At first glance, it is a child who grew up in Chinese culture, and there is a deeply hidden beauty of oriental women.
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Yu Yanjie is a fan of figure skating and has written many stories of figure skaters.
A few days ago, I saw the news that due to the impact of the epidemic and flight restrictions, the International Skating Union cancelled the Chinese arena. Sister Yu Yan felt a little regret in her heart.
Because originally, I was still looking forward to seeing Zhu Yi and Chen Hongyi.
Unsurprisingly, Zhu Yi and Chen Hongyi will represent China at next year's Winter Olympics.
Both girls are 19 years old, one is a naturalized athlete returning from the United States, one is a native of Beijing, one is a Highchi parent with excellent learning, and the other comes from an ordinary family with a slightly poor income.
In addition, both children have suffered serious injuries.
Zhu Yi was stabbed into the bone by an ice knife and could not train on ice for several months, so the doctor had to put a sponge inside her foot tissue.
Chen Hongyi's head was kicked by someone else's ice knife, and dengshi was bleeding profusely, and he was unable to train because of a serious foot injury.
These two girls are particularly beautiful, tough, humble, idyllic, gentle, look shy and shy, speak softly, but brave and persistent inside, and have a calm breath whenever they face big things.
It feels like these two children have no temper even in adolescence, because they have received enough love and respect, and there is nothing to rebel and complain about.
Two families with different backgrounds have cultivated enviable daughters, and the personalities of the two children are so similar.
The hot question is: the birth of an elite, how big is the family factor.
Let's take a look at what Zhu Yi and Chen Hongyi, the families of the two girls have in common.
Some netizens encountered the flame (Chen Hongyi's nickname) in the first body, saying that the flame silently competed with himself, fell painfully, and immediately got up and jumped after falling.
Yu Yanjie watched an interview program by Chen Hongyi a few years ago.
In the video message area, everyone is lamenting that The family situation of the flame is worse than that of the ordinary middle class. Mottled walls, cramped rooms, a small single desk in school style, the flames hunched over to meet its height.
However, this does not hinder the development of excellent children in the slightest, thanks to the fact that The Flame has a very good pair of parents.
The Flame Family is not far from Zizhuyuan Park, where the lake water freezes in winter, and some people go to the lake to skate wild ice.
When Flame was 3 years old, her father took her to skate.
At that time, The flame did not even have a pair of children's skates, and her father let her wear shoes and put them on her mother's skates, so she began to contact skating under extremely irregular conditions.
Who would have thought that the 3-year-old flame put on his mother's skates, slipped up in three or two strokes, and slid a large circle before returning.
It is not easy for ordinary people to stand up on ice for the first time, and Flame can actually skate when he wears unsuitable skates.
The father should even think that this child has a talent for skating.
After a winter of skating outdoors, Flame offered to enroll her in a class, which was also in line with her father's educational ideas.
The father of the flame always said that today's children rarely see those who jump around after class, the child should be alive and well, we do not report any Olympic numbers, and if we want to report, we will report a sports class.
Figure skating is a money-burning sport.
The cost of The Flame's lesson ranges from 80 yuan for a class at the beginning to 100 yuan for a class, and then to 200 yuan and 300 yuan for the next class. By the time Flame was 14 years old, the annual training cost had reached more than 200,000 yuan. It wasn't until he was selected for the national team 3 years ago that Flame didn't have to pay for training at his own expense.
As mentioned earlier, Flame's family is not wealthy.
Her parents opened an online store to maintain a livelihood, the business of the online store in the past few years was not very good, and her parents' own life was very frugal, and the money saved was all spent on figure skating.
In addition to coaching fees, venue fees, a pair of skates 2,000 yuan, a set of Kausyo vines thousands of pieces, in addition to children also have to learn dance, gymnastics, ground exercises.
An ordinary family has invested such a large amount of money, and it is normal for parents to expect results.
But The flame's parents were very calm about the grades.
In particular, her father said that there is nothing worthless, even if it is not worth it now, it is worth it, it is already an achievement to be able to slide to this day, and the child's experience is her wealth.
For a family that is not rich, it is really not easy for parents to be so open-minded.
Flame's mother is also a sheep mother, and when she talks about her child, she sheds tears and keeps saying "or forget it."
"The hardest thing is the repetition of the situation, the hard time to see a little hope, and then it's pitch black, and everything has to start all over again," said Flame's mother.
But as long as the child does not want to give up, the parents will not say a word of support.
Because their parents have given enough freedom, Flame pays special attention to his own choices, and is particularly persistent in learning to skate, and when the time comes, he is never late.
Zhu Yi also has an enlightened father like Flame's father.
Zhu Yi's father is a professor at the University of California, Los Angeles, where he has led several national artificial intelligence projects in the United States.
His father, Zhu Songchun, was a bully from China to the United States, but he never asked his daughter to delve into academia like himself.
Zhu Songchun was a gentle father who never interfered with his daughter's interests.
Table tennis, badminton, taekwondo, the child likes anything with her, do not ask the daughter to specialize in one, let her toss.
Later, Zhu Yi fell in love with figure skating. For $200 a day's training fee, Zhu Songchun did not hesitate to pay. The daughter slipped out of the house, the wife quit her job to accompany the child, and the father helped the child sharpen the ice knife and do massage.
To tell the truth, compared with those strange Lolita dolls in Russia, Flame and Zhu Yi are not very talented players.
Flame is 173 years tall, 10 centimeters tall in a year during adolescence, and jumping is more difficult for her.
When I first started practicing professional figure skating, most of the coaches were not optimistic about the flame, thinking that her center of gravity was too high, and her expression ability was not strong, and there were many children who were stronger than her at that time.
Zhu Yi's situation is similar.
He only began to learn figure skating at the age of 7 and a half, and only began to practice hookers for three weeks at the age of 16, which was much slower than the progress of other professional players.
However, Huo Miao and Zhu Yi are both athletes who can be particularly persistent.
In particular, Flame, while skating, goes to school, and his grades can still be in the top 10 of the class.
The teacher said that The flames were only 1/4 of the other students' time in school.
With 3 classes in the morning, 1 class in the afternoon, and training at noon and in the evening, learning is a side hustle for her.
Because of this, Flame cherishes time so much that he is still writing his homework the night before the game.
"Time is so little, you don't cherish it, there is none." Flame said.
Because of the limited conditions, the coach went around looking for ice skating with the flames, and even used the ice rinks in the mall.
The ice quality of the commercial venue is not good, there are grooves and snowflakes on the ice surface, most professional players do not skate such ice, but the flames just stumble and stick to it.
Even if she was crying, she avoided letting the coach see it, and slid to the other side of the ice rink to wipe her tears, making people feel the maturity and upbringing of this girl.
This is probably also due to the relaxed family atmosphere, prompting children to take the initiative to take on their own choices. The respect and support of parents for their children makes them psychologically stable and secure.
Just like Yu yushi once wanted to give up skating and play baseball, his father also responded gently to do whatever he wanted to do with the child, and as a result, Yusheng Yuxian tangled for a while or chose to continue skating.
Later, Yusei yushin said that if his father had forced himself severely at that time, he would probably have rebellious emotions and hated skating.
Parents are tolerant and gentle to their children and do not force them, and children will take their decisions more seriously.
Back to the question at the beginning of this article: the birth of an elite, how big is the family factor.
Yu Yanjie said that the family factor is very large, very large, but not the kind that everyone thinks.
In recent years, the most rhythmic topic on the Internet is class solidification, it is difficult to get out of the cold door, and at the same time, there are never many excellent children from ordinary families.
Raising children is really not a matter of going to a few more interest classes than burning money.
Family atmosphere influences the formation of personality. The so-called family factor means that -
1. Favorable educational conditions.
2. Sound personality training.
3. Clear life goals.
4. Selfless support and encouragement.
Zhu Yi and The flame family, the economic ability is not the same, the cultural level is not the same, but they are all warm.
Everyone in the Flame family is her supporter.
Grandma knew that The Flame liked Jin Yeon-er, so she took a lot of pictures on the TV and washed them out for her uncle to carry the Flames.
The mottled walls of the Flame Family were plastered with photos taken from the TV, making Yu Yanjie feel that this crowded small space was full of love.
The zhu yi family is the same. Mom and Dad speak softly and softly in a literati style.
When Zhu Yi was young, her parents never reprimanded her for breaking things with her children.
Zhu Yi's father said: "When the parents roar at the children like thunder, the children receive a bunch of garbled code, except for the fear of being scolded and crying, do not understand any instructions from the parents." ”
Zhu Yi said that her father was very warm and tolerant, like a partner.
Sister Yu Yan found that the young parents around her obviously knew how to respect their children better than my parents' generation. They pay attention to all aspects of the child's growth, including psychology, personality, and quality. Even many parents have taken positive psychology classes for their children.
These children, who grow up in love and respect, are very different in personality from those who spend their time in tension and conflict.
A child like Flame, whether she chooses to skate or not, I believe she can grasp her life.
Some articles that mobilize anxiety say that raising children depends on fighting daddies, which is actually true, but it is not about property status, or even about throwing money, but about family atmosphere and parental wisdom.
China's figure skating women's singles have been in the doldrums for 20 years since Chen Lu.
I look forward to self-driven athletes like Chen Hongyi and Zhu Yi, and I also hope that more young people will create their own era.
Back to the topic of this article.
How big is the family factor in the birth of an elite?
It's big, probably all.
The pictures in this article are from the internet
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