Watching the video yesterday, the old Fan who brushed to the next door said that his ultimate dream is to marry Li Sha Minzi.
At that time, I thought, sure enough, the person who really likes you wants to give you a home.
Speaking of the old fan next door, I was most impressed by his thick and powerful voice.
His songs basically sing the voice of modern young people, and because of this, he began to appear frequently in the public eye.
He had been in love with Li Sha Minzi for about a year, and Li Sha Minzi was still six years older than him, but this did not affect his determination to marry Li Sha Minzi in the slightest.
Seeing this, we can also understand a truth:
If a guy really likes you, he is willing to work with you and face life together.
Therefore, we can also get some inspiration from Lao Fan and Li Sha Minzi next door.
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Someone who loves you won't let you live in the shadows
When we truly love someone, we don't want her to be in shadow with us all the time.
What does that mean?
It's about revealing her and her own identity.
Usually, I always tell my friends that I want to know if he has any intentions for you, at least to see if he is willing to disclose the relationship between the two of you.
If he is willing to introduce you to his friends, family and parents, it means that he has feelings for you.
And if a guy is always unwilling to make you public and keeps letting you compromise for his own benefit, such a guy is either selfish or scum.
Let's start with selfishness.
If a boy is not willing to disclose the identity of his girlfriend, it first shows that he is selfish.
For example, in the entertainment industry, many male celebrities talk about their girlfriends, and they don't go public because they are afraid of losing powder.
After all, this is an era of traffic, fans do not support them, they are equivalent to losing popularity and sources of money.
Therefore, under normal circumstances, they will choose to communicate implicitly and not let fans know.
Some male celebrities have been dating their girlfriends for many years, not letting others know, not giving each other an identity, like this practice is actually selfish.
In order not to lose their own interests, they choose to sacrifice the happiness of their girlfriends.
Some people may say: "You are not in the entertainment industry do not know that it is not easy in the entertainment industry, these male stars are also forced to ah." ”
If this is really the case, then Lu Han and Guan Xiaotong's public love relationship was also in the rising period of his career.
Then why is he willing to disclose his relationship with Guan Xiaotong and not be afraid of taking off the powder?
It's just that he knows he likes the other person more than the support of his fans.
Therefore, those who say that they are afraid of depowdering are actually just excuses for not loving enough.
And then there's the slag.
Some boys are reluctant to disclose their relationship with their girlfriends, not because he is afraid of trouble, but because he is afraid that the presence of his girlfriend will delay him from picking up other girls.
If other girls knew he had a girlfriend, they would definitely not want to chat with him.
So to avoid that, he had to pretend he didn't have a girlfriend.
For example, we often see many girls who are little three, and they have no idea that the other party is married.
Because when the other party talks to her, they either say that they are single or that they are divorced.
Boys like this are more scummy, and they are preparing for their own spare tires.
Therefore, like the boy next door who is willing to make his girlfriend public and threatens to marry Li Shaminzi, at least his intention can let the other party see and feel.
Then as girls, we should also be inspired to see if he has made your identity public.
If not, think about it, what is the reason why he is reluctant to do so?
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People who love you will find ways to give you a home
The first step for a man to love a girl is to make his relationship with her public, and if he gets along well, proposing is an imperative step.
Therefore, whether you are willing to marry your girlfriend is also an important sign of whether a boy loves her.
Of course, some boys marry for profit, which we will not discuss.
We need to understand that most boys like to be free.
If it weren't for family responsibilities, passing on from generation to generation, I think many of them wouldn't have wanted to get married.
After all, after marriage, their responsibilities become heavier and their freedom is less.
They need to spend more time and minds at home with their wives and children.
But if a boy knows that after marriage, his responsibilities become greater and his freedom decreases.
And after all kinds of obstacles, they are willing to marry you and give you a home.
That means that this boy really loves you and is worth trusting.
Just like the old Fan next door, although he is only 23 years old now, it is the time when his career is rising.
But he is still willing to choose to marry Li Sha Minzi, which shows that he likes each other.
This also gives us a revelation, if we talk to a boy for a long time, he never takes the initiative to say about marriage, even if you try to test him sideways, he pretends to be confused.
Or maybe it's not the time to get married, always rejecting you and making you wait.
We have to understand that this kind of guy may not have thought of marrying you in the first place.
He's just waiting for a girl who is a better match for him to show up and continue to hang you.
If he's around you like that, then you really have to think about his feelings for you.
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Sister-brother love can also be cultivated into positive results
Our traditional culture has always told us that girls must find someone older than themselves to find a partner to marry.
In fact, I have always been open-minded about this statement.
Because a man's character pattern, three views of ideas, and doing things, and age are not absolutely proportional.
In most cases, boys have to become more experienced, and as they age, they will slowly mature.
But some older boys are just as immature, and conversely, some younger boys are also mature.
Therefore, whether a person is mature or not has little to do with age, but with experience and experience.
Regarding sister-brother love, I have always believed that as long as the age difference between two people is not too large, and there is a common language, and the boy is also very mature and responsible, then such a boy can still marry.
Just like the old Fan and Li Sha Minzi next door, although the old Fan next door is 6 years younger than Li Sha Minzi.
But still do not delay the stability of their feelings, talk about marriage and marriage.
This also indirectly shows that sister-brother love can be cultivated into positive results.
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People who love you will be very firm in their ideas
I often see some posts on the Internet saying that my boyfriend's parents don't like themselves, dislike that their home conditions are not too good, and want him to find a girl from a rich family.
Whenever this happens, I will first look at the opinions of the boys.
If this boy loves this girl enough, and is very responsible and assertive.
Then he will not listen to his parents, he will insist on associating with his girlfriend and marrying her.
But if the boy doesn't like each other so much, and doesn't have the opinion and responsibility, he will basically listen to his parents' ideas and break up with the girl, and then go on a blind date with other girls.
So, every time I see girls asking for help: how to make their boyfriend's parents like themselves.
I was thinking: Honey, you're trying in the wrong direction.
What you have to work on is not how to make his parents like you, but to make him love you more and can't do without you.
Only in this way will he be on your side and compete with his parents.
So, if you want to know if he loves you enough, see if he can break down all the barriers and be with you.
In fact, every scene of life, the practices of others, can bring us enlightenment.
As long as we are willing to think, and are willing to change after thinking, then our lives can become better and better.
As we ourselves get better and better at life, the probability of meeting a boy who is single-minded about us becomes higher and higher.
Author | Nancy Anhui University master of translation, through the ministry of personnel third-level translation, in-depth research in the field of gender emotions, good at finding problems from emotions and solving problems, so that more people are aware, become a better self.