In today's society, all kinds of commercial advertisements, online loan financial advertisements, etc., all tempt people to consume in time, stimulate people's inner desire to shop, and form a psychological expectation: buying these goods will feel happy and satisfied, and binding commodities to happiness. As a result, now the pace of life is accelerating, people's life and work pressure is increasing, the pressure needs to find a place to release, the suppressed desire to shop will be released, and they will go shopping spree to find happiness.
The idea of hedonism is spreading, which can make people focus only on the present and neglect the planning for the future. For example, many young people are moonlight people, living a rented life, constantly consuming shopping, such as new scientific and technological products I am about to buy, all kinds of things I want to buy will be bought immediately, in order to obtain psychological satisfaction, enjoy the so-called "ideal life"; what is more, there are many people through the Network through various channels of consumer loans and other loans to shop, accumulate small into large, and finally unable to repay huge debts, bringing a heavy burden to the whole family. This kind of casual behavior without considering the actual situation, for the sake of temporary satisfaction, without making long-term plans, is simply drinking and quenching thirst.
Excessive pursuit of this timely satisfaction will only make people intoxicated with the present and lose the future. Human beings have evolved to the present, in fact, part of the reason is to be able to control instinctive needs and consider problems for the sake of further development. Humans also hunted and fished for a living in the beginning, so why did they start growing crops later? The change in this way is also groped out by humans in survival, crops can be stored after maturity, can be satisfied when there is no prey as a food source, rather than relying on the sky to eat, hungry a full meal, and later became the main source of food. Then we look at the tribes that now exist in Africa, living near food and clothing because they still live a primitive hunter-gatherer life.
Delayed gratification refers to a decision-making orientation that is willing to give up immediate gratification for more valuable long-term outcomes, as well as self-control demonstrated during the waiting period. Its development is a necessary condition for individuals to complete various tasks, coordinate interpersonal relationships, and successfully adapt to society.
The candy effect refers to the fact that in 1960, Michelle, a professor of psychology at Stanford University in the United States, designed an experiment on delayed gratification. The experiment tested more than a dozen children in kindergartens, and in subsequent decades of follow-up observations, it also proved that children who had the patience to wait for double candy were more likely to succeed in their careers.
Therefore, these people need to control their desires, try to consider problems from the reality of life, seek truth from facts, learn to delay gratification, and plan the direction of life development.
Learn to live, not be kidnapped by life!
