For the rest of our lives, let us converge our emotions and be a gentle and beautiful person

As an adult, if you can't control your emotions well, even if you give you the whole world, sooner or later you will be ruined.

Deeply agreed.

Two days ago, Liu Lu, a female artist of Mango TV, had an argument with the staff over a bottle of sunscreen spray, and her bright future was ruined by her anger.

Although she hurriedly apologized afterwards, it was obvious that she could not make up for the image left in the eyes of netizens. In the future, development in the entertainment industry seems impossible.

How bad a person's mood is, how bad his fate is.

All good luck and bad luck have been secretly labeled, waiting for the right time to come.

A person who cannot control his emotions cannot have a lucky life.

01 People who can't control their emotions are toxic

On the African savannah, there is a vampire bat that feeds on the blood of the legs of steppe wild horses.

However, a strange phenomenon is that every time bats suck blood and leave, a group of wild horses will die.

Animal experts have been puzzled. Depending on the amount of blood the bat sucks, the mustang does not lose blood and die. After several studies, it was found that the real cause of mustang death had nothing to do with bats. It was their anger that ultimately hurt them.

It turns out that when bats suck blood, wild horses will be irritable, and their bodies will become extremely irritable in an instant. Only under uncontrollable emotions can mustangs suffer heart failure and mass deaths.

Finally, a small bat ended the wild horse's life.

In life, everyone will encounter bats that make people feel bad. If we don't know how to deal with our emotions, we act like wild horses and let things lead to irreversible results.

Not long ago, I saw such a Weibo.

A 35-year-old South Korean woman was woken up by her parents while resting at home at noon.

Originally this was just a small thing, but the woman was furious and quarreled with her mother.

When the mood is agitated, the woman picks up some flammable goods around her, pours them on her, turns on the lighter, and sets herself on fire.

Although the fire truck arrived in time and did not save the woman's life, her parents were also severely burned in the fire and were taken to the hospital.

Emotions are not good or bad. What makes things worse is the person himself. A person who does not know how to control his emotions is like a tumor, and he will spray venom on others at any time, not only harming himself, but also harming others.

Ma Dong said in "Strange Story": Don't make emotional decisions when you are excited.

Decisions made when you are emotionally excited often make you regret it for the rest of your life.

02 People who manage their emotions well can better manage their lives

I heard a little story of Zen Buddhism.

A Taoist monk who has been practicing for many years has a disciple who loves to complain.

One day, the Taoist priest put a handful of salt in the disciple's water bowl, and the disciple took a sip and said that it was too salty.

The Dao Commander sprinkled another handful of salt into the lake and asked the disciples to drink another bowl of lake water.

The disciple drank all the water in the bowl in one gulp and told the Taoist that the lake water was clear and sweet.

The Daoist priest looked at his disciple and said to him seriously:

The pain in life is salt, and its saltiness depends on the container in which it is held. Do you want to make a glass of water or a piece of lake water?

At this moment, the disciple suddenly realized that he had been venting his emotions for no reason before, not only useless to himself, but also consuming his own body.

Throughout the past, those who succeeded in their careers were people who were able to manage their emotions. At critical moments, their responses have earned them not only a good reputation, but also the respect of others.

Some time ago, when Baidu founder Li Yanju gave a public speech, there was an episode.

During the conversation, a young man walked quickly to the stage, came to Li Yanmao, and splashed a body of water.

No one expected such a thing to happen, and the audience was stunned and dumbfounded on the spot.

After pouring a bottle of water, Li Yanmao reacted, quietly took a step back, smeared a handful of water on his face, and then calmly asked the youth:

"What's wrong with you?" (What's wrong with you)

In the following speech, Li Yanmao was not affected by emotions, but calmly continued to speak. He preached to his audience:

"All sorts of things will happen on the way forward for AI, but the determination to move forward will not change. Artificial intelligence will change everyone's life. ”

After Li Yanju said these words, the audience resounded with warm applause.

Originally a bad incident, Li Yanmao used his stable emotions to take another turn on the road to success.

Li Xiang, the founder of Chehejia, once said:

Many friends don't know what emotional intelligence is. This emotion is not the emotion of emotion, but the emotion of emotion, especially the ability to control one's emotions at critical moments and the ability to make rational choices at key moments.

Emotionally stable adults are not busy complaining and complaining when an accident occurs, but calmly and calmly find ways to deal with problems, face problems, and solve problems. This is how adults survive.

Only people who can manage their emotions can manage their lives well.

03 Emotionally stable people can live as a beam of light

Writer Li Xiaoyi told a story that happened to him.

When she first started working, Li Xiaoyi met a difficult female client. The plan was modified countless times, but the other party was still not satisfied. After many negotiations, the contract was not signed.

Thinking that all his efforts had no hopeless results, Li Xiaoyi angrily yelled at the customer on the phone:

"Your demands are particularly unreasonable, and you are particularly perverted. Don't think party A is good, I don't believe you! ”

Of course, the result of the matter will not change because of Li Xiaoyi's anger, but because of this matter, Li Xiaoyi has become a big laughing stock in the industry. Everyone knows that Li Xiaoyi is a newcomer who is not strong in ability but has a big temper.

Since then, Li Xiaoyi has understood one thing. Venting emotions can make him refreshed, but it is not good for the development of things at all, and may even bring more serious consequences.

Later, Li Xiaoyi quit his job and started his own business. As a professional writer, he published his own books, read, wrote, and had a successful career. He was invited to give a special lecture at oxford university, the world's highest university; as a Chinese representative of the "World Future Women's Congress", he was received and praised by the British Princess.

These are all related to Li Xiaoyi's stable mood. It was in the days that followed that she struggled to restrain her emotions and not throw tantrums at others at will. Instead, she faced them with gentle and quiet strength. On the way forward, she walked more and more steadily. , and gradually emerged from the eyes of the crowd with a look of envy.

As the saying goes, one thought of heaven, one thought of hell. People who fall into bad emotions, like demons in hell, can only walk more and more bumpy, and only by letting go of the demons that affect emotions can we easily get on the road and usher in a new smooth road.

Emotionally stable people will turn themselves into a dazzling light, illuminate others, and warm themselves.

According to the book "Playing an Emotionally Stable Adult Every Day":

As an adult, you have to treat your emotions as business and take responsibility for your own profits and losses.

Bad emotions not only don't solve anything, they complicate simple things. You will only get more disgust, misunderstanding, rejection and even disgust.

In life, we meet a lot of people every day and deal with a lot of things. Among them, there will be emotions that make us uneasy, anxious, and even angry. As adults, we do not treat like children with contempt, but with calm and rational analysis. Try to digest negative emotions.

For unreasonable things, you can gently say "no" instead of using harsh words;

For nasty people, you can calmly refuse, but don't wave your angry fists.

As we become more and more calm, calm and polite in dealing with all kinds of difficult problems, we will find that our lives have reached another level, and life seems to be getting smoother and smoother.

Eventually you will understand that no one else can lower your standard of living except your bad emotions.

The legendary Thai White Dragon King once warned everyone that as long as people have a good temper, everything will be fine.

People live, and there are not many happy things. If you make yourself angry every day, the next day will only end in dismal light.

Hurrying up is a philosophy of doing things, but also an attitude to life; not losing your temper at will is a kind of cultural cultivation and invincible self-confidence in the world.

When we understand the importance of controlling our emotions, we can live in flowers and away from leaves. Ordinary and lucky days will follow.

For the rest of our lives, let us converge our emotions and be a gentle and beautiful person, because the future, what makes us happier and happier, is a stable good temper.