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To this day, do you still have longings and expectations for love in your heart?
If it is those young couples who are in love to answer this question, I think most people will not hesitate to give a positive answer. But for couples who have already entered the state of marriage and lost their passion, there may be a negative answer to this question.
After all, the two have been together for such a long time, and they have long returned to a flat state of life, and they are not as enthusiastic and fresh as before. The trivial things of chai rice oil and salt in the daily life of marriage have long worn away the love in each other's hearts, in addition to some complicated family relationships may shake people's hearts for marriage feelings.
Perhaps at this moment, love is no longer the belief pursued in this type of people's hearts, they are more concerned about how to make themselves more comfortable, rather than blindly pursuing the romantic love of the wind and snow. In fact, it is a rare fate for husband and wife to develop all the way from strangers to the closest people in each other's lives. And those couples who can accompany their lovers to old age are even rarer.
People often say that men spend their hearts, but in fact, men who can remain loyal to their wives are not non-existent, but most men will always encounter such and such temptations on the way to the end of their lives, not to mention that they have been married for so long, they have long been unable to feel love in marriage, men cannot recognize their responsibilities, can not control their own behavior, and the last impulse has made a betrayal of their wives.
Some men naively regard extramarital affairs as true love, but how do men know if this will be just a beautiful illusion? Perhaps men should put a scale in their hearts, so that when they meet certain people and things, they can weigh the pros and cons and make the choice that is most beneficial to themselves.
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Brother Chen is 45 years old this year, and he once had two unforgettable love experiences. Zhao Weiwei is his first love, the two only met after going to college, and it took Brother Chen a semester to catch up with her. In order to maintain this feeling, Brother Chen has paid and sacrificed a lot, and no matter what kind of request Wei Wei puts forward, he will definitely agree.
But this relationship could not escape the curse of graduation season, and the two worked in different cities. It didn't take long for Vivi to propose a breakup. Since then, Brother Chen has been focusing on his work and career, and he has no heart to fall in love again. Later, when he was 30 years old, his family arranged a blind date for him, Liu Min. She is a completely different type from Vivi, Liu Min is gentle and virtuous, but also understanding.
After Brother Chen and Liu Min got along for a while, he felt that he was particularly comfortable with such a girl, at least he didn't always need to spend time and thought to make her happy. A year later, the two officially entered the palace of marriage, and their lives after marriage were also harmonious. The wife is at home to take care of the children and take care of the housework, and Brother Chen has no worries, so he can work with peace of mind.
However, such a beautiful and harmonious marital state was broken by Zhao Weiwei's reappearance. Emotional things are sometimes so strange, no matter how painful and resolute they were when they were separated, when they met again, there will still be a little reluctance. The affection of the person who seems to be unobtainable always carries a sense of mystery, attracting people to keep moving closer.
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Brother Chen and Zhao Weiwei met again at a classmate party. Brother Chen found that she had changed, not as optimistic and cheerful as before, and did not like to talk much. Brother Chen inquired and learned that she was now divorced, living alone with children, and living a particularly hard life. I don't know why, Brother Chen knew that she was not having a good life and felt very distressed.
That is, from that night on, Brother Chen and Zhao Weiwei began to contact again. And Zhao Weiwei often finds some excuses for Brother Chen to go to her house to help, she said, "I have a lot of things that a woman can't do, not to mention I still have a child." I don't know who to go to for help except you, the two of us are still friends aren't we? This remark made Brother Chen not know how to be good.
Every time he faced Zhao Weiwei's request, he didn't know how to refuse. He and Zhao Weiwei once had feelings, and now he already has a family, and if he continues to interact like this, sooner or later something will happen. Once Brother Chen was called by Vivi to help again, he just walked to the door when he received a call from his wife, asking him why he had not returned home yet, and the children cried and said they wanted their father.
At the moment, he did not hesitate to go straight home, and when he received a call from Vivi again, he said, "We still don't want to continue to contact like this, it is really inappropriate." I already have a family, and if you really need help, you can hire a domestic worker and don't need to call me at all. ”
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Brother Chen refused very crisply, and finally completely cut off Zhao Weiwei's thoughts. In fact, he did not want to continue to develop this relationship, but he is already in his 40s, can he still bear the consequences of extramarital affairs? Since you are not sure, you should not have such a crooked idea. So he very decisively rejected the ambiguous relationship that might occur in the future.
Perhaps we can say that changing hearts is human instinct, but there is a choice for being emotionally loyal to marriage. Being able to remain faithful to a marriage is actually a responsible performance, and maintaining a certain distance from friends of the opposite sex around you is respect for this marriage.
If the man knows that continuing to contact the opposite sex may have an extramarital affair, but still allowing it to continue to exist, there may be a second time with the first time, then his marital status may also become precarious.
Men should be clear about their responsibilities, get married and have a family, they must know how to avoid suspicion, reject all ambiguous possibilities, and let those things that should not happen away from their own side, which is the most important thing a good man should do. Since you know that this is a relationship that should not start, you must know how to refuse from the beginning, and you must completely cut off the other party's thoughts!