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George Bernard Shaw said, "Self-control is the strongest instinct. ”
Man should have control, especially control over desires.
People are born with desires, whether they are satisfied or not, which will have an impact on people's psychology. If it is not satisfied, it will make people pessimistic and world-weary, and if it is satisfied, it will promote the greed of the human heart.
If man can restrain himself and reduce his desires, or if he has no desires, the human heart will be content and happy. At the same time, life will also be free.
Everyone has desires, and everyone has a different approach to the domination of desires. Only rational use, know how to temperate, and restrain yourself will you live a minimalist life.
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Indulgence is a punishment for oneself
Yusuf said, "Desire can make people happy and happy, but behind this happiness and happiness is suffering." Happiness is to be sad, and after all desires are realized, disasters are inevitable. ”
In our lifetime, everything we do is related to our own desires, but when a person's desires are not restrained, problems will arise.
In the novel "Sister Carrie", Sister Carrie is a person who covets money and loves vanity.
She enjoyed high society life, and with a good looking skin bag, she married Druet and lived the life of a rich man. After the material life was greatly satisfied, she was more eager for money,
Later, she married Hearstwood, only because he was richer than Druet, so that she could get what she wanted, and truly experience the ideal life of comfort and luxury, power and power.
In fact, Carrie's sister only wants to satisfy the demand for money, she does not love Hirstwood, and the two people have no real love at all.
Sister Carrie, though by virtue of her own beauty, satisfied all vanity. But her heart was extremely empty, and although her life was extremely luxurious, she could not be happy at all.
Desires are there for everyone, but people's desires should be realistic.
Kitano Takeshi said: "This kind of thing, no matter how bright and beautiful the appearance is, after peeling off a layer of skin, there is only a bunch of desire left." ”
Desire is like a rubber band, only within the right range of force, will show its original beauty, too much force will be on the verge of danger.
If Carrie's sister's desires were smaller, she wouldn't have been trapped in unsatisfactory pain all her life. No matter how rich the material is, it is not happy.
Zhang Jiajia wrote in the book: "Your desires determine the way and way you speak or do things. ”
If people's desires are not restrained, over time, they will break through the bottom line of the masses. Others will think that you are an unsatisfied, insatiable person.
If your desire is too strong, it will only cause disgust from the people around you, which is also a kind of harm to yourself.
At every stage of life, we encounter the trap of desire. For desire, we must continue to temper, constantly reflect, and constantly realize, so that we will not be swallowed up by desire, and can we find the true meaning of happiness.
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The biggest disaster in life is "indulgence"
Once there is desire in the human heart, if we do not control it, it will be endless. Desire can control our lives, bring us endless suffering, and make our cravings grow bigger and bigger.
If it is serious, it will endanger our lives. In fact, life is not easy, at any time, anything, we must treat it with a normal heart, step by step, is the most down-to-earth life.
Therefore, do not be greedy, learn to restrain desires, and avoid falling into the trap of greed in your life.
When he first entered the career, he also wanted to be a good official who was honest and honest, but when he first enjoyed the benefits of money, he fell into it and could not extricate himself.
He took advantage of the emperor's favor to him and wantonly amassed wealth, becoming the most famous corrupt official in history.
Some people say that the end of desire is hell. Due to his madness to accumulate wealth, He Yan was killed by Jiaqing after the death of the Qianlong Emperor. The wealth that was once painstakingly collected was also destroyed overnight.
Ill-gotten gains, like floating clouds in the air, float around without actual fixation.
There is nothing wrong with desire, but it should be suitable for oneself. If you are humble, life will give you solidity; if you work hard, life will give you results; if you are proud, life will stop you from moving forward.
It is said that "sorrow can rejuvenate the country, and Yiyu can die", and the rise and fall of a person does not depend on the mandate of heaven, but on his own "personnel".
People should learn a lesson, guard against arrogance and impatience, and not have too high desires. Only because "the gift of fate has long been secretly marked with a price." ”
Fate does not give you a luxurious life because of the luxury of your ideas; fate does not make you poor because your ideas are simple.
Not arrogant, not impatient, not humble, is the yardstick that determines the rise and fall of your destiny.
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Truly excellent people, all live a very "moderate" life
In the movie "Favorite Woman Shopaholics", Cecilia Cheung played a super shopaholic, who had no money to swipe his card and buy things, and there was no place at home to put it, and he also had to buy things.
The uncontrollable desire to shop cost her job and her life in embarrassment, and she finally met her miserly boyfriend and finally healed each other.
Life is not acting, it is much crueler than acting. Too many people are crazy to buy and buy, resulting in poverty and even family ruin.
In today's fast-paced world, perhaps indulgence can release the pressure of life, but behind the release of pressure, it is one difficulty after another.
There is a biological chain in nature, the world is balanced with each other, and human desires, pressures, and ideals are also balanced with each other. People must know how to balance themselves, in order to be healthy and upward, live better.
Therefore, restraining one's desires is a good way to win one's life for oneself.
Kazuo Inamori said, "Desire itself is not a sin, but it is a sin to do whatever it wants uncontrolled." ”
If people's desires are not restrained, they will become endless darkness, so that you cannot find an exit. At this time, only moderation will make your life full of sunshine and vitality.
Therefore, everyone should be prepared for the rainy day and be restrained when they are not yet enslaved by their desires. Let yourself see the rainbow without experiencing the wind and rain, and you are the wise man in life.
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In a person's life, at a certain age, he found that temperance of desire is the most advanced way of life. Learn to control desires, so that life can avoid most of the unnecessary pain and enter a virtuous circle.
"Three-quarters of the world's demands are unrealistic and are based on fantasy, idealism, hope and emotion," Ruskin said. ”
It is said that desire is the "devil", and if you control yourself, you will be spared; if you have poor self-control, you will be swallowed up by desire.
Born to be human, learn to protect yourself, temper your desires, and live your life exquisitely.
As Yusuf said: "Man is able to curb his desires and live a life without demand; he is in charge of his own life and his own destiny." ”
Author: Snowfall Dustless, Writer, Emotional Counselor. If you encounter any emotional distress, you can send me a private message, and I will help you analyze and help you solve it.