When a person's thinking is limited, it will be difficult for him to succeed in doing one thing.
Chasing girls also follows this principle, when a boy's thinking is limited, we call it "prisoner thinking", then, it is difficult for him to find a girlfriend.
Only by jumping out of the limitations of thinking and not being a "prisoner" of thinking, you will find that chasing girls is a very simple and interesting thing.
If you want to jump out of the "prisoner thinking" of chasing girls, boys need to understand first: in the process of chasing girls, the principle of "prisoner thinking" is generated.
It is said that only two suitable people can eventually come together.
So, what is "appropriate"?
Whether two people are suitable, we can divide into two aspects and judge.
The first aspect: the appropriateness of the "external level" refers to whether the social circles of two people can be integrated? Are the living environments similar?
The second aspect: the appropriateness of the "inner level" refers to whether the emotions of two people can complement each other. Are the three views on the same level?
Whether two people are suitable, the appropriateness of the "external level" is the foundation, and the appropriateness of the "inner level" is the core.
Most boys in the process of chasing girls, will only use the "good for girls" way to pursue girls, which is a typical "prisoner thinking".
Boys will not think of two people to "emotionally complementary", for example, what girls want is that there is a boy who can understand her emotions, and the boy will only ask the girl to drink more hot water, at this time, the boy's thinking can not keep up with the girl's thinking.
Two people's thinking is not in the same dimension, it is not suitable, two unsuitable people, hard to get together, this is the reason why it is difficult to find a girlfriend.
In reality, most boys have "prisoner thinking" in terms of feelings, because they do not have the consciousness to learn love skills, do not think about making themselves better, and do not try to read girls.
In terms of feelings, boys are lazy, but such "laziness" brings more trouble, and the gains are not worth the losses.
So, how can boys jump out of the "prisoner mentality" and allow themselves to effectively find a girlfriend?
We can divide into two steps.
The first step is divergent thinking.
Don't just be nice to girls anymore, there are many ways to try.
For example, improve your image and make yourself more confident; find more correct methods and techniques to chase girls, so that the pursuit behavior is more effective; improve your emotional intelligence and make yourself more popular with girls, and so on.
The second step is to establish a unique idea of chasing girls.
Because everyone's advantages and specific conditions are different in all aspects, boys need to retract their thinking again after divergent thinking, find a suitable way to chase girls, and establish an effective way of chasing girls.
There is an old saying that if you fall, you must stand up, but not repeat the same mistakes, after falling, you have to find the reason for the failure, change to the correct method, and then get back up.
For example: If your skin color is relatively white, in terms of image, you can focus on the "youthful" shape and let your advantages play out.
If, your personality is more introverted, in terms of emotions, create a gentle warm male label.
There are many ways and techniques to chase girls, boys after systematic learning, and then find out the right way for themselves, in order to constantly break through the limitations of thinking, you can through my column "99 points of men", systematically learn the methods and skills of chasing girls.
The secret of a person's success is often that he knows how to play to his own advantages.
I am born to be useful, to believe, you are very good in yourself, but, in many cases, the thinking limits your play, your attraction is hidden, so it becomes difficult to find a girlfriend.
The process of chasing girls is beautiful in itself, and if the method used by boys is not correct, it will become a painful thing.
Try to open your mind and believe that you will see a whole new world.
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