Writer Moore said:
"A man who, in search of what he needs, travels all over the world, returns home, and finds it."
Each of us is born in a family, grows up in a family, and will form a family.
All the time of a person's life will remain in the family; and whether a person is happy depends on whether the family can give him/her happiness.
What does a happy family look like? Perhaps the following three stories can tell you the answer.
The loved ones are doing well,
I want to live better myself
The writer Nietzsche said:
"You have to figure out the script of your life —not a sequel to your parents, not a prequel to your children, and not a sequel to your friends."
In Chinese families, there is often such a person who sacrifices himself because of the "excessive" love in his heart, and he is bent on making his family live better, and when he talks about himself, he always ignores it.
Recently revisited a classic emotional movie, "Eating Men and Women".
After reading it, I was deeply attracted by the interesting relationship between the family and the characters inside.
It's all about moving some kind of real family to the screen, real and thought-provoking.
Lao Zhu is a single father, and after his wife died more than a decade ago, he lived alone with three daughters.
Old Zhu on weekdays, silent and not good at words, has very little communication with his daughter.
The whole family is deserted, so the second daughter and the younger daughter always want to find a chance to move out of the house.
Lao Zhu's body also showed signs of aging, such as a gradual loss of taste and occasional large-scale pain in the back.
The current situation of the family was looked at by the eldest daughter Jiazhen one by one, and she made a decision for this.
She wanted to be with her father forever, in the old house now, even if she didn't get married for a lifetime.
She thought that as long as she sacrificed herself and was always "stationed" in her home, the family would not be scattered.
For this reason, in the good years of the 20s, Jiazhen has always dressed herself very plainly, and when she reaches the marriageable age, she also suppresses her emotions and deliberately does not have too much connection with the outside world.
She felt that she chose to stay with her father, so that his father did not feel lonely in his old age, and his two younger sisters did not have to worry too much about family pressure.
As the first child in the family, Jiazhen has put herself in the role of "mother" since the death of her mother, and she wants to support the family.
It's just that JiaZhen's efforts and sacrifices, in addition to making her life a gray, even her sister will complain that she can't understand her.
She thought that as long as she chose to take care of her father and let her sister live the life she wanted, the family would live unharmed.
But this is not the case, Because Jiazhen closed her feelings, did not make new friends, only wanted to restrain herself, wasting her only few years of youth.
At the same time, her silent sacrifice also made her sisters feel rejected outside the door of affection, unable to enter her heart.
The real happiness of a family is that every family member is living well and can live the life they want to live.
Rather than relying on the sacrifice of one person in exchange for the happiness of others.
In life, every family has a "family treasure".
Always put the happiness of the family above their own happiness, always think of the family, and ignore themselves.
But a complete family is a family member who is comfortable, and "sacrificial" giving will not bring happiness to anyone.
Such sacrifices also often occur to parents and children.
The educator Makarenko said:
"Giving everything to the child, sacrificing everything, even sacrificing one's own happiness, is the most terrible gift that parents can give to their children."
Sacrifice will not only make the victim really easy, but also let the rest of the family put on invisible shackles.
They forget that they are also an important part of this family, and if they do not have a good life, this family is not the best.
Home, like a big energy supply station, needs everyone to provide energy, and then this energy also protects everyone.
Every generation has a good development,
Home will get better and better
Those families who gradually gain happiness are indispensable to the efforts of everyone.
"Ordinary World" is a TV series that contains the struggles of ordinary people, and it is also the story of a family from poverty to prosperity.
Sun Yuhou is an authentic farmer in the northwest yellow land, and when his father died at the age of 16, he used his young shoulders to support his mother and 5-year-old brother.
He had never had a few happy days in his life, his life began with a life for his mother and brother, followed by 3 children, poverty and responsibility, deeply burned in the wrinkles of his brow.
Sun Yuhou's life was full of hardship and suffering, although he did not grow into a towering tree, but he let himself become a fertile and stubborn soil, allowing his three children to thrive and change their destiny.
His three children, who are also very contentious, have changed the fate of the entire family by virtue of their self-improvement, self-love and self-reliance.
When Sun Shaoan was young, because his family was poor, he dropped out of school early and stopped studying, and his father felt deeply guilty about it, but Shaoan understood his father's difficulties and used his weak shoulders to pick up the burden of the family.
Although he read few books, he did not stop progressing, but actively pursued knowledge, pursued progress, and changed the status quo.
Dare to challenge life, and finally Shao'an became the "richest man" in Shuangshui Village and a rural entrepreneur through his hard work.
Sun Shaoping has always been fighting against fate, relying on his hands and brain to climb up with all his might.
When he was a student, he was naked and hungry, but he was not defeated by a life of bitterness and poverty, and he was not beaten down by lonely and hopeless days.
He used the knowledge in his brain and personal practice to get out of a bleak life, and he was not willing to be mediocre and used his own blood and life as a price to eat "public meals".
Sun Lanxiang may be the one who has gone the smoothest way in this family, with the protection and love of his two brothers, and has suffered less.
She is diligent and studious, well-behaved and sensible, and she was suddenly admitted to a key university in the college entrance examination and read a major that she liked very much.
Lan Xiang crossed the class, fell in love with the son of the provincial deputy secretary and harvested a happy marriage.
Knowledge changes fate, in her body has been perfectly interpreted, she completely changed her destiny, became the pride of her parents, brothers and sisters-in-law, but also became the pride of Shuangshui Village.
The three siblings of the contentious Sun family, relying on their own hands and minds, let the fate of the family be completely rewritten in their own generation.
The continued prosperity of the family is inseparable from the efforts of generations, and a generation does not depend on the efforts of more than one of them.
The happiness of the whole family depends on several people going hand in hand, each person has their own clear life path to follow, and the people who care about you will also relax their hearts.
This road of happiness is like a relay race, someone paves the first half of the road, someone picks up the baton of the second half.
As long as everyone walks their own path and finds their own happiness, the whole family will find happiness.
Truly happy family,
All know how to "get together and disperse"
There is such a big family in Qingzhen, Guizhou.
The extended family consists of four small families, starting with two people and ending up with a dozen people.
This home is known locally as the "most beautiful family", which is the Chen Lixiang family.
Chen Lixiang and her husband have had 4 children, and the couple has been thrifty and thrifty all their lives, and they are kind and considerate to each other.
The daughter-in-law, who has lived with them for more than 20 years, said that after living for so long, she has only seen two people with red eyes once.
The couple usually adheres to the principle that if they wear something, they will not buy a new one, and if they can eat it, they will not throw it away, so that the family's life will be healthy and prosperous.
They are diligent and frugal in life, but when they encounter grandchildren or granddaughters who need money to study, the two will generously use their savings to use for emergencies, love children, and care for the people around them.
Chen Lixiang's husband is also a particularly filial piety, and will tell his children about their deceased grandparents and read their good.
Whenever the ancestors are worshipped, tears are shed.
It is precisely because Mr. and Mrs. Chen Lixiang have set a good example for the children, and the small family composed of children is also very harmonious.
Husbands and wives understand each other, take care of each other, and be filial to the elderly.
They lived their little days in full swing, and although they were uneventful, they all felt very happy.
Although a home is "scattered" into four homes, everyone will gather together to eat whenever there is time.
Stir-fry some home-cooked dishes, sit in a circle around the in-laws, lively, and harmonious.
It is these real and ordinary years that make everyone in the family feel that such a time is very precious.
As we grow up, we are destined to "separate" from our parents and form our own little families.
And each small family is like a torch in the fire, fully emitting its own light and heat, and the whole big family will continue endlessly.
This long-standing temperature is also a powerful driving force for the whole big family to never extinguish in the way forward.
This dynamic becomes a power that fills everyone's heart and becomes a sense of security.
At any time, the warmth that the family gives to a person is the strongest backing, and he will surround you tightly when the light is invisible, so that you will gush out from the bottom of your heart to fight the sword against the darkness.
This warmth will also make a person truly strong, strong enough to have the ability to protect other loved ones, give him hope, and give him protection.
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Writer Munir Nassouf said:
"The true happiness and joy of life is soaked in intimate family relationships."
Each of us cannot escape family relations, we are born in a family and will start our own family.
Family is something we must experience in our lives.
We complete our own transformation in the family, and we also enjoy the most precious emotions in the world.
This priceless love requires us to understand with our hearts; this heavy love protects us frankly and bravely.
For the rest of our lives, thinking about working hand in hand with the people we love is enough to make us happy and excited now.
Finally, light up "watching", may you always remain ordinary and true in the family, and live happily ever after.