How important is communication?
At the end of the 20th century, U.S. Senator John McCain, who was a helmsman in the Navy, was held in solitary confinement for six years after being captured in the Vietnam War.
Regarding this period of life in prison, he said:
"Very few people can not communicate with others for a long time, and cruel torture or criminal law is not as unbearable as the period of loneliness."
Obviously, not communicating with people is unbearable. Many prisoners, after being punished accordingly, will categorically say that they would rather be with the worst than be unaccompanied.
Decades have passed, and our communication tools have changed from the original BP machines and big brothers to smartphones and computers, and communication has become more and more convenient, but our communication has become more complex.
"Speaking too bluntly, colleagues say I am too mean, pull me black and refuse to communicate;
As soon as the mood rises, I am prone to tantrums and often quarrel with friends;
I don't know how to express myself to make my customers understand, and I often can't understand what they are saying. ”
Even small things that can be solved with a few words are easy to make the results worse and worse because of the wrong way of communication, and even may be deadlocked with friends around them, work is blocked, and no one can understand...
However, what makes us most helpless is that we know that we are in the dilemma of communication, and we try to find communication skills, but the results are still useless.
If you really want to master the method of communication, listen to the book "The Art of Communication: Looking into People, Seeing Outside", which is introduced today.
This is a well-structured, attractive and concise communication authoritative textbook, and it is also a best-selling human relations reader used by more than 2 million college students for more than 40 years, republished 15 times, and more than 2 million college students.
It tells us that communication is not about playing tricks, currying favor with others, and obtaining superficial harmonious relationships, but should be considered from three levels:
The first one is about the self:: "Do you replace self-disclosure with silence or lying?" ”
The second one is about the external dimension: "Is communicating with people just with one mouth?" ”
The third is about the level between others: "How to deal with interpersonal relationships in communication?" ”
By dissecting these three levels, we not only master the skills of language, but also feel the important role of non-language in communication.
The topic of communication skills and abilities is an out-of-date one, and good and healthy communication not only contributes to a harmonious life and smooth work, but also makes people physically and mentally happy.
The moderator of this issue is [Wenjie].
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[Wenjie] said:
Language is a symbol that helps us understand each other, but it can also make us quarrel.
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If you want to really master the communication skills, then quickly scan the code, join the iDo Love Reading Club, and listen to [Wenjie] interpret the book for you.
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iDo Love Reading Club is a book sharing meeting initiated by [Beautiful 968].
After a long period of preparation, we have gathered a number of gold medal hosts, we have selected 100 good books from ten aspects, such as psychology, vision, communication, cognition, financial and business, etc., to help you improve yourself in all aspects.
Let you easily read each book, and complete the reading volume of others in 20 years in one year.
Reading itself is a very good habit, not only to broaden your insights, but also to enrich the connotation and be a great way to reduce stress and feel inner peace.
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