A happy childhood heals a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood heals with a lifetime.
Especially for children who are not growing up smoothly and suffering from mental illness, how should parents save them?
Aside from formal treatment, the only panacea is the unconditional love of parents.
What is unconditional love, and is it easy to be obedient?
Unconditional love means patience, tolerance, and confidence, equality, respect, understanding, acceptance, freedom, trust, and a smile, shut up, and let go.
Remember when you were a child, you loved your child?
Waiting for the child to grow up slowly with loving eyes, the child's clumsy appearance, the careful and slow trying of various new things, the more parents look at it, the more cute they are, never urge. Smile, constantly give children encouragement and praise, give children freedom and trust. Let children never feel stupid, not inferior, not cowardly, very confident, full of curiosity about new things, and the courage to explore.
Is it difficult to learn to walk and talk?
Quite big.
Comparable to later learning.
But why is it that as long as the children with normal physical function can eventually learn smoothly?
Why does every child learn to walk and talk smoothly, but not every child can successfully complete school? It is not only a matter of good or bad grades, but some children even have difficulty in completing the nine-year compulsory education normally.
Remember when you were a child, when you taught your child to walk and talk, the attitudes and practices of parents?
That's unconditional love.
Very patient, tolerant, confident, full of gentle and loving eyes, teach the child to speak word by word, it doesn't matter if he is wrong, he will laugh happily, and hold the child to kiss and hold high.
Little children do not pay the price for mistakes and failures, encounter scolding, labeling, enthusiasm for learning, curiosity and exploration of new things are not destroyed, the harvest is full of value, security, and belonging. So learning to speak is a very happy, very happy thing for children, and they are happy to continue to try.
Teach the child to walk by hand, bend over, and take small steps forward with great difficulty. When he fell, he lifted the child up, comforted him softly, and encouraged him softly. Will not loudly scold the child as a stupid pig, or even slap the emotion out of control. It will not frighten the child to stay in place in panic, so the brain stops thinking and is confused. Later, when I think of walking, it is all painful emotional experience, so I resist walking.
The child is tired, the parents empathize and say that my little baby needs to rest, pick up the child, sing the nursery rhyme happily, and take it home. Will not be angry and rush to the crown, saying that the child is a lazy pig, you see other people's children are so diligent, so-and-so will walk long ago, you are stupid and do not work hard, you should not go. If you don't correct it, you won't be able to walk for the rest of your life, and you can only lie on your stomach as a beggar and beg for food every day.
"Do not tutor homework mother Ci Zi filial piety, a tutor homework chicken flying dog jump."
Quite simply, if parents use the attitude of "chicken flying dog jumping" when tutoring homework to teach their children to walk and talk, there is a high probability that they can only fail, and a large number of children who cannot speak and walk will appear in the world.
If parents use "unconditional love" when teaching their children to walk and talk, and cope with all the things on the road of their children's growth, including learning, the children can naturally grow up healthily, achieve excellent results, and live happily.