This is a help message from the official account:
I've determined it's a fake breakup and I don't know what to do?
The breakup I (the female) mentioned was originally just to make him pay attention to me, but I didn't expect him to agree in a fit of anger, and I also moved out of the place where I lived together in anger and did not look back.
Since we were still busy with the job exam at the time, in order to reduce the impact, the news of the two of us breaking up was not made public, and after almost a week, I thought that everyone had calmed down and felt that the two still liked each other.
Until I saw him like him in the circle of friends I sent, I plucked up the courage to take the initiative to find him and tell him that as long as he was willing to save me and change the shortcomings, we could talk about it, and then he agreed to talk after the exam.
Now our relationship is deadlocked, each other does not take the initiative to chat with each other, but he will often turn over my space and like in my circle of friends, the relationship between the lovers in our game has not been lifted, and the WeChat couple avatar has not changed.
I don't know how long I'll have to wait until he initiates coming to me. I've bowed my head, and girls can't abuse themselves like this anymore. I'm sad now, why hasn't he come to me yet, isn't he worried that I've started to give up on him?
After reading the message, I replied to her like this:
Now, the best news for you is that it is a fake breakup between you, and it is relatively easy to save the love, but don't take it lightly because you are a fake breakup.
Obviously, his patience with you has been almost exhausted by you, and at this moment, if you don't do it right, a fake breakup directly turns into a real breakup.
Speaking of which, you must have questions about how to judge a fake breakup, and what are the signs?
<h1>First, the most direct sign – quarrel</h1>
If the other person really yells at you, yells, or even scolds you, it's also likely to be a fake breakup. In fact, the noise is not terrible, the noise at least means that you still have a chance, and even want to attract your attention, because the other party is nervous you will be affected by your every move.
<h1>Second, contact</h1>
If it's a fake breakup, the other person usually won't block you. And the other party will answer your phone, even if the attitude is very poor, it is also a subjective state when communicating with you. And it will not be like the real breakup, very rationally pull all the connections out, turn a blind eye to you, hear nothing.
<h1>Third, the common social circle</h1>
Suppose you break up, but you still have mutual friends, classmates, and colleagues, and the other party does not announce the news in your common social circle, which may be a fake breakup.
The other person is not announcing the breakup in the social circle, but is actually giving each other a chance and giving each other some time to calm down. Therefore, not announcing a breakup in social circles is an important sign of a fake breakup.
<h1>Fourth, shared memories</h1>
When the party who proposed to break up still has photos of past travel and show love on the WeChat circle of friends and Weibo, it shows that the other party still cares about you and wants to repair the old with you.
<h1>Fifth, return things to their original owners</h1>
Two people together for a long time, there will inevitably be some couple's items or gifts to leave a little for themselves, a little left in the other's home, at this time, the party who proposed to break up, did not let you take things away, or packaged and sent to you, or even directly discounted to you.
There is no doubt that the female client who came to me for help was facing a fake breakup. But she seems to take fake breakups too seriously, and his boyfriend is about to be "fake" by her. ”
If we don't want this to happen, then the following two big misunderstandings, you have to understand.
<h1>The first mistake that tends to emerge in the face of a fake breakup is: "I thought he would be back." ”</h1>
"Isn't it a fake breakup? Make a fuss, the anger subsides, and naturally come back! ”
If you have such an idea, stop as soon as possible and see the movie "Ex 3"? The hero and heroine broke up with each other, the male protagonist thought that the female protagonist would not go, the female protagonist thought that the male protagonist would coax her back, and the final ending was regrettable.
<h1>The second misunderstanding that is easy to appear in the face of fake breakups is that I have put down my face to talk to him, but his attitude has disappointed me. </h1>
"Anyway, it's also a fake breakup, I'll talk to him, if you want to reconcile with me, continue, if you don't want me to argue with him again!" 」 If you have such an idea to talk to the other person, please stop!
What's the difference between you like that and before you broke up? Why is there something wrong with your relationship? You have to find the reason from you, and if you don't change at this time, you will continue to make a big fuss. Then I have to congratulate you, "dreams come true" - true sex breakup.
In the face of a fake breakup, it is really not difficult to save, as long as you avoid misunderstandings, agree with the fact of a temporary breakup, and realize that the current relationship is indeed problematic, and part of it appears on yourself.
But the root of redemption is to find the crux of the breakup, only in this way can we prescribe the right medicine. What you have to do is to solve the contradiction point, change yourself, appropriately lower your posture, talk to the other party, give the patience to communicate, and the problem will be easily solved.