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I met my wife at a dinner party organized by a friend, when I had been divorcing my ex-wife for 3 years, and my wife was in a relationship with her ex-boyfriend. Because I was 11 years older than my wife, I never imagined that we would eventually become husband and wife. However, about ten days after we met, my wife took the initiative to call me: I broke up with my boyfriend, can you accompany me out for a few drinks? Perhaps, men will not resist the invitation of a beautiful woman, not to mention that I am now the commander of the light rod. So, I readily agreed to my wife's invitation. After that day, I had a relationship with my wife, and 8 months later, we both got married.
Now, my wife and I have been married for more than a year, but I have found one thing that makes me particularly troubled: my wife often hides my meeting with her ex-boyfriend. Of course, about this matter, I only found out when I peeked at my wife's mobile phone. Because I am busy on weekdays, I don't have much energy to take care of my wife, and I feel that there needs to be a high degree of self-awareness between husband and wife. So, after I found out about it, my wife and I had a heated argument. The wife's explanation for this matter is that you have money and he has a face.
After the incident, although my wife admitted her mistake to me and assured me that something like this would never happen again. However, I found that while I forgave my wife, I could not truly forgive. I even felt that after my wife knew me, she broke up with her ex-boyfriend for more than ten days, and then called me to accompany her to buy drunks, all of which she carefully planned. And I feel that my wife simply thinks that my career is still successful, and deliberately broke up with her ex-boyfriend and was with me.
Thinking about this, I feel that my wife is an unauthentic woman. So, I now have the idea of divorce.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
Your wife's words, you have money, he has a face, deeply stinging you.
I found that no, many truths in life are particularly difficult to hear, so when we speak, we often present, thinking of a set in our hearts and saying a set on our lips. This means that, more often, we all show insincerity in our lives. After all, many times, if we think in our hearts, what we say on our lips will be particularly hurtful and easy to offend people. So, in the adult world, it is more often full of white lies. For example, when the leader asks you to work overtime, you actually have ten thousand unwilling in your heart, and you often say "OKAY, leader", or "how to work overtime", and the most wanted words in your heart are "let Lao Tzu work overtime, but the salary does not rise.".
In fact, it is not a shameful thing for a woman to marry a man because of money, but during the period when two people are together, do not frequently hang money on her lips; let alone spend each other's money at the same time, you can not guarantee loyalty to the relationship. After all, in the adult world, everyone weighs the pros and cons. Let me ask you: Why does the other party accept you, is it not because you are young and beautiful? If in a relationship, you want the other party's money, but although the other party has money, but in front of you to show the door, will you feel comfortable? Or, the other party is willing to spend money on you at the same time, but also to other girls outside the marriage is particularly generous, will you feel comfortable?
Many times, just think differently, you will find that many things are not so difficult to deal with. However, many people give greed at the level of their daily behavior, but they give control to the daily behavior of their lovers. I want to ask, by what?
Regarding your wife, your perception of her is all right: at first, without your presence, at least she would not have broken up with her ex-boyfriend so quickly; she came to you that day to buy you drunk, just to test whether you had a good feeling for her; she married you, not because of love, but because of money.
Now, she's spending your money and remembering her ex-boyfriend's face, it's her fault. So, if you can't tolerate it, then divorce it decisively.
In the three years that you have married your ex-wife and met your wife, you have certainly met many girls, but you have not met a girl who makes you feel the urge to marry. And the various sensible and reserved things that your wife showed during her love with you now seems to be pretend, because she very much wants a result of marrying you in exchange for her life's food and clothing. The point is, after you got married, she didn't do her marital fidelity.
Her ability to break up with her ex-boyfriend at the time fully shows that in her measure of who she marries, money is more important than yan. So much so that after you exposed her and her ex-boyfriend, she quickly assured you that similar things would not happen again in the future of life. After all, she didn't want to lose your cash cow.
What I want to say is that people look at their character. I don't think your wife is a simple girl. So, I have reason to believe that one day in the future, if you are old, or if her wings are hardened, or even when she meets a man who is richer than you, then she will show special desperation in kicking you out of the siege.
I never felt that age should be an obstacle for two people to get married, but we also need to admit that whether a relationship can be held for a long time depends on human nature. So, regarding your marital movements with your wife, I'm more inclined to divorce. Because she is greedy, because she has an incorrect heart.
Although everyone will have a plan at the beginning of the exchange, once the relationship is finalized, it is inevitable to form a pattern of true heart for heart. If you are in a relationship and only know how to take and use, then how can such a relationship last?
Muzi Li life insights:
In the field of love, there are few fools, and many times, the reason why the other party faces your unreasonable teasing and chooses to be patient is not all because of love? If you have to call the other party as a fool, it will naturally make the other party accumulate too much frustration and disappointment. When the other party's relationship evolves from love to disgust, then, when the other party is shrewd, you will find that the other party is so strange and desperate. However, you ignore one thing, the shrewdness of the other party, you use calculation to force the other party out.
In the field of love, there is no need for philanthropists, between the hegemony of feelings and uniqueness, we must ensure loyalty to feelings through self-restraint postures in feelings. In fact, everyone has an emotional purity, and it is especially difficult to tolerate the betrayal of feelings by lovers. Once such a thing happens, anyone who does not have much to do with each other will not hesitate to choose divorce. Many times, people's forgiveness of extramarital affairs is nothing more than helplessness.
Marriage is sacred, so you need to be cautious when choosing who to marry. People will have shortcomings, but on some major issues of right and wrong, there must be no cognitive and behavioral deviations. Therefore, in the marriage relationship, extramarital affairs are the biggest taboo. More often, extramarital affairs are caused by greed. Therefore, after marriage, it is necessary to maintain a safe distance from the opposite sex other than the legitimate lover.