Text/Sycamore
Photo/ Stills from the movie "La Traviata"
What do you think it would normally be like to love someone to the extreme? Some people will feel that loving someone deeply is willing to sacrifice themselves for the sake of the other party; some people will feel that as long as the other party is good, they are willing to do anything.
Some people will feel that true mature love means fulfillment, even if they can't be with each other, they are still willing to bless from the bottom of their hearts, so as to be happy with her happiness.
These answers are all correct, in the eyes of different people, love will have different forms, but one thing is the same, that is, love is not selfish, it is understanding and understanding.
In true love with a person, you will not blindly pay, but know what the other party wants, like what, so as to do what they like, targeted to pay; you will not live too much, only do what you think is right, but will respect each other, know how to empathize.
Unfortunately, not everyone can do this, there are many people who love too paranoid and blind, do not care what the other party thinks, just wishful thinking, the result is that the other party not only does not love themselves, but slowly begins to get bored.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with love itself, what is wrong is only the way of love.
When I was a child, I watched the TV series "Huan Zhu Gege", and I was greatly moved by the love between Meng Dan and Han Xiang, but when I thought about it after I became an adult, I felt extremely afraid to think about it.
Meng Dan and Han Xiang are two young plum bamboo horses, and they are in love and have established a deep love very early. But unexpectedly, when they grew up, they were forced to face the scene of life and death.
For the sake of the entire tribe, Han Xiang, as a princess, had to marry the emperor of the Qing Dynasty, and Meng Dan could not accept this fact, eloped with him, and after being discovered, he would not hesitate to give up his life to take Han Xiang away. After the defeat, he pursued all the way to the palace.
It can be said that Montague never cared about his own life, he only pursued love, but this kind of paranoia makes people feel very terrible, if a person does not even want his life, how can you expect him to understand the true meaning of love?
He is a particularly grumpy person, who does not know how to be flexible in everything, and he will give up his life at every turn, and in doing so, he will only force Han Xiang to be martyred with him.
But Han Xiang was responsible for the safety of the entire tribe, his life in the palace was not good, and he had to worry about Mondan all day, such love had caused serious trouble to himself, how could it be considered true love.
From a modern perspective, Mundan is nothing less than a violent maniac, he is paranoid, violent, impulsive, and will give up his life at every turn. He may only love love itself, because he blindly pursues love and ignores the reality around him.
He didn't know how to live without Han Xiang, so he desperately tried to fight for Han Xiang, but he never thought about it for Han Xiang, if she left, the lives of so many people in the whole tribe, what would he do?
Loving someone to the extreme is definitely not just thinking about yourself, if you are too selfish, love is not love. It is not so much that he loves each other deeply, but rather that he loves himself more deeply.
In Dumas's La Traviata, love takes on a diametrically opposed form. The heroine of the novel is named Margaret, a socialite who is mixed with high society.
You may think that engaging in such a profession is not compatible with the word purity, but in fact, Margaret has the purest soul in the world.
Before she met love, she lived like the walking dead. There are a lot of men who love her and surround her, but they don't really love her, they just love her worth.
After all, such a beautiful woman is nothing less than a valuable fortune, and being able to spend a night with her is enough to prove their noble status and lofty status, so they love her not so much as they love her, but rather that they love their vanity.
Margaret naturally knew this, so she never had any extravagant hopes for love, until she met a man named Armand, and gradually moved her heart.
She found that Armand was different from other men, who loved themselves only to satisfy vanity, but Armand loved himself, but only for himself. He sincerely wished himself well, even if it was good, and it had nothing to do with him.
Realizing this, Margaret fell, and for the first time in her life she felt the taste of being loved, and gradually opened her heart to Armand.
Spending nights with other men is just work, but with Armand, it's for love, so she never takes his money or talks about it in front of him.
She was even prepared to be with Armand forever, promising him to leave his social circle and no longer do the job. At this time, she was full of expectations for the future, just like ordinary girls who were looking forward to getting married.
However, Armand's father soon learned of their love affair and did not hesitate to force Armand to leave Margaret, but Armand would not comply, and his desperate father could only go to Margaret.
He told Margaret that her profession was not accepted by the world, and that if she insisted on being with her son, the whole family might be disgraced, and Armand's sister would be divorced for no reason, ruining her lifelong happiness.
At this point, what would you do if you were Margaret? Maybe you will ignore all obstacles for love, after all, such love may only be encountered once in a lifetime.
But Margaret didn't do it, she loved Armand to the extreme, so she would think about him from his point of view, so she chose to quit for his future, for the sake of his sister, and for the sake of their whole family.
She told Armand that she couldn't stand his poverty and didn't want to live a hard life with him, so she went back to her old business and went back to pick up customers.
Armand, unaware of the truth of the matter, mistakenly believed that Margaret was a vain woman, so he held a grudge against her and took revenge on her, until Margaret died, only to learn that she had sacrificed so much for herself.
Since then, he has filled her grave every day with her favorite camellia flowers to pin his thoughts on, and the story of "La Traviata" has been passed down to this day, and its influence is like the camellia in front of her grave, which has never been defeated.
Margaret, the Traviata, tells us that loving someone to the extreme usually only presents one look, and this look is nothing more than two words: fulfillment.
Because he loves him too much, he willingly sacrifices himself and perfects the other, which means putting the other person in a more important position than himself, which is much purer than Mondan, who is willing to give up his life for the sake of incense.
It is worth mentioning that Dumas's "La Traviata" not only enjoys a very high status and evaluation in the world, but also is the first foreign novel in China that has been translated, which directly created the history of modern translation literature in China.
Whether in terms of literary value or the core of the ideas it conveys, Dumas's "La Traviata" is a rare classic masterpiece, whether you have the habit of reading, you should not miss it.
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