Chatting and talking, the brothers and sisters both fell into the sofa. They rarely relax.
It's the busy season. Sister Reiza was widely praised for her role in Li Shuihua in "Mountains and Seas", becoming the finalist for the best actress of this year's Magnolia Award, and talked about the experience of a new mother in two women's theme variety shows, popularizing painless childbirth, refuting a pregnancy for three years, and frequently speaking on the hot search. In May, more invitations to drama, variety shows, and interviews poured in to her. Reiza believes that at the moment of returning to the workplace after giving birth, these opportunities have been fished out for her.
The steel heart band, of which his brother Saili is the lead singer, also toured the season, running more than a dozen cities in a month. The band was formed in 2007, and for 14 years, he has sung with the band almost all of the best live houses in the country. Fans know that Gangxin likes to drink, and once he drank a lot at the Beijing schoolool performance, except for the drummer who played on the point, the rest of the people's tune was gone. In particular, Sai Li, who drank too much, would fall asleep on the street, and their most famous song was called "Dragon King", which sang that I drank with the Dragon King and sprinkled three thousand stones of manna.
One afternoon in early May, People met with their agency in Reiza for the first time in more than three decades that the siblings had worked together. They hadn't seen each other for a while, and my brother came home and my sister joined the group; my sister went home, and my brother went to the show again. The most important thing in their WeChat chat history is to help me pick up the courier.
In the summer of 1986, they met for the first time. In the obstetrics and gynecology ward of a hospital in Beijing, 5-year-old Sai Li saw a small, soft baby, the newborn Reiza. Great, someone is finally playing with me. Cyrel thought. Since then, he has had a close relative besides his parents, a younger sister.
At first, like the most common sibling relationship, they competed for toys and teased each other. As they age, they reveal different personalities and appearances. Reiza is nervous, Saili is relaxed; Reiza is happy and calm; Reiza is an actor, and Saili becomes a rock singer. As individuals, they are completely different people.
But they are also profoundly influencing each other. Reiza said that his personality grew up on the basis of his brother. Many parts are just copy-paste. Looking through the materials of previous years, you will find that Reiza did mention the role of his brother in every important interview: my brother told me, my brother said this, my brother felt... This time, we talked directly with Reiza about her brother Saili, understand the story of the brothers and sisters, and maybe really understand why this sister has grown up to be what she is today.
The following is Reiza's story.
| Tanihoro
Edited | Huai Yang
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When I was a child, I was willing to follow my brother and want him to play with me.
The brother is not willing, the good partners are boys, where do you want to take a little girl. Every time I play hide-and-seek, he told me to hide first, saying that he would come to me later, I counted, and my brother was gone, very annoyed. Where there are children, there must be competition. So are the two of us, fighting for food, for toys, for everything. Buy popsicles in the summer, my brother eats fast, after eating, he stares at me, let me give him a taste, I say OK, taste it in one bite, a third is gone. Later, Especially afraid that he would rob me, and every time I ate fast, he came to feed me again. He also likes to scare me, and at night the dark blue beanie covers his face with hairy children, jumping around, angry enough to choke me.
He's smart. For example, once he failed the exam, my dad was not very happy, and threw away his comic books such as "Robot Cat" and "Youyou White Book". He was astute, secretly put it away, took advantage of my parents' work, ripped the sheets from the house, and set up a book stall in the garden downstairs. Look at a book for two cents, buy a book for two dollars, the calculation is quite fine. Our community is very large, there are many children, the business is extremely hot, this stall basically monopolizes the entertainment industry in the community, even the aunt of the commissary next door can't see the eyes, saying that we don't have a business license, it is illegal, and we want to collect rent - the children don't go to her house to buy snacks, they all run to see the comics.
In the end, it was revealed. When the neighbor saw my father, he boasted that your son really has a business mind. My father was a man of letters, and when he heard this, his face was somewhat hanging, and he was very angry and ordered us to disband the book stall. Later, there was no follow-up, but at that time, I thought, my brother is really smart.
I also have tricks to deal with him, sometimes he bullies me, I go to sue, Dad, he bullied me again. My dad taught him that you are a brother and you can't bully your sister. Girls, parents will be more pampered, my brother will go out to be trained, will first glance at me, you wait. Now that I think about it, most of us are these hilarious and funny things, which are quite funny.
But if someone were to bully me, he would definitely stand up and protect me. When I was in junior high school, he was already a high school student, and his head jumped to a meter eight. Some people say what I want to do, what do they want to do to me, he comes to pick me up after school, just standing there, junior high school children are directly afraid, don't say what to do, they are all hurrying to go.
Growing up, I didn't like to cling to him anymore, and I went to play with the little girls. It's just that I slowly realized that my brother has become quite cool, and everything is cool.
The more I think he's cool, the more I want to like what he likes, learn from him, and follow him. Unlike when I was a child, I gradually wanted to see what interesting things my brother was doing.
Before I was 8 years old, my music library was all Teresa Teng or ethnic music listened to by my mother, and after I was 8 years old, I listened to songs with my brother. The surrounding students are listening to Jacky Cheung and Zhang Xinzhe, I don't know, I only know that my brother listened to the Black Panther, Tang Dynasty, and Magic Rock Sanjie. I don't understand it, but I like to get together and listen. At first, I listened to He Yong's "Junkyard" and thought it was a children's song. It wasn't until my brother got back a music magazine that was being sent to tapes that I heard the Beatles' Let it Be, oh my God, it's so cool, and that kind of music. For the first time, I started to really like the music my brother liked.
For a while, I enjoyed listening to Silinayi's "Autumn" and fantasizing every day about what the song would be like on the school radio. Later, I really put it on the radio, and I said that it was for the teacher, but I actually wanted to listen, and at that time I was very drunk on the podium to listen, and the students thought that Reiza was so strange, listening to a song that no one had ever heard. I think I'm pretty cool too.
It can be said that my brother has been influencing my interests, cognition and aesthetics ever since. He made me more mature in dealing with life, but in some respects I was a little more precocious than my peers, and maybe I pursued a little more elaborate and idealistic.
He would take me to crouch on the side of the road to observe all kinds of passers-by, see interesting ones, and quietly follow behind to imitate. It was one of our favorite games for a long time, and it was probably the first glimpse of my acting potential. When I was in elementary school, my mouth was very stupid, and the teachers and classmates didn't understand what I was saying, and they were a little ridiculed. So Zhou Xingchi's "Nine Pin Sesame Officer" attracted me very much, he said to the sea, fried out those fish, I was so envious, told my brother, I want to do that. He told me very seriously that swearing is the lowest level, and that you should hit back at others with sarcasm and humor, which is superior. Gradually, I unlocked this skill, found that I did have a wealth of associative powers, and eventually, my eloquence dominated the school.
I was fortunate to have this brother, when I was very young, he showed me the wider world and taught me how to observe and how to deal with the world.
Reiza and my brother as a child
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In fact, my dependence on my brother is not just to play with him, to play with him with water guns, to listen to his music, but also to find answers from him.
For example, in terms of study, every time there is a problem that I can't do, I ask him, and I don't use my brain at all. As long as it doesn't, ask him. The brother said, you don't even think about it, you think about it first. I went into the house and lay down for a while, and I turned around and came out, brother, I still wouldn't.
He has excellent grades since he was a child, but I can only do well if I study hard, and I am medium if I don't study seriously. Our parents are very equal to us, and we will not treat him differently because of our good grades, nor will we favor my brother because he is the eldest son. On the contrary, because I am a girl, I am especially pampered and protected. Every time I poked a basket at home, my brother could cover me. Growing up in this environment, I can retain more of myself later in life. There are many things that I don't need to worry about, to charge, and to have my brother present, I can solve it.
I've grown up and worked, and there are still some things I'd like to hear from him. Just entered the industry is still young, the brain is relatively closed, a lot of things are not willing to do, such as this film special business, certainly not to pick up. Later, my brother told me that my understanding of this is also wrong, literary films also have silly literature and art, commercial films also have good business, or to read the script, look at the characters. My thinking and horizons have only broadened a little.
On the way here just now, I also talked to him about the script I recently read, which details are funny, which logic does not make sense. Of course I had my own ideas, but it didn't prevent my brother's aesthetic from being able to bring me something to this day.
Now that I think about it, we've been holding on all the way to where we are today. We have no relatives in Beijing, only a family of four, and we hardly visit the house or visit guests in the New Year, so we hide at home and watch TV. When I was a child, my parents did not pay much, I had to raise two children, I had to help my relatives, my life was not rich, and I even had some constraints. At that time, with two or three pieces of pocket money, they all felt that they were too rich to know how to spend it. My brother studied well, I couldn't do it, I could only save pocket money to make my parents look at me differently and show my goodness.
When I first stepped into this industry, I didn't think about making a lot of money, just thinking that it would be good to be able to go to a restaurant and buy some sneakers. We were all poor when we were young, just thinking about whether I could be a good actor, whether he could make a good band. If we are happy, we will do it, and if we are not happy, how much money may be given I don't want to do it. I shoot one scene a year and play silly time, which I think is very good.
Slowly, I felt that I could do more and better, can help the family, improve the conditions at home, there is a responsibility that must work hard to support the family, but my brother said, do not need you to improve, why put the pressure on you here? Our family is very good, whether it is my parents or me, I hope you can be better for yourself.
We always want to encourage each other in particular. Maybe I lacked encouragement when I was a child. Mom and Dad rarely praise any of us in person, no matter how well they do, they will only say, you are not bad this time, but what... There is always a but, we always feel that we are almost there, we always feel discouraged, and we don't want to work hard. In fact, they will also be happy for us, the first time I was on the cover of a magazine, my dad was eager to buy a bunch of magazines to send to friends, and silently put a copy in the most obvious place on the coffee table at home. Other than that, there is no more. He won't praise you to your face. Maybe those generations of parents are not good at saying love and praise.
Something is lost, it is lost. I didn't think of finding the praise of my childhood, because I found that we were not that kind of person, and I did not master the ability to praise people in person. I went to see my brother's scene, took a video, and introduced my brother on Weibo. My brother will also watch my play and say that Splash is doing a good job. The words he just said to you praised me, I also listened to it for the first time, he never told me, and he finished reading it. It will also keep me calm and just be happy at the moment.
Reiza in "Mountains and Seas"
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If there is any way to describe my relationship with my brother, it is absolutely impossible to get on the relationship of "The Third Mediation Room".
Probably related to a person's sense of boundaries. We all need our own space and don't interfere with each other's space. I never went into his room casually, knocked on the door, and sometimes sent a message to him, where are you, and he said I was staying in the house. If something I want to store in his house, and he's not at home, I'll ask first, brother, can I put something in your house? He agreed, and then he opened the door and went in. He did the same to me.
We also never talk about each other's love lives, thinking that it is each other's privacy. At most I knew he had a girlfriend, met and said hello. What he chooses is his business, what I choose is also my business, like my parents, their lives are for both of them, and we will not judge each other. We know very well that he and I are not only brothers and sisters, but also family, but also two independent individuals.
A while ago I had two variety shows recording at the same time, the pressure was quite large, really a little fast can't hold back, I want to quickly eliminate. Participating in "Listen to My Sister", I said every time that my manuscript was definitely not good, and as a result, the guests on the stage said it was OK, even if you said it was so bad. It was the pressure I put on myself, my brother knew, let me finish recording these two programs and quickly rest. He knew better than I did that I needed a break.
The original I was an extreme perfectionist, every job from beginning to end stubborn, cut details, admit death, why this does not work, why does not that work, how the photos are repaired so much, too much... Or maybe at half past four, I really arrived at half past four, and if the other person didn't arrive, I could wait a while, but before half past five, I thought it wouldn't work. Sometimes the cost of time, money, and even emotions can be very high. It made me feel bad and miserable.
I was easily nervous, and my brother's personality was more casual and relaxed than that of my brother. When he encounters something, he will think, OK, it is already such a situation, almost quickly withdraw, or do it three times five divided by two, stop the loss as soon as possible. My brother kept telling me to relax and stop myself.
Now I'm getting more and more relaxed. I think that the relationship between brothers and sisters is different from other sibling relationships, sisterhood will be more delicate, sister-brother relationship may be mostly worried about sisters, between brothers and sisters, I can feel that my brother is not only protecting the softness of my heart, but also teaching me how to fight against the hardness of the world.
After having a baby, I asked my brother, how did you like reading when you were a child? He laughed, where were so many toys when he was a child, idle, only to read. Well, I also created this environment for my daughter, her little fence, half toys, half full of books, she chose her own. Now when she wakes up every day, the first thing she does is look for a book, and sometimes she thinks I'm wordy and annoyed, and she will take a small book and read it on the side. I liked it and didn't bother her, it was her alone time. These precious experiences were inherited from my brother.
Therefore, the best gift my brother gave me was the identity of uncle. Our generation has a lot of only children, and it is not easy for their children to have an uncle, aunt or aunt in the future. My daughter also likes my uncle and loves to be with him. My brother told me that my daughter looked exactly like when I was a child, and I was so happy, after all, I didn't know much about what I looked like in infancy, and from my daughter, I saw myself again.
My brother has a lot of ideas and a very clear attitude towards life. In my opinion, he is a person with his own independent personality, and my personality has always been based on him.
Once upon a time, a friend in the circle said to me, didn't you find out? You often talk about "my brother my brother", and I don't think you have an independent personality. At that time, I was a little annoyed with my brother, and I was not very willing to contact him, and even for a while I didn't know who I really was, which was very confused. Later I figured it out. I have to admit, I just rely on my brother what's wrong? My personality is related to him what's wrong? He took half a day to create one himself, I just need to copy it, plus some of my traits, is the new Reiza, how good. With my brother, I have saved a lot of energy in my life.
Image source Reiza Weibo