When it comes to public speech, impromptu speech, many of us are faced with some problems: fear, nervousness, forgetting words, not knowing what to say, incoherent, logical confusion, unclear words, self-talk, poor voice, and so on. I had thought well and had a lot to say, but as soon as I stood up, my mind went blank! Before I could say it, I was already trembling with nervousness, alas! Let me speak in public? It's really better to let me die.
These problems have plagued us for a long time, and they are difficult to solve for a while, which directly affects our mentality and social interaction. For example: getting along with friends, unable to effectively express their own ideas, words do not meet the expectations, it seems to be very unleveled; eating with leading colleagues, because there is nothing to say, and appears out of place, excluded and isolated; reporting work in the unit, debriefing speech, because of nervousness and fear, insincerity, had to end in a gray and slippery hasty and hasty place; usually in front of the staff, because of the lack of confidence in speaking, resulting in logical confusion, words do not reach the intention, it is really a disgrace.
If we feel that we are naturally unsociable, afraid to speak, becoming more and more reticent, and even inferior to ourselves because we encounter difficulties in communicating with people, it is a real pity. Because the matter of "speaking" was originally completely cultivated and gradually formed, no one can speak reasonably and likably from birth. Therefore, the problems you encounter can be slowly improved. Today I will talk about how to say it.
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First of all, let's first understand the factors that induce nervousness, which are mainly manifested in two aspects.
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Let's imagine these scenarios: (1) Are you nervous when you are chatting with your parents normally? No (2) When you talk to your friends about the mountains, are you nervous? No (3) Your early love affair is known to your parents, and when they ask about it, are you nervous? Is it (4) when your friend owes you money and never pays it back, and you want it but don't know how to open your mouth, are you nervous? (5) Are you nervous when you express yourself to the public in front of the eyes of 200 people in the classroom? be
To sum up, we can roughly draw a conclusion: casual communication does not make us nervous, such as when we chat with parents and friends, we are not nervous. Once there is a demand for interests or psychological appeals, it will cause us to have emotional fluctuations. For example, when avoiding accusations, avoiding embarrassment, and wanting to get recognition, you will involuntarily beat your heart faster and worry and doubt, which is what we often call nervousness.
We can not do without society, communication impromptu speech is often, in this process of communication, people have conventionally formed a habitual mode of thinking, that is, the people who listen to your speech, intentionally or unintentionally, are judging your speech level and ability, guessing your social identity and status, it is the expectation of this role that makes you carry a heavy psychological burden, afraid of "not speaking well", afraid of "ugly", afraid of being looked down upon, resulting in "dare not speak" embarrassment and helplessness.
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Low self-esteem is a negative emotional experience, and the causes of low self-esteem are multifaceted: such as appearance, status, family background, etc. Under the influence of this inferiority complex, people who speak in public will think that their thoughts and opinions, the organization of language, the manners of voice, etc. are inferior to others... The more they worry, the greater the psychological pressure, the more afraid, the more they will become helpless, open their mouths, feel ridiculed by the crowd, cannot escape, are very painful, and are eager to bury themselves.
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Let me talk about how to overcome these two factors that produce tension.
1, tension is an instinctive reaction of the human body, is the body's early warning, it tells us to always avoid danger, so this tension, is every normal person will have, is the normal physiological response, at this time, what we need to do, is not to let this tension exaggeration and amplification, thereby interfering with your behavior, but to control this normal psychological response, control within the appropriate range, calm and calm, long breath, calm and slow expression, soon you will become very natural and normal, It's not so hard to speak in public, and with your first experience, you'll become more and more confident.
2) There is no need to care about other people's eyes, because you are not so important, in some cases, we are just a supporting role.
We often attend some meetings, as long as you pay attention to the people around you, you will find that many people in the audience are playing with mobile phones! Even if you don't play with your phone, there are few people who listen carefully. You can imagine that even if the audience can listen to you carefully, it is this ear that listens to that ear, will not go to the heart, few people will think that you are bad, as long as you do not go out of the big grid, it will not have an impact, how you talk, it will not take 10 minutes, it will pass, people will not care, you do not go too far to the heart. Harvard University in the United States has a happiness class, specifically about mentality: that is, you have to admit that we are all ordinary people, without you, the moon is still circling the earth, and human civilization will still develop. You are nothing more than an ordinary human being, a dust in the universe, a small supporting role in the world of others. Few people in the audience will take you seriously, even if you feel that you are a failure, others will not underestimate you, or affect your interactions, so you don't have to worry about those ridicule, disappointment or incomprehension, these are your self-feelings have nothing to do with others.
3, although you are a supporting role in the eyes of others, but at the same time you are also the protagonist of your own inner world. I am the master of my affairs, and I am the master of this world! Since you let me say, you have to listen to me, I am the leader, I have the final say. It is regarded as a rehearsal, how to come, "broken jar broken". Nervous let him nervous, can be, it doesn't matter if he is wrong, let everyone laugh at me! Let the storm be more intense! It's a lot easier.
What really affects your state is not whether you have nervous and anxious emotions, but how you understand, accept and deal with these emotions. If you don't care and don't amplify these tensions, you can speak out easily and freely.
I will not talk about this piece anymore, and everyone will experience it with their hearts. Since you can speak it, you can speak smoothly and speak more brilliantly.
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