The suffering of young people at the wine table has been vented on the Internet this year.
Before there were entertainment idols who set up a collapse in the wine table and retreated from the circle, and then there were Ali employees who took the opportunity to go to court, no one expected that the young people who had been oppressed by the wine table culture for a long time finally came to a cultural rebellion.
But it's not the wine table that breaks down. After all, not all wine table cultures take people intoxicating and vomiting as the primary goal and ultimate pursuit.
When Mr. Ma Bond sat on the train of the pre-industrial era and gathered with the county magistrate's wife and Master Tang to eat hot pot, they discussed "to have meat, to have a song, to have a beautiful woman, to have wine."
Vulgar, but not forced.
At the most famous liquor bureau in Chinese history, Liu Bang's concubine Fan Duo was asked by Xiang Yu to "be able to drink again", and Fan Duo drank it all and scolded Xiang Yu for not keeping his promises.
It is all a matter of persuasion, and This cup of Teacher Fan Duo has provided a historic opportunity to help the CEO escape from the tiger's mouth.
However, what makes Xiao Li, a social animal, wonder so far is that how did a small glass of 56-degree liquor or two become Wang Zong's face?
It is reasonable to say that Wang Zong's face is usually used when helping friends discount.
We also can't understand that Manager Li paid special attention to Xiao Wang's "problem of not being able to look up to him" today.
Did he forget that before this liquor bureau, everyone was just a stranger in the group who played "hahahaha".
Of course, we all know that the most dissatisfied is Xiao Li, who does not blush after drinking wine, does not walk, and is obviously "not drunk in place".
Is this a distortion of human nature, or the loss of the wine table
What do young people hate?
Is it really because young people reject the table culture because we don't like to drink? Of course not.
Just as a girl who says she doesn't like you has nothing to do with whether you love dumplings or not.
▲ Stills of "Domestic Lingling Paint"
Friends who love the early morning are always accustomed to sending photos of the hangover of the dead party to the group to share p-pictures; young people who love the circle of friends are also willing to give up the beauty of self-congratulation and accept everyone's cheap praise; do not love the lively workers, and will also look for opportunities to eat barbecues and drink draft beer on the side of the road.
Even more frightening than the culture of the wine table and the sense of oppression of the superiors and subordinates is the unequal relationship at the wine table.
In "Thirty Only", Wang Manni just entered the company as a newcomer, the first time the department dinner, a question from the leader with ulterior motives, a group of colleagues threw Wang Manni, and even dried three glasses of red and white beer.
▲ Screenshot of "Thirty Only"
This is the terrible thing about wine table culture. Wherever she dined with her, the colleagues were all people who wanted to see Wang Manni ugly and embarrassed, and in that scene, Wang Manni and the leader were not equal, needless to say, other old colleagues also clinging to the leader's side and putting pressure on Wang Manni.
If you want to keep this new job and open up the work situation, Wang Manni can only resolve this crisis by drinking.
Not only that. Unequal relations also turn the wine table into a shrewd and powerful utilitarian field that praises leaders, regards the social prejudice of pandering to customers as evidence of "like-mindedness", and takes the needle-in-the-haystack boast of each other's vulgar life taste and consumption concept as the touchstone of "talking" and "being able to be a person". This wine table culture, I am afraid that it is not only young people who hate it.
▲ "I'm fine in another country"
Mr. Lu Xun said that all the wine tables that have to show their "ability" by drinking a lot of wine and turn themselves into objects for entertainment are wine tables that cultivate "servility".
The only people who profit from this kind of liquor are probably those who squint at the jokes.
So why is there still a wine table culture?
Why does the wine table culture exist?
There are several theories, the first of which says that the liquor store is a testing ground for testing obedience and sincerity.
What is testing, if you are willing to do something and get you to do it, it is not called surprise testing, testing you have to sacrifice.
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Everyone knows that alcohol is hard to drink, and drinking too much is not good for the body.
But with a look in the leader's eye, you can grasp the meaning in the vast sea of people, raise the wine glass in a way that does not hesitate to hurt the body, and briefly shock the whole field with your small mass, which is called testing.
Even if you vomit to death for a while, in the eyes of the leader, this young man is reliable.
The so-called obedience is to see whether you are willing to meet the needs of the leader with self-destructive behavior, in order to confirm whether you are worthy of being trusted.
In this sense, your vomiting is just your name.
The second theory is that the punitive function of the wine table can help people have rapport.
If you deeply understand the culture of the wine table, you will find that the loss at the wine table is not necessarily inferior, and sometimes it is the opposite.
We retrieved a paper, "How Institutional Environment and Governance Need to Shape the Wine Culture of Chinese Officialdom——— An Empirical Study Based on the Drinking Behavior of County Officials," which is very interesting about the wine culture of Chinese officialdom.
A secretary said this about his performance in different liquor bureaus: Drinking with cadres of organs mainly depends on the state, and can drink or not drink, but in townships and towns, no matter how bad the state is, the wine that should be dried and the wine that should be toasted will never be less. They work so hard, I drink not for myself, I drink on behalf of the county party committee and county government, on behalf of the county party committee and county government to thank the cadres who have made sacrifices and contributions.
There is also a secretary. Ming said that he drank too much to make his subordinates angry.
You let your subordinates work, how do you treat them afterwards? Not only is it a material incentive, but also to come to a dinner party, you must drink a lot, show an ugly attitude, smile happily, and have a harmonious relationship between superiors and subordinates.
The example in the paper is around 2015, of course, under the construction of party style and clean government today, the wine table culture has naturally become better and better.
But it reflects the problem that the wine table culture has changed because some people think of it as a kind of wine table PUA field.
People are probably not to blame for the wine and the wine table, but for the unbridled power and the darkness of human nature attached to it.
Imagine, after leaving the liquor store, do you really have the right to refuse?
A good example is that at the annual meetings of many training institutions, those employees who have not completed their performance slap themselves and spank themselves, which is not only a public demonstration of power, but also a discipline of the body.
In Foucault's theory, this is the establishment of a norm of behavior and thought with an open, observable punishment.
The wine table, as a field of power with limited publicity, is no exception. It's just that the wine table is no longer a big ass or a slap, but has become some other form of taming the body.
Think about your body and expression at the wine table, your language, your posture, and your drinking movements, your toasts, your lowered glass, your face red. Do you want to express yourself this way, or do you accomplish the adjustment of your body's discourse through the domestication of multiple wine tables?
Those seemingly unreasonable persuasions are actually the result of a vicious corporate culture and some unequal social power. The most important thing to scold is those stubborn thinkers who defend and support the culture of persuasion.
Well, here we have told the story and the truth. Let's talk about your experience and views on wine table culture in the comments section.
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