with such a meticulous mind, such a dexterous technique, and such a prominent style, and such a Sven and courageous, if you don't be a thief, you will have success in any line!"
The thief was the owner of the donkey meat shop.
He sincerely said to Lin Qingxuan:
"The feature article written by Mr. Lin broke my blind spot, and I thought: Why didn't I think of doing anything legitimate except to be a thief?
After squatting in prison for a few years, I came out to open a shop, and now there are several branches, Mr. Lin, which day to invite me to eat lamb! ”
Afterwards, Lin Qingxuan was very touched and said that he did not expect that a report written unintentionally twenty years ago would actually make a young man go to the light.
05
Most people's attitude towards thieves is scornful, but Lin Qingxuan saw the boldness of thieves.
That's the highlight thinking.
Self-media author @ Singularity said: "Bright spot thinking is to find bright spots in chaos and embrace the light through bright spots." ”
Really powerful people know how to find bright spots first.
For example, if you are a parent, you see your child's test scores: three excellent, two good, and one passing.
What would be your reaction?
At this time, most parents will blurt out: "How did this course test so poorly?" Did you desert in class? ”
But few parents praised their children for their excellent three homework and asked him how he had done so well in these subjects.
Bacon once said, "There is a sunrise in the heart of the admirer, and a desolation in the heart of the indifferent." ”
People with "bright minds" can find shining spots in anyone.
06
You may have heard this story of Tao Xingzhi.
Once, when Tao Xingzhi saw two children fighting at school, he immediately stepped forward to stop it, and then told the beaten child that he would wait for him in the office after school.
After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the office and saw the child standing there trembling.
At this time, he took a piece of candy from his pocket and handed it to the child, saying, "This is the reward for you, because you arrived on time and were very punctual." ”
Before the child could put the candy in his pocket, Tao Xingzhi handed the second candy to the child and said:
"This is also a reward for you, because when I don't let you hit someone, you immediately stop, which shows that you know how to respect the master."
Then, Tao Xingzhi took out another piece of sugar and said:
"I just investigated, you beat him because he bullied his female classmates, you saw the uneven road and drew a knife to help, this is called seeing righteousness and courage, and it is also worthy of praise."
The child was confused after taking the candy, was it right to play today?
Tao Xingzhi then said, "I ask you, was there any better way than to beat him at that time?" ”
The child said, "I could have done it without beating him, just pull them away, it's not right for me, and I won't be so impulsive again." ”
Tao Xingzhi smiled satisfactorily and took out the last piece of sugar:
"You can correctly recognize your mistakes, very good, I will reward you with another one, people are not sages, who can be blameless, know that mistakes can be corrected, and good is great."
Although the child has a fight, he is not without merit in him.
Therefore, Tao Xingzhi was still looking for the advantages of this child when he knew that he had hit someone, and finally followed the good temptations and made the children realize their mistakes.
In the book "Behavioral Design: Zero-Cost Change", it is said: "Bright thinking can help us improve problems." ”
Whether it is in life or work, get along with people, don't always stare at the fault of others.
Knowing how to appreciate the merits of others shows that you are a person with light in your heart.
07
Someone once asked: "What causes the gap between people?" ”
One of the answers of Gao Zan is: "The way of thinking is different." ”
A person's way of thinking is related to the pattern of his behavior and the end of his life.
There is a paper mill in Germany, in the process of producing paper, there was a little accident - forgot to add paste, the paper made is too watery to use, according to the regulations can only be scrapped, bringing irreparable losses to the company.
The director was very annoyed.
Just when everyone was expressing regret, one employee thought to himself: "Is it only possible to watch these papers scrapped like this?" Can we find a way to use this batch of waste? ”
The employee thought about it repeatedly, and he had an idea: since this paper is easy to seep water, it is better to change it to absorbent paper.
As a result, the company produced a new product and sold well.
The rest of the company's employees, only thinking that the paper was scrapped, was very sad, and their attention was all on the water that would seep out of the paper, but none of them thought about changing the use of the paper.
This is to fall into a fixed mindset, they can only see failure, can not see that there are opportunities hidden in failure.
I am reminded of a sentence said by Liu Run:
"Mediocre people change outcomes, good people change causes, and people at the top change their thinking."
Don't rush to say "impossible" beforehand, try to think about "how to find the bright spot and make it possible".
The difference between a master and an ordinary person is not the ability, but whether he has a bright thinking.
People with bright thinking, there is no eternal dilemma.
They are good at getting out of the current predicament and seeing the bright side of things.
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Wang Wei, the founder of SF, once said:
"A person's success once may be accidental, but if it can be successful for a long time, it must have its own uniqueness, and it may be different from others in thinking and behavior."
When you are in deep trouble, you may wish to try to use the "bright spot thinking" way to see the problem.
Everything is good at finding advantages from shortcomings, and at the same time, it can turn disadvantages into advantages and turn disadvantages into advantages.
In the end, all problems will become opportunities.
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