When Sister Li found me, she was holding a letter of introduction from the Women's Federation. She said she was subjected to domestic violence by her husband. I have seen more cases of domestic violence. Whether it is a man to a woman or a woman to a man. Strictly speaking, as long as there is no domestic violence, then it is really difficult to judge whether the family dispute is right or wrong. It is difficult for a clean official to break the housework, and family conflicts are not caused by an accident in the day. You must know that everyone is an adult, has a certain endurance, and will not do something that destroys the feelings of both parties because of a small matter.
However, once the contradiction has accumulated for a period of time, it is likely to erupt at a point in time. However, no matter what reasons you have, you can't take the form of domestic violence to solve the problem. Once one party commits an act of violence against the other in family life, the whole act loses its corresponding legitimacy.
First, the strange domestic violence has caused serious consequences
But Sister Li's situation is somewhat special. Sister Li's marriage was a second marriage. I didn't care too much about that. Whether it is a first marriage or not, there is no necessary connection with domestic violence. As long as it is domestic violence, it is not right.
However, Liu Ye, the husband of Sister Li's second marriage, is still very good to Sister Li. Sister Li also admitted this. The two people also don't seem to have any serious conflicts emotionally. The occurrence of domestic violence is also very sudden.
The main reason is that Sister Li participated in the dinner organized by the unit at the end of the year. Because everyone was very happy at that time, the time was longer. I asked, from nine a.m. to three thirty p.m. It seems that there is no sensitivity to time.
And her husband Liu Ye called Sister Li at this time, but Sister Li did not answer. Sister Li's explanation was that she forgot to bring the phone that day. This explanation was later confirmed to be true. Then, after her husband Liu Ye did not know where Sister Li was, he came to Sister Li's brother's house and drank some wine with Sister Li's brother. After Sister Li returned in the afternoon, she called Liu Ye and found her brother's house.
Just as Sister Li's brother, Liu Ye and Sister Li had a verbal altercation, Liu Lai gave Sister Li a slap. Sister Li reported to the police at that time, and the police station dispatched police to mediate. At that time, the matter had been solved, but the more Sister Li thought about it when she went home, the more angry she became, so she found the Women's Federation. The Women's Federation asked Sister Li to come to me and help her defend her rights.
I asked Sister Li what she thought, and Sister Li said she wanted a divorce. This startled me. Why? From what I know, the feelings of the two of you are still OK. You also admit that Liu Ye has actually been very good to you all along, and this time it is also a drunken impulse. There has never been any domestic violence before.
But Sister Li still insisted on divorce. This is Sister Li's right. Freedom of marriage, including freedom to marry, and of course freedom to divorce. Therefore, Sister Li insisted on divorce, and the fact of domestic violence, this marriage will basically be divorced. It's just that it's a bit of a fuss.
Second, the process of divorce is very simple, Liu Ye does not understand, but also my incomprehension
Sister Li filed for divorce in court. Where, in accordance with the provisions of law, one party has domestic violence, divorce shall be granted. In other words, domestic violence is a statutory condition for divorce. According to the police dispatch records and investigation records of the police station, the existence of domestic violence can also be clearly proved. Therefore, Li Jie's divorce request is legally unimpeded.
However, as I have argued, the court also held that there were only some minor misunderstandings between the parties, so the divorce seemed to be a bit excessive. The two sides were organized to mediate. During the mediation process, Liu Ye apologized to Sister Li and hoped that Sister Li could change her mind. However, Li Jie still insisted on divorce, and finally the court ruled that both parties divorced according to law.
After dealing with Sister Li's affairs, I asked her my question. Why? Personally, I feel that things don't seem that simple. At this time, Sister Li also said the real reason for the matter.
It turned out that Sister Li and Liu Ye were second-married families. The emotional life of the two people has always been stable, and there is no major conflict. But recently, Sister Li's daughter returned home from college. Adds variables to family life.
Sister Li and Liu Ye's housing is relatively small, and Sister Li's daughter has great inconvenience in coming back to live with them. The house belonged to Sister Li, who wanted to transfer the house to her daughter's name. But now that Sister Li and Liu Ye live together, they are afraid of causing Liu Ye's dissatisfaction. If you do not transfer it to your daughter, if you have three long and two short in the future, then Liu Ye also has the right to inherit the house. Moreover, Liu Ye also has a son, who has also formed a custodial relationship with himself and also has the right to inherit. So if you really want to calculate it, if you don't transfer the house to your daughter now, maybe in the future, your daughter will get a very small share of the house.
So this time there was a small conflict with Liu Ye, although it would not be divorced. Sister Li felt that this was an opportunity to get the divorce done. Then, transfer the house to the daughter. In the future, there will be an opportunity to remarry Liu Ye.
I said, these thoughts of yours are not better to say directly to Liu Ye. Sister Li said that these things would not be said to Liu Ye. I thought about it, and indeed, it was really hard to say. However, I do not agree with Sister Li's approach.
Third, the house was transferred to his daughter, but Liu Ye did not return
After the court ruled that Li Jie and Liu Ye divorced, Li Jie quickly transferred the house to her daughter. However, contrary to what she had envisioned, she and Liu Ye did not complete the remarriage. Because Liu Ye found a job in a foreign country after divorcing Li Jie and left the city. Although the two people said that they would reconcile and remarry. However, after Liu Ye left, he gradually broke off contact with Sister Li. This made Sister Li very sad, and her feelings with Liu Ye were still very deep.
I asked Sister Li if it was worth it. You know, Liu Ye is still very good to Sister Li. I am afraid it will not be easy to find such a person.
Sister Li said that everything was for the sake of the child. Halfway couples have feelings, they can't just think of themselves. This daughter of her own, who did not find a job after graduation, and did not leave her some property, really did not know how she would live in the future. As a parent, at this time, there is no way to make sacrifices for your daughter.
In the next two years, I never saw Sister Li again. Until one day, she came to the door again. At this time, we can also be regarded as acquaintances. She spoke straight to the point about her daughter, who turned out to be in trouble. Because of his participation in illegal online activities, he was taken compulsory measures by the public security organs.
I asked, the crime is real, the circumstances are very serious. As for the property in her daughter's name, it was also seized by the judicial organs and prepared to make civil compensation to the victim. I said, Sister Li, you don't regret transferring the house to your daughter in the first place. Sister Li said that I was for her own good. I've done what I'm supposed to do. I'm not worried about the house now, it's a thing, I just want my children to be able to get two years less sentence.
After talking to Sister Li about her daughter, she looked at Sister Li's distant back. I also can't help but feel that the halfway couple is not necessarily without feelings. However, behind this feeling, there are responsibilities that they have to bear. It is also these responsibilities that make the two hearts that were originally together keep a distance at all times.