I stumbled upon a hot discussion on the Internet: the parents of a girl in a primary school beat her male classmates to death.
The boys lost their lives, and the girls' parents were imprisoned. Because the villain education of the little girl's parents has broken up the two families, what is even more pitiful is that the boys have not yet had time to see the world clearly.
The girl just had a little conflict with the male classmates in the same class, and when she returned home, she cried to her parents, and the girl's parents went to the school the next day to settle the account with the boy and beat the boy violently, resulting in the death of the child.
Because the impulse of these parents also buried their own future, so that their beloved daughter grew up in loneliness and lost the company of her parents.
Many netizens talked about it: the parents who beat people were too extreme and the shots were too heavy; the girls were too pretentious; boys and girls were in conflict, and boys were not better; boys lacked discipline at home; and so on.
Such parental behavior is very bad, they only know from their daughters that this boy is very bad, they beat up other people's children, there is no social moral bottom line. And bad boys aren't necessarily really "bad."
The origin of villains is in family education, and parental scolding education is the best way to cultivate villains.
01 "Bad Boys" Are Because of "Bad Parents"
Teacher Yin Jianli said a case of her daughter.
When Yuanyuan was in elementary school, there was often a bad boy to bully her, and when he was in the lower grades, he either went to pull her pigtails or threw her books, and then forced Yuanyuan to find it, and his main energy was to bully Yuanyuan.
Teacher Yin Jianli did not come forward to solve this problem at that time, but felt that the child was naughty, plus Yuanyuan had already told the teacher. She hopes her daughter will solve this problem on her own.
However, the "bad boys" who have reached the fifth grade consciously or unconsciously go to the circle and will call and harass the circle.
This made Teacher Yin Jianli a little anxious, and then she waited for the "bad" boy at the school gate, and Teacher Yin Jianli gave the little boy the fairy tale "Pipilu" of Zheng Yuanjie. Teachers believe that reading has a promoting effect on moral cultivation.
The Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "I firmly believe that the self-education of teenagers begins with reading a good book. ”
When Teacher Yin Jianli spoke to the little boy in a seductive tone and handed him the book, the child's eyes appeared shining.
Since then, the little boy has stopped bullying Yuanyuan, but will still be criticized by the teacher for other things. Once, Yuanyuan was horrified to see the mother of the "bad" child kick him hard with her foot in the teacher's office.
I once heard a sentence from an animal program that said that the traumatized baby elephant matured early and was aggressive. Humans are primates, so this explains what happens to "bad" kids.
Parents are of great significance in the education of their children. A "bad" parent who always likes to use violence to solve problems is bound to educate a "bad" boy who acts arbitrarily and breaks the can.
Since ancient times, parents firmly believe that filial piety comes out under the stick, and it should be changed to a contrarian son under the stick. The reason is very simple, scolding children will hurt children's self-esteem very much, and also make children less and less confident and more and more inferior.
Love the child, help him create a harmonious situation, do not create trouble for him.
02 The "bad" kid is really not bad
I don't know if you have a personal experience, from elementary school to junior high school, the so-called bad boy you met is really bad?
I never felt like they were really bad. When I was in elementary school, there was a very naughty male classmate, who often bullied other girls, and the teacher often criticized him, and we have always respected him.
However, one summer afternoon, I was on my way to school when I suddenly found himself helping an old lady pick up plastic bottles.
Picking up plastic bottles should be the means of supporting the old lady, but she is old and a little overwhelmed, and the behavior of the "bad" classmate makes me look at him with surprise, and when he finds out that I am watching him, he pretends that nothing happened.
I relayed the incident to the teacher, who praised the "bad" classmate's behavior in class the next day and received applause from the class.
From that day on, the "bad" boy never bullied other female classmates again, although occasionally naughty, but also harmless, and his learning was not so bad, and there was even a slight improvement.
The "bad" boy actually has a good side in his heart, he just hides his own side, does not want others to see his soft side, but it does not mean that they are very bad. The recognition of his classmates and the praise of his teachers are all praise for his self-esteem.
The spread of evil education is extremely irresponsible and foolish; resisting evil education is not only the responsibility of parents, but also the duty of teachers and the concern of the masses.
Parenting is just as important as social education.
03 Write at the end
A problematic society is often not caused by policy, but by culture.
An ignorant parent who confronts his child with scolding is harming the lives of others.
The spread of evil education is extremely irresponsible and foolish; resisting evil education, which is intended to popularize the scientific concept of education, is equally important for schools and societies. While popularizing and resisting evil education, we are also protecting ourselves and making ourselves and our families safer and happier.
In a society of intricate connections, no one can be a mere spectator.
"Bad" kids aren't really bad, every kid has a pure heart, they just need more attention, respect, and love. Parents and schools should look at bad children rationally, do not scold education, do not evil education, and let children feel love in order to grow well.