In the movie "There is a place that only we know", there is such a sentence: "Love is a pot of boiling water, there will always be a cold day, no matter which step you go, don't let this pot of boiling water freeze." ”
Feelings are a process of change, and the trend of change is good or bad, often depending on the attitude and business skills of the two people in the relationship.
In every relationship, "giving" is a presence that we emphasize, because in order to achieve a happy ending, the giving and effort during the period are indispensable.
However, do you think that by exhausting everything and being 100% satisfied with each other, you can get the desired result? Not necessarily, I'm afraid.
If couples always emphasize that there is no reservation, it is too much to leave room.
Moreover, most people will have a fresh period when they are together, and when the curiosity weakens, the feelings will stagnate with it.
So, attracting a person is not just about giving it completely, and you have to understand that a good way to make a person "enthusiastic" with you is selective satisfaction.
First, there is no need to meet all his demands, and once in a while promise his unreasonableness
Couples are actually equal, there is no one who pays a little more, or who pays a little less.
If you're abandoned for fearing that you won't meet your partner's requirements, there's really no need.
When you agree to everything and create a self-discipline for the other person, you will not be treated equally.
On the contrary, the other party will intensify your oppression, trying to absorb the last trace of enthusiasm in you.
Not only that, but sometimes excessive giving is not a good thing, because everything has a limit, and excessive profit is a loss.
You choose to satisfy everything unconditionally, and the other party will gradually forget to give their passion and only devote themselves to enjoying your tenderness and obedience.
But if you know how to indulge, and only occasionally meet the requirements of the other party, the outcome will be very different.
Because human nature is contradictory, your partner will not leave completely because of your rejection.
On the contrary, this kind of loss will prompt him to actively save the feelings between you, and your occasional obedience will also double his satisfaction, and thus be enthusiastic about you.
Second, selectively meet and refuse unreasonable demands
Occasional willfulness is a kind of love interest in love, but excessive arrogance is a kind of unreasonableness.
Both men and women must have experienced each other's arrogance and domineering, knowing that this matter will hurt each other's feelings, but he still insists on asking you to do it, leaving no retreat and bottom line for each other.
If you agree to his request at this time, then he will take the initiative to think of himself as the leader of love, and from then on he will give you orders in a lofty tone.
And when you are reduced to the humble side of love, you are doomed to be unable to harvest enthusiasm.
So don't be stupid, there are thousands of ways to express love, not that you can exchange happiness for everything you can to satisfy. Sometimes, selectively showing love is the secret of success.
You can happily fulfill your partner's innocuous little requests, and even go crazy with him, because it doesn't touch the root of your relationship.
However, if the other party always makes some unreasonable or even arbitrary demands, you can directly refuse, there is no need to worry and be afraid.
If couples can't be honest with each other, the ending will probably not be beautiful.
If you can refuse these unreasonable requests, the other party will actually accept it when it is good, and even slowly feel afraid and wandering, so as to take the initiative to offer your enthusiasm to stabilize your love.
Third, don't give too much, leave room to help you control love
When most people are in love, they will fight for themselves, either vigorously or early apart.
It seems that all the enthusiasm is to be displayed without reservation, and finally nothing is left before I begin to regret it.
This kind of love is actually not beautiful, because you will find that you have given everything, and you will gradually become empty in your feelings, and even lose yourself.
Therefore, if you want your partner to be enthusiastic about you, you must try to control your desire to give.
You have to understand that if the other party makes a request at random, you are eager to make it clear to him from beginning to end, without the slightest regard for your own feelings.
In the long run, he will also be accustomed to passive enjoyment and active control, just want to harvest your unilateral love.
But if you know how to master everything and leave a little leeway, it's like chatting, never talk too much.
Then, the other party naturally has the space and time to take the initiative, and can also give you the same enthusiastic return.
Conclusion:
Eternal love is for us to manage with our hearts.
Therefore, when we have love, please use our sincerity, perseverance, patience and love to manage well.
In a good relationship, if the proportions of effort are properly grasped, even if you have some quarrels in your daily life, you can still go to the end.
Because love is not a business, not how much enthusiasm you give, how much sincerity you can get back.
You need to know how to psychologically restrain the other person's mind, so that he will naturally be firmly conquered by you.
Indeed, in an emotional world full of romance and excitement, everyone wants to be treated with enthusiasm.
But I hope you can remember that in the face of feelings, your excessive efforts will only appear cumbersome, so try to selectively meet each other's desires and requirements, and you will get more.