Death education is not only teaching about the problems of death and near-death, but more importantly how to add meaning to the process of life.
Taboos and avoidances of death can only prevent us from knowing the truth of life.
The more we know about death, the more positive our view of life becomes, and we are able to create and unify the meaning of life.
Our culture is always shy about talking about death.
Death is taboo, taboo topic.
It seems that they are eager to say that they want to be yuck, to divert the obscurity brought about by this topic.
Don't say, don't say.
However, death is like the flow of the four seasons, and life, old age, illness and death are the most natural things.
It's as if from the day we were born, we knew that one day we were destined to die.
It doesn't happen because of our avoidance, or face it.
This kind of avoidance makes many people unprepared for this, how to face the test of death.
Because of the lack of understanding, there is also a lack of thinking and experience on how to send off relatives with respect and care, and let them leave with dignity.
And now online games make children feel that they will not die.
Children who lack "death education" are ignorant and curious
According to statistics, about 50 million people die every year, which translates to 1.8 deaths every 1 second.
That is, when you read the above sentence, more than a dozen people have left this world.
Death is happening every day, and China's "death education" is still in a blank period.
In our years of education, the average person lacks instruction on how to look at the end of life, how to face death, the inevitability of life, old age, illness, and death, and how to walk the last stage of life?
It's a challenge that everyone has to face.
What exactly is "dying"?
What is the state of life in the final stages?
What changes occur in a person's body as they approach death?
What's going on in your heart?
What do you need?
What should we do and what should we not do?
What can be done to give life a comfortable, peaceful and even beautiful end?
At the same time, reflect
When we are on the controllable path of life
What can be done to give our lives a comfortable, complete, regret-free and valuable existence?
There are so many secrets in this world that exist to wait for someone to open them one by one.
However, there are also secret secrets, that is, things that we can call mysteries, which are doomed to have no answers from the day the world is born, such as death...
For death, while we are still alive, we will always be bystanders.
Montessori said:
"Death education is a part of life education, and only by correctly understanding death can we better understand the meaning of life, respect life more, and love life."
Everyone will leave this world.
No organism could have avoided this outcome.
Therefore, in the face of the imminent end of the organism in the phenomenal layer, we need to have a reasonable attitude so that we can have a more complete, more dignified, more joyful period of time.
People in the world can be seen as painful or happy.
A lot depends on the person's mindset.
It is important to create a mindset full of positive energy.
The Lion King Mufasa said to Simba:
"You have to find your place in the cycle of life
Remember who you are, you are My Son and the only true King. ”
Dad told him that everything in the world is in a delicate balance.
Don't we eat antelopes?
Yeah, I'll explain it to you.
When we die, we must become grass, and antelopes eat grass.
So, in this circle of life, they are all interrelated.
Gu Jin, chief physician of Peking University Cancer Hospital, proposed:
Many patients with advanced cancer suffer from pain, but family members often refuse palliative treatment, for fear of considering filial piety.
At the same time, suicides among young people in society often occur, and we have a certain lack of respect for life-related education, he suggested that death education should be carried out from primary and secondary school students to let people learn to respect life and respect death.
That is, when you read the above sentence, dozens of people have left this world.
Death, every day, is happening really.
In the last days of many people, patients often have to passively accept such "treatment": First, overtreatment.
Some patients are still receiving traumatic treatment even into their last breath.
The other extreme is inadequate treatment, that is, the pain and discomfort suffered by the patient until death is not fully relieved.
Hearing is the last feeling to disappear, so words that you don't want the patient to hear should not be spoken casually even at the end.
In general, normal grief has three stages.
They are, grief responses, ritual mourning, and prolonged grief.
The first stage of sad reactions, there are probably several kinds: sadness, anger, guilt and self-blame, anxiety, loneliness, helplessness, fright, bitter thoughts, relief, numbness.
In fact, whether it is the death of a loved one or the loss of something very important, people will face the above emotions. And it is alternately randomly played, and it can torture people to death without any regularity.
At this time, mankind throughout the ages has exerted its ingenuity. When the emotional response is intense, the processing of grief needs to move on to the second stage, ritual mourning.
The most common ritual mourning is funerals, which can confirm the departure of loved ones and express accumulated emotions through countless metaphorical rituals.
And many people do not carry out the process of grief very well, and there are generally several situations.
The first is not to perform ritual mourning, the second is to not complete an effective process of grief, and the third is to fail to establish new relationships with others if the separation is permanent.
After the above three situations occur, grief will become psychological trauma.
There are four kinds of grief that are long,000, slow, exaggerated, or disguised.
To put it simply, if this time the grief is not handled well, then this emotion will either continue to torment you, or will find you to settle the account when the next loss comes, or it will enhance the lethality of the grief, or it will not show it, but silently affect you in the dark.
Grief is something we all have to deal with, but they vary in depth, breadth, and severity.
Some people are widowed in middle age, and some people lose their children in their old age, and some of these losses are unusual.
Most of them have a family member behind them who is reluctant to let go.
"Everyone who loves him wants him to live." Even if it is unconscious, even if it is on a ventilator, as long as the machine shows that there is a heartbeat.
Spending so much money and suffering so much sin, is it just to die in the ICU ward with a tube?
Does letting a man live like this for ten more days prove that we love him very much?
Is our love so superficial?
We don't explain it well with general logic.
The pain they experience is completely indescribable in the words and languages we humans currently use, and this pain will force us to think deeply about what is the meaning of life?
In the future, how can we use our limited lives to create things that can shine forever?
How sad it is that most of us cherish life only at the moment of our deaths!
Those who believe they have enough time are prepared to die at the moment of their death.
Then, to their chagrin, isn't it already too late?
"Apart from sleep, a person's life is only more than 10,000 days."
Poet Fernando. Pessoa once said.
The difference between people is:
Did you really live more than 10,000 days, or did you just live for one day and repeat it more than 10,000 times?
I can accept death, but I can't accept never living.
The best respect for life is not to shut up and talk about death, not to exaggerate death, but to know where the end point is and cherish the scenery encountered on the road.
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