How to understand a happy life?

What should a truly happy life look like?

Writer Li Xiaoyi once sighed that before she was forty years old, she interpreted happiness as "having": having money, having a car, having a house, and having a career. So since then, she has desperately searched for various job opportunities. It wasn't until she was 40 years old, when she fell ill from overwork, that she suddenly understood that happiness is "nothing": carefree, carefree, disease-free, disaster-free. At that time, she woke up to the fact that the "being" in life is for others to see, and only "nothing" is really for herself.

How many people, all their lives, hope to live better than the people around them, live to others, and lose themselves over time. True happiness should be as simple as mentioned in "The Flying House": "It is not a big fish and a big meat, not a power to the opposition." Happiness is the fulfillment of every tiny wish to live, to eat when you want to eat, and to have someone who loves you when you want to be loved. ”

Don't let people live too hard, Sanmao wrote in "The Flourishing Flowers in the Desert": "I believe that what the heavens do not give me, no matter how fastened my ten fingers, it will still leak away, I believe that what the heavens give me, no matter how I lose my hand, I will have it." After half a lifetime, I gradually understood the sentence: Sometimes there must be something in fate, and there is no time to demand it in fate. Sometimes, the harder you push, the more you can't grasp it, and if you force it too much, you will eventually lose it. The same is true of life, instead of exhausting all the pursuit of perfect results, it is better to adjust yourself to have a perfect mentality. If you love too much, things will be reversed; if you want too much, you will lose more; you will leave room for fulfillment. After all, happiness does not depend on grasping too tightly, but on self-fulfillment.

Truly intelligent people never compete with themselves, do not compare with others, and do not compare with life. Not envying the lives of others and enjoying everything you have is a small blessing in life. Contentment is not about not thinking ahead, but about looking down on everything. Confusion is not ignorance, but simple life. The highest state of life is precisely these twelve words: rare confusion, half awake and half drunk, contentment and happiness.