China's ancient society was a society in which men were inferior to women, and in the feudal era, the status of women was extremely low. From some film and television works and historical documents, we can know that the status of women in feudal society was extremely low. The women of that era, their minds were deeply imprisoned, and they could only become vassals of men. Although it is said that the scarf does not allow the eyebrows, but these are only a minority after all, most women's lives can only be ordinary and tragic. Today we will explore the ancient widows, they can not remarry like today, so how did they insist?
From the perspective of the timeline of history, the status of women in the Ming and Qing dynasties was extremely low, and women in that era could be described as extremely miserable, let alone widows. And how did a widow insist on never marrying again for the rest of her life? We all know that the three-inch golden lotus came from the Ming and Qing dynasties, but foot binding is only a microcosm of the bad habits of that era. The most incomprehensible thing is the chastity arch, which can be said to have forced the widow to the extreme.
During the Ming and Qing dynasties, people at that time used the chastity arch to honor those widowed women, and if they could not remarry for the rest of their husband's life after the death of their husband, then there would be a chastity arch as a medal. During that period, it was extremely harsh for women, allowing only men to have three wives and four concubines, but not allowing women to remarry. And widows don't want to marry for the rest of their lives, but they are forced by this society.
From the time these women were born, they were indoctrinated with feudal ideas. It can be said that the education they received from childhood was how to be a good wife and how to become a good wife recognized by society at that time. And widows are not willing to remarry, in fact, in order to become a good wife recognized by society, only by keeping their virginity, only by not remarrying, only by living a widow for a lifetime, they can not be spurned by the people at that time.
But is it really so easy to live a widow for a lifetime? Of course not, there are a lot of things in it that we don't know. And there was once an old man in his seventies who told her some secrets that were not known. We all know that "there are not many widows in front of the door", and the neighbors always like to pay attention to these widows and observe their words and deeds. As long as they have a little bit of action, it will become the talk of the neighbors after dinner. In fact, the government of the feudal era thought the same thing, they supported the widow's behavior and would pay them some living expenses.
The various practices of feudal society are aimed at appeasing these
Widows, so that they can be at ease to be widowed. The emergence of the Chastity Arch undoubtedly pushed this behavior to the peak. At that time, under the influence of social climate, many widows would choose to remain widowed for the rest of their lives at the beginning. But after they persisted for a few years, they found that this matter was not so easy, and it was very painful to live alone for many years. And the Chastity Arch is no longer an honor, but like a mountain pressing down on them.
Even if one day they break through the shackles of society and want to choose a person to remarry, people in society will not let them go. Man can also be said to be a social animal, and even if these widows can overcome psychological obstacles, they will survive only in the scorn of others for the rest of their lives. Even in serious cases, their remarriage behavior will cause the disaster of killing. In order to be able to live a normal life and to save their own lives, these widows can only live and widow for the rest of their lives.
We can't imagine how the women of that era lived, and these women didn't have any right to choose. Even their own marriage matters can only be decided by their own parents, and they need to be strictly disciplined by their parents before their families. After marrying a wife, they had to face the life of a husband and a godson. It can be said that the women of that era were only tools for succession, from birth to the end of the basics of their own thoughts, everything has been dominated by men.
Conclusion: In that feudal society, the status of women was extremely inferior, let alone widows. These widows are themselves inferior under the influence of society, and if they want to break through the shackles of the times, they must face the pressure of the mountains. Spit stars can drown people, and these widows have to accept the social blockade of them if they want to survive in peace. And women in the new era are undoubtedly happy, no one can force them, they can do whatever they want. Especially for their own lifelong events, they are free to make choices, which is a truly complete life that a woman should have.