Let me tell you what is the trick to the sweet and happy life of my daughter-in-law for twenty years?

Before I was twenty-four years old, I never thought of marrying out of the house, because I was the only daughter of my parents.

In 1999, I was 24 years old. I had been working in Shenzhen for five years before I met my husband. After deciding to work, my parents repeatedly warned me not to fall in love outside! You have to go home and recruit a son-in-law. Because I have a lively and cheerful personality, tall figure, fair skin, a high nose, and deep eyes, (a bit like a foreign girl). Although it is not stunning, it is a girl who is particularly attractive to watch, and the more she looks at it, the better! During the period, the family mediator broke through the threshold, and when I was at home, I was very disgusted that others came to the door in advance, and the matchmaker entered the door on the front foot, and I slipped out on the back foot. There are also a lot of good boys out there pursuing me! But I took my parents' words in mind and was unmoved.

In 1999, I met my husband at a school in Shenzhen, and I just returned from the army. Three years younger than me, one meter tall, seven or eight meters tall, very quiet and handsome boy. I looked at him as a younger brother, but I didn't expect that he would actually look at me and pursue me hard.

The moment he confessed, I was confused. How could it be, younger than me. He refused on the spot, and then he gave up, and a lot of things happened in the middle that touched me, and finally we were together.

His parents knew about us, and a hundred disagreed. The husband's family is relatively well-off, the whole family is commodity grain, and the commodity grain is very popular at that time! There is a work unit. The father-in-law is still the leader of the unit. My family is a rural, only child, the mother is frail and sickly, and more than three years older than her husband. Think it's not a good match, right?

My father-in-law had written letters to me at that time, and also to my father (which I later learned about). The main meaning of writing to me is that I have been out for many years, my life experience is richer than my husband, my husband is relatively simple, and our outlook on life will be different. The content written to my father mainly means that my family is an only child, how can my father be willing to marry me? Anyway, I didn't agree to persuade my husband to break up!

Reading his letter, I was very angry, firmly proposed to break up with my husband (it was boyfriend ha at the time) and ignored him for several days. In order to break up, his fists were hammered bloody against the wall. Later, he threatened his parents to come to my house as a door-to-door son-in-law, and the in-laws reluctantly agreed to us.

Although I reluctantly accept it on the surface, I still disagree in my heart! The husband's work was quickly done. The family urged him to go back, he took me, he quit his job, I didn't quit.

I remember vividly: In 2001, I went to his house with him. After all, the father-in-law is a leader, relatively atmospheric, and has a pattern. We arrived at the train station at four o'clock in the morning, and my husband's big brother drove with my father-in-law to pick me up! After returning home, the door opened by the sister-in-law did not see her mother-in-law.

Later, my husband took me to the second floor to sleep, and I clearly remember that there were two quilts on the bed, one of which was still relatively shabby, and it was left there, not well laid, no sheets. I slept with my husband and clothes.

I slept until more than ten o'clock, went downstairs or did not see my mother-in-law, the sister-in-law was busy cooking in the kitchen, she said that the mother-in-law went to drink. I knew very well in my heart that my mother-in-law gave me a dismount!

At four o'clock in the afternoon, my mother-in-law came back, and I said a few simple words, looking not very happy! After a few words of chat, my husband and I hid in the room, and I felt the grievance in my heart! My husband tried everything to reassure me and told me to endure for him. I dried my tears, and my heart came up sharply: Don't you like me? I'm going to try to get you to approve of me!

Early the next morning, I got up early to wash my clothes. Sweep the floor after washing your clothes. My mother-in-law is making breakfast in the kitchen, and I also go to help the kitchen, changing yesterday's restraint and falling generously to chat with her! Rushing to wash the dishes after eating.... I stayed at his house for more than ten days, every day.

Because I have a better personality and my talent is still good! People are diligent and diligent. My in-laws' attitude is getting better and better every day, and they are becoming more and more enthusiastic about me! When I returned from vacation, my mother-in-law, eldest brother, second brother, and sister and brother-in-law all went to the train station to send me off! After the train started, I cried. For my ten days of hard work, for me finally got their recognition!

Later, my husband went to work at home, called me and said, my mother said I was a good girl, and told him not to live up to me!

In the first month of 2002, I ended my part-time job, reunited with my husband, and got married in May of that year, and later had a son.

Later, I listened to the local people and said that the mother-in-law was a relatively powerful figure, with a strong personality and unforgiving speech. Everyone let her three points. Husband three brothers, because of some things, there is a sister-in-law who is not inferior, and the mother-in-law also slapped her.

Since I chose to marry outside, I knew that it was not so easy, and I had already made psychological preparations. Because I am an only child, my parents will want me to support me in the future, so I must first honor my in-laws and have a good relationship with my in-laws, which is the goal of my efforts!

We lived with my mother-in-law for three years, during which we never dared to be lazy, because our son was small and had to take his son, so he did not go to work. In addition to bringing good children, I will rush to do family affairs, greet my in-laws warmly, and have a harmonious relationship with my neighbors, never saying anything. After buying a house to live separately, although the in-laws have money, but everything I will buy back, eat, use! Birthdays, Parents' Day, buying gifts, please eat, etc. I will also buy flowers for my sister-in-law for the holidays, my husband's brother's children are hospitalized, and I will bring them food... Anyway do everything good for them!

My mother-in-law now says that I am a daughter-in-law and a daughter, more dear than a daughter! The brothers and sisters here often get together, play cards, or eat together and go out to play! Got along very well!

Because of the good relationship here, every time my parents came here, the in-laws were very polite, often asking them to eat, and never when they were outsiders! My mother-in-law also told my husband to be good to my parents!

And I privately discussed with my husband, my in-laws I filial piety, holiday shopping, take money by me to give, my parents by him to filial piety! My parents often come to live for a few months, I warn my husband, my parents are doing something wrong, you can secretly tell me, in a few days I will not show the mountains to remind my parents, with my tone to remind! Never betray your husband! So my in-laws say I'm better than my son, and my parents say my son-in-law is better than my daughter!

My parents are getting older and are ready to take over for the New Year. They used to want to live on both sides, but now that they're older, I'm afraid they won't be able to run. Every time I come over, my husband will tirelessly drive more than a thousand miles to pick up and drop off! Give my husband a thumbs up.

The way for us to get along harmoniously as a husband and wife is: he is angry and angry, I will walk away, and when he is angry, I will come and reason with him! He would apologize to me every time. Even if I get angry again, I will do the food and wash his clothes! I will give him face when there are many people, and never damage him in front of others. He had hurt me before, and when I came home I was angry and reasoned with him, now it's changed!

By next year we will get married on the twentieth anniversary, so many years have not touched, quarrels are also very rare, husband and wife feelings are harmonious, a big family is very harmonious, now our two sons, are also very obedient, we have become the envy of the surrounding foreign wives!

Some people will say that I am not worthy of being wronged like this, and some people say that I have high emotional intelligence! But I said I was mostly generous and wanted to be open! Because when you are destined to marry, you are destined to take an unusual path. Have the ability to withstand all kinds of things. Extramarital marriage is a common phenomenon in today's society! Away from parents, loved ones, friends, it is not easy to blend into a strange place. If you're strong, little belly chicken guts! Will that survive? Will there be happiness at all? Your life will be a chicken feather, and you will end up with scales and skins! Therefore, the daughters-in-law of foreign marriage, restrain their own sharp edge, be a generous woman, and cheer for the good life of our foreign daughter-in-law!