I now live in a house with my boyfriend and have a computer desk.
On the table was my boyfriend's book, and at the bottom of the book was a photo album.
The album was given to me by my boyfriend's ex.
One.
This secret was not discovered by me, it was told to me by himself.
That night, I was huddled at the head of the bed watching a movie, and he sat on the couch teasing the cat while glancing at me with the afterglow.
Sensing that I was about to turn off the computer, he crept over to me and whispered, "I'll tell you something, but don't get angry." ”
I had a hunch that it wasn't a good thing, so I put the computer next to me and sat up a little straight.
"My ex-girlfriend gave me a photo album, she made it herself, and when she received it, she was very touched and felt a pity to lose it."
At this point, he looked at my expression, made sure I wasn't angry, and then continued:
"But I was afraid you would mind, so when I moved, I hesitated for a long time whether to keep it, and I asked Ze Peng and Pei Pei to see what they said."
After a pause, he told me in a voice several degrees smaller: "Finally I decided to leave it." ”
On the surface, he chose to keep the album.
But every girl knows that he chose the former between his ex and himself.
Two.
Faced with his decision, I was lost.
But considering that he took the initiative to confess this matter to me, he felt that he was still cared for, and he was not particularly angry, but more curious.
So I said to him, "Can you show me?" ”
Then I got this album, made by my boyfriend's ex.
After carefully reading it, I kind of knew what he meant when he said "very touched". Writing, drawing, pasting, taking pictures, adding up to more than half a month.
At the end of the album, there are all the movie tickets and tickets they bought when they were together.
One of the movie tickets is Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them.
I remember when the second part of the movie was released, he told me that the series was very good, but I didn't expect it at all, he was watching it with his ex-girlfriend.
A few hints of vinegar bubbled up, but soon dissipated again.
Instead of losing my temper, I carefully aligned the movie tickets and put them back in place.
I have to admit that it is indeed a heart that no one can bear to destroy.
It was also at that moment that I realized that letting him choose between my ex and me was a mistake in itself, because there was no choice at all.
That album doesn't represent the predecessor, much less anyone, it only represents the happiness of the past.
And I believe that girls will not bear to deprive their boyfriends of their past happiness, but will feel:
Before he appeared, it was good to have someone to accompany him and make him happy.
It's hard to believe that a girl who has always been stingy would actually say such a tolerant word.
In fact, girls are not naturally jealous, as long as the boyfriend gives enough security, we will not suffer from gain and loss.
Just like him, although he left the photo album sent by his predecessor, he would take the initiative to confess to me and seriously consider my feelings.
So much so that when his happiness has nothing to do with me, I don't think it matters.
Three.
Moreover, the happiness of the past should not be denied.
The reason why I have this feeling is because I recently had a friend break up. We were in the same university, and I watched them go to the library every day for self-study, go to the cafeteria to eat together, skip class together to go to another city to see Eason Chan's concert.
Who would have thought that when you break up, you will be embarrassed to the point of scolding in the circle of friends.
The girl called me in the middle of the night and choked up and said, "Has he never liked me?" ”
I was a little stunned, not that I didn't know how to answer, but that I found this sentence very familiar, and at some point in the past, I actually said it.
And the answer I got at the time was: "Don't deny the whole relationship because the ending is not good." ”
After thinking about it, I felt that it was reasonable, because overturning the past was not good for me.
It is better to accept that they liked each other at the beginning, admit that they were happy when they were first together, and even if they did not disperse in the end, they at least took away a little good memory.
Instead of concluding, "He never liked me."
That's why I think that what my ex sent can stay.
Although most people's interpretation is that keeping means not letting go, in fact, it can also be that we divide our feelings into many stages, and the items that are left behind represent a certain stage that is worth remembering.
Only by looking clearly at each stage of the relationship can it be easier to get out of the pain of breaking up.
Remember that it's as important to remember that you've been happy with each other as it is to accept each other's departure.
At last.
The reason for writing this article is because I saw a message from a reader in the background.
In March of '17, he made an appointment to top a cluttered message to confess to someone he liked, and we agreed.
Now more than two years have passed, they fell in love and broke up, and the original message, we are still at the top.
Many people will be a little sad or unwilling to talk about such things, but the tone of the reader is very relaxed.
I think they must have had a good memory, and they still feel this way after the breakup, so when they talk about it, what makes people feel is not regret, but gratitude.
Pretty good.