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Two clichéd topics arise here.
One of them: like your or what you like, how to choose?
If, the person who likes you, you also like it – there is no need to discuss this topic at all. This is an unattainable fate, what are you hesitant about?
It's a nonchalant way: A, like yours. B, you like it. If you really need to do either/or, you will be very miserable. Fish, I want it too. Bear paws, I also want. Fish and bear paws, but can not have both, and will not merge into one.
Single-choice questions, only 50% of the correct rate. Emotional balance, which side would you let it tilt?
Many years ago, a friend asked me the same question. My answer, to her surprise. I chose "B", which I liked.
Friends were super weird and asked me "why". The reason is very simple: choose "A", although the initiative is in my hands. But the initiative of emotion is in the hands of the other party. The premise is "he likes me", what day he doesn't like me? This relationship is completely unsupportable.
Choosing "B", this is my initiative to choose, the initiative to pay is also myself. Right or wrong, it's all my own choice. Willingly, no one is to blame. I believe in my concept of "likes", which will be a lifetime. The person I like, he will certainly not be bad.
Two of them: like or suitable, how to choose?
Like, it's emotion without any color. He doesn't think about who his parents are, how much he earns, what his future holds. It's just that I'm happy to see him and I'm willing to be with him. This, unaffected by the likes of the simple and beautiful.
As for the appropriate, it is more or less "utilitarian" meaning. And, there's a lot to think about. The lesser of the two evils and the heavier of the two benefits. After that, you will make a judgment: who is the most suitable.
What fits is what it suits, but do you really like it? One thing goes one thing.
My answer to this question is "like".
What is appropriate? What you like is what is appropriate, and even if it is not, it will make him suitable. Because you like it, if you like it, you want to make a change. You wouldn't think that this is "humble for love". However, in order to make this like more long-lasting and more comfortable, it is more desirable.
As for "fit", you will have a passive sense of accommodation. Once you have a reluctant experience, it is better to say anything than to say nothing, and it is better to do nothing than to do nothing. Appropriate, vain.
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It was rare to see Wei Chen also talk about a similar topic.
And, put such a professional term in front of us - "love compensation effect": under normal circumstances, people are more likely to like people who are good to themselves and know how to cherish themselves. In the process of being pursued, the brain of the pursued person will send a message in the process of the other party's pursuit, because the other party likes himself, and the action of paying attention to the other party, he thinks that he also has a certain good feeling for the other party, and over time, he may really be touched by the person who likes himself.
It is not difficult to see that this is the confusion caused by "being liked"; there is also the fact that "fit" is easy to bring illusions.
END。
When a person finds that the other person likes himself, he will also subconsciously develop some good feelings for this person. However, this is not necessarily love.
When one feels that the other person is the right object to be together. Well, this "fitting" or has nothing to do with love.
Or learn to learn Wei Chen's "love compensation effect", maybe you will have a more sober and correct understanding of "love"!
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