People walk on the long road of life, along the way will encounter a lot of twists and turns and unsuccessful, when we encounter this situation, hope to get their understanding and comfort, of course, many times, we will also switch roles, become the person who can comfort others.
Can comfort people, will comfort people, test a person's emotional intelligence and ability, life, many people themselves are good, but did not get good results.
In daily life, many people have the opposite effect when comforting others, making things worse and worse.
If we can understand a little bit of psychology, these problems will be solved.
From a psychological point of view, the "placebo" effect tells you that if you really want to comfort a person, it is enough to do it well.
What is the "placebo" effect?
The placebo effect, also known as the pseudo-drug effect, the pseudo-drug effect and the metabolizer effect, is a psychological concept that is mainly used in psychological counseling.
The placebo effect refers to the phenomenon that although the patient receives ineffective treatment, he "expects" or "believes" that the treatment is effective, and the patient's symptoms are alleviated, which plays a positive psychological cue.
In layman's terms, when the patient is completely unaware, let him take a fake drug that has no effect at all, but the patient gets the same or better effect as the real medicine.
This kind of false practice is very common in medical and psychological cases, and many doctors often consider using this "placebo effect" when treating patients.
The "placebo" effect is also increasingly being applied to other aspects of our daily lives, such as when comforting others.
Positive psychological cues have a good effect
01), as we all know, the role of psychological cues on people is very large, a positive psychological cues and a negative psychological cues, the impact on people is very obvious.
There was a real-world example: two people went to the hospital at the same time to check their bodies, and when they went to get the medical report another day, because the two had the same name, one of them mistakenly took the other's diagnosis report back home.
The real situation is that one person is seriously ill and the other is a healthy person, because the two people took the wrong diagnosis report, and the results are shocking.
The man who had been sick, seeing that his diagnosis was healthy, lived happily with complete peace of mind, and a few years later, when he was examined again, he made a full recovery.
Another man who was originally healthy was depressed when he saw that he was seriously ill, and a few years later, he actually died because of that disease.
02), that is, the role of psychological cues deserves our attention, and we can also use this method to comfort others.
When a person encounters something unhappy, we have to find a way to convince him that things will turn around, or tell the other party that things are not as bad as he thinks.
From a psychological point of view, when a person encounters difficulties, it is the time to feel the most helpless, if we want to comfort him at this time, we must comfort the other party from the most hopeful point of view, and pull the other party back from the edge of despair.
We can tell the other person some examples that are similar and end up with good results, and convince them that they will get through this and will have a good result.
In hindsight, you will find that positive psychological cues can bring us unexpected good results, which can really be said to be more effective with half the effort.
This is also psychologically justified, more like the power that the Law of Attraction brings to us.
Therefore, we must be good at using this psychological knowledge, first of all, to help the other party from the emotional side of the reversal, as long as the mood is good, the attitude of doing things will also improve, things will also develop in a good direction.
The attitude of sincere empathy with it is the most impressive
When we persuade others, we must be sincere in our attitude and try to look at and think about problems from the perspective of the other party.
In this way, the other party can really rely on you, and no matter what method you use to comfort the other party, they will be convinced.
Human interaction is based on sincerity, as long as we can empathize with each other to understand each other, empathy with each other, we will get his trust.
Many times, if you want to comfort a person, you need to spend some time and patience, listen carefully to the other person's talk, let them feel your heartfelt care and help, rather than perfunctory.
As a member of society, we should both help others and may need help, and when we choose to comfort a person, we must be mentally prepared in advance and pay some time and energy.
As the saying goes, help people to the end, if we want to comfort a person, we must insist on it, do not give up halfway, with the appropriate method is important, and the important thing is not to dislike the other party's trouble and choose to quit halfway.
Doing so will hurt the other person to a great extent, and it may be better not to participate in it from the beginning.
On the whole, if we want to comfort a person, we must be good at using the "placebo" effect, coupled with our sincerity and patience, I believe that we will definitely help others.