"The son wants to raise but does not wait"
I don't know if most people are like me, but this time seems to be the first time we have been at home with our parents for so long since we went to school and worked far away from home.
In the past, everyone was busy studying and working, and even if they lived under one roof, there was not much time for communication.
Not to mention friends who are away from home and only come home once or twice a year, although they eat at a dinner table with their parents, they do not forget to brush the mobile phone in their hands at any time and rarely speak.
Since when did we become less communicative and distant from our parents?
The film that I happen to be talking about today is also exploring this issue.
"Judge Daddy"
This 2014 "Judge Daddy" is actually not a very brilliant movie.
But as many netizens commented, no matter how many works on the theme of family affection have been seen, they can always be moved from time to time.
The film has a strong cast, with Robert Duval playing the father and Robert Downey Jr. playing the second son, Hank.
Hank is a very good defense lawyer, he has always been cold-blooded, direct and unrelenting in his lawsuits, and his career is flourishing.
But don't look at Hank as a seemingly successful person, but life is a mess.
On the one hand, Hank's marriage is in crisis and he is going through a divorce, and on the other hand, his brother calls and his mother dies of illness and urgently needs Hank to go home.
A small town in Indiana, where Hank grew up, is home to Hank's parents, big brother and brother, playmates he's known since childhood, and his first girlfriend.
In fact, Hank has not returned for many years, and his relationship with his father is very bad.
Hank returns to his mother's funeral this time and meets his father, whom he hasn't seen in years, and the two are like strangers.
Not only did the two call each other's names directly, but there was not even a hug, just a polite handshake.
Hank's father was a highly reputable judge here, who had handled tens of thousands of cases with fairness and impartiality for decades.
Hank's eldest brother is in a small business, with a simple life and a harmonious family.
Although the youngest brother in the family is born with some poor development, he has a hobby and likes to shoot around with a video camera.
The younger brother lives with the father, and the eldest brother usually comes to take care of it from time to time.
Hank came back this time, the family who had not seen him for a long time did not know how to break the awkward atmosphere from time to time, in fact, everyone cared about each other, but always spoke and did things carefully.
Hank had planned to stay a few days and leave, but he did not expect Hank's father to be involved in a traffic accident.
Hank can't sit idly by, he has to defend his father, the father and son inevitably communicate, and the gap between them is gradually opened.
Hank's poor relationship with his family stemmed from an accident he caused when he was young.
Because he was in a car accident while driving, his brother, who had a baseball career, was injured and could not continue playing.
Hank's punishment was originally to go to community service, but Hank's father insisted that Hank go to the juvenile detention center.
Hank couldn't understand why his father was so himself.
He studied hard for many years, and was admitted to university to study as a lawyer, just so that he could one day have a successful career and get his father's affirmation.
But this time, when Hank decided to become his father's lawyer, his father refused to agree.
In fact, the personalities of both father and son are arrogant and petite, and they obviously want to reconcile in their hearts, but the two of them quarrel endlessly with one mouth.
His father was not accustomed to Hank's theory of litigation, and Hank felt that his father was old-fashioned and did not know how to change.
During the preparation time for the lawsuit, Hank gradually discovered that his father's health was in trouble, and it turned out that his father had been suffering from cancer for some time, and he had never told his family.
The film uses a lot of details to show the process of easing the relationship between Hank and his father.
The two always wanted to talk and stopped, and after arguing, they sat together and drank like nothing happened.
Even when signing the power of attorney, the two of them should not face each other and say goodbye, and they should play childish tricks.
The father was harsh on Hank because he was afraid that Hank would go astray, he actually knew his son's efforts for a long time, and he was very satisfied with his son's success now, but he did not know how to pull down his face and make peace with his son.
Hank is the same way, obviously in love with his father, want his father to be safe and sound, but always fear the sky, with an indifferent attitude to hide his heart.
When we were young, our relationship with our parents was close, we played together and made trouble, and happy times always passed quickly.
Gradually, when we grew up, we felt that our parents' nagging was very annoying, and we wanted to have our own little world as soon as possible.
So we went to chase dreams, away from home, busy, less and less concern for our parents, until suddenly one day, suddenly found that they are slowly getting older.
Hank's father finally solves Hank's long-standing confusion in court, and Although Hank has won countless lawsuits, he has lost the fight for his father.
At the end of the movie, the two sit on a boat fishing, and the father says that the best lawyer in his heart is Hank, and after saying this, the father leaves quietly.
Hank waited for his father's affirmation, and unfortunately, the two did not hug.
Back at home, Hank slowly regains his family ties, but when he hopes to make up for something, he loses the opportunity to get along with his parents forever.
Through this unusual lawsuit, Hank changed his attitude, and he realized that there were many things around him that needed to be re-examined.
Words that have not been said before, feelings that have not been cherished, time spent with brothers, and love for daughters... Now these are more worthy of cherishing for Hank than winning a lawsuit.
There are also depictions of Hank's relationship with his brother, his first love girlfriend, and his daughter.
Judging by the attitude of the people around Hank toward him, Hank used to be a very selfish person who was blind and selfish.
He had hurt the people around him more than once, and then chose to escape and leave here, thinking that everything could be faced without facing.
But the problem is there, and one day it will need to be solved personally, and the temporary escape is nothing more than self-deception. Hank understood these truths, but the price was irreversible.
Why do people always realize that they are precious when they lose?
It is probably that when I have it, I lose my sense of crisis, thinking that all this can never expire.
But the reality is that nothing will ever happen.
In fact, every time we see a theme work about family affection and need to be cherished, we all sigh when we finish watching it, but how many people can really realize and take action.
Even if such a topic is a cliché, we still want to appeal to everyone again to cherish everything we have now.
Don't only think of posting a word in the circle of friends to prove how much you love your loved ones, don't make your commitment worthless, you need to personally open your mouth to the people who love you, you need to personally prove your love with practical actions.
May everyone live a good life and have happiness, this is the simplest word of blessing, but also the most sincere wish.