After yesterday's article was sent, friends said that your object actually did not hit you, too happy.
Of course, after all, before publishing an article, it is also necessary to go through the review of the "Director of the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television" of my family. Before posting, I also said to My Chestnut classmates: "Do you believe that my mother will definitely say me when she sees it?" Sure enough, as soon as I opened my eyes this morning, I saw a message from my mother:
"Your temper is a little sharp, there is something to say."
"I see that she takes care of you very carefully, much more carefully than me, and you must also be good to her, and you must speak well."
"You can talk to her if you're busy."
……
Sure enough, there is no mother-in-law contradiction in our family.
01
Some time ago, I saw a video of "Teenagers Say".
One boy complained of being forced to do housework, saying he was at home cleaning dishes, wiping the floor, picking vegetables and sweeping the floor for cooking, and complained: I am still a child.
But his mother first used her own example and then continued to reason with her son:
"I hope that in the future, when you find your partner, she will also say in front of everyone, I have no regrets about marrying you."
"In the future, your other half, she will also be pampered." Why should she be wronged with you? Why does she have to take on all the housework? You do housework now, you will have a sense of responsibility, you will take responsibility for your family. ”
I believe that with my mother's education, his future other half will be very happy.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law does not exist, and the contradiction between mother and child is almost the same.
02
In our family, there seems to be no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Although the older generation is more or less patriarchal, our family does not have it at all. Grandma was a gentle personality, and I was under the impression that she had never lost her temper, and that Grandma and my mom and several aunts got along very well.
Before high school, I also did some housework, and I would cook some simple food, after all, I had to make sure that I wasn't hungry.
Since high school, my mother seems to have consciously cultivated my cooking skills, calling me over when I often stir-fry and teaching me the tricks of stir-frying, of course, I am repelled, indicating that I do not want to learn.
But my mother said to me: "No one stipulates that girls must cook, and now there are not many boys cooking?" ”
I have the impression that my mother is cooking at home, my father will cook some simple dishes, and in my heart, the cooking skills of both of us are half a pound, but he does not do much. Mom has to go to work and do housework and cook, which is really hard, and it is excellent if you can share it with two people. Isn't that how husband and wife support each other, when you're tired, I just take the handle.
My mother cultivated me with practical actions, and my father instilled me with ideological theory.
I remember very clearly, he said, "I never asked your mother to do anything to your grandparents, but I believe that as long as I do what I have to do and be good to your grandparents, your mother will naturally be good to your grandparents." ”
It is also true that Dad was very kind to Grandparents, and So was Mom to Grandparents. There is nothing to compare to do, it is all parents, just intentions.
Dad said to me more than once, "If you get married in the future, you will treat her mom and dad the same way you treat us, or even better." Now they are all only children, and this is even more so. ”
Indeed, isn't marriage just two families supporting a new family together, so how can this newborn family be treated differently?
03
Two days ago, I watched a study video, and it was said that it was "door to door".
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I guess my classmates and Chestnut are the door-to-door, right? Both families are very warm, both parents can talk and care about us. Chestnut and I can understand each other, even if we are angry, the other party can always coax at the right time.
What she wants, I just have, and I'm willing to give it to her, and so does she. And, both parents understand and support us. I guess that's the best door-to-door, right?
How fortunate I am to think of this.