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Since ancient times, marriage has paid attention to the door-to-door pair, the two families are evenly matched, and the wealth status is at one level, neither high climbing nor low, which is called the most general match.
Nowadays, times have changed, and many young people advocate the freedom of love, and are not willing to be bound by traditional concepts, believing that love has nothing to do with family situation. Young people feel that their parents' view of marriage and love is outdated, and the more their parents advise, the more rebellious they are.
In fact, the three views and the door have an inextricable relationship, the growth environment affects the outlook on life values, the same class, similar to each other's ideas and concepts, easy to communicate. Two men and women with disparities in family background may ignore these in love, but once the feelings are implemented in the marriage, the gap between them will gradually appear.
Marriage is not only as simple as spending 9 yuan to get a marriage certificate, marriage is inseparable from material support, and the material conditions of both parties are not equal, which is bound to lead to family disputes. Even if the rich party can pay more, it may not be able to exchange for a situation where everyone is happy.
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Song Yan has an older brother above, and as the oldest in the family, she has been cared for by the whole family since she was a child. Song Yan's parents have been doing small business for many years, the family is worthy of solidity, the two children have never worried about using money, especially Song Yan, as soon as she graduated, her parents gave her a scooter of more than 200,000 yuan.
No one could have imagined that Song Yan would actually find a boyfriend who repaired an electric car, and her parents almost fainted when they heard the news, and ordered their daughter to break up immediately. But Song Yan has been spoiled since she was a child, listening to her parents' words in her left ear and right ear, and also taking private money to open an electric car repair shop for her boyfriend.
In fact, Song Yan's parents are not snobbish, they have experienced poverty, and they know that the days without money are sad, so they have worked hard all these years to provide a good platform for their children. Song Yan did not understand her parents' painstaking intentions, and actually took advantage of the fact that adults did not pay attention and secretly took out her household registration skills to get a marriage certificate.
Raw rice is cooked for mature rice, and the parents are in vain to oppose it, so they have to agree to the parents of both sides to meet to discuss the marriage. The two sons of the in-laws, only one house, saw that Song Yan's family had money, they cried poorly and said that they had no money to buy a new house, and if the daughter-in-law did not abandon it, the whole family of 6 would squeeze in the old house.
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Song Yan's parents were naturally distressed, so they proposed that the two families jointly fund the purchase of a house, and the in-laws could do less, and her family would have a big head. But the mother-in-law was intent on not pulling out a dime, and Song Yan's parents did not want to grievance their daughter, so they had to pinch their noses and marry a set of marriage rooms. The mother-in-law felt that she had taken advantage of a big advantage, and she was complacent in her heart, showing off that her son had the ability everywhere, and there was a girl who rushed to marry without spending a penny.
Buying a house without money, even if the wedding is also a door to home, saying that on the wedding day to meet relatives, their family goes to the groom and two groomsmen, the woman's family comes to a bride and two bridesmaids, two cars are enough, go to so many people and cars waste money. Later, the Song Yan family undertook all the costs, and the in-laws did not insist on their own opinions.
I thought that after getting married, my future life would be as sweet as honey, but within a few days of my new marriage, the little family on my husband's body appeared little by little. Song Yan spent 180 yuan to buy a durian, and her husband watched her eat it while chanting: This thing is expensive and delicious, buying ten pounds of pork is enough for us to eat for a month.
And the husband's greatest pleasure is to count the money, some customers repair the cash paid for the electric car, the money husband is saving, nothing to take out and dip the spit to count repeatedly. Every time the two of them went out to eat, her husband never ate a meal quietly, always complaining that it was too expensive while eating, which made Song Yan very embarrassed.
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For the help of his parents-in-law, his husband has always been at ease, and even feels that he has given less, and has repeatedly asked his wife how much property his parents have. Coupled with the fact that her in-laws often call for money and things, and her husband makes up his own mind to agree, Song Yan has a disgust in her heart and feels that he is a little disrespectful.
During Song Yan's pregnancy, her in-laws did not even send an egg, as long as Song Yan mentioned this matter, her husband had various reasons, saying that she was not without money, she wanted to eat what she bought, why did she have to go to rob the old man, her parents faced the loess back to the sky, sweat fell into eight petals to earn a few hard money.
Who knows that as soon as the son was born, the mother-in-law actually took the initiative to bring the grandson, but not the white belt, let the daughter-in-law give 3,000 yuan a monthly salary, the younger son object negotiated well, to 100,000 dowry, she has to earn money.
The mother-in-law's practice of favoring the two daughters-in-law will be angry with each other, Song Yan asked the reason, but was told that her parents had a thick family, so much money could not be spent, why not give some to their family. The mother-in-law also provoked Song Yan to make her mouth sweeter, and coaxed out some more family property from her parents, otherwise when they closed their eyes and legs and stomped on it, the money was cheaper for her brother.
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From this fallacy, Song Yan saw the pattern of her mother-in-law, no wonder her husband would take money so seriously, it turned out that if there was a mother, she must have her son. The family education of Song Yan's mother-in-law instilled in the children the idea of taking advantage of the cheap, and they believed that if the family had money, they should give them poverty alleviation, and they hoped that they could average their wealth, which was better.
After Song Yan refused her mother-in-law's request to take her grandson, her husband quarreled with her, reprimanding her for having no sympathy, and her in-laws were worried about the marriage costs of their young son, instead of spending money to ask for a nanny, it was better to give money to her mother-in-law and hire her to work.
Song Yan feels that this is not a matter of money, she does not want her mother-in-law with distorted values to participate in her life, and she is more afraid of luring the wolf into the house, and when the child is taught by the mother-in-law, she will be bad. The husband was not convinced, until Song Yan was forced by divorce, he did not dare to continue to insist.
"Don't listen to the old man, suffer losses in front of you", because of Song Yan's obstinate behavior, did not listen to the advice of her parents, and tasted bitterness after marriage. It seems that the problem has been temporarily solved, and the marriage has been saved, but she knows in her heart that she and her husband are not in harmony with each other, and divorce is only a matter of time.
Therefore, girls can't choose their husbands only by a momentary good feeling, let alone be confused by the appearance of some men. Ask your parents more, after all, your parents have a lot of experience, and you will always see people more thoroughly. Sometimes it is not advisable to act obstinately, not only allowing people with hearts to exploit loopholes, but also burying a lifetime.
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