Zheng Yuanjie's fairy tale "Pipilu Taming rabbit" is now becoming a reality, pippiru who does not take the usual path in school eventually becomes a docile "rabbit", Pipilu's experience is also the daily portrayal of some children at the moment, in the education process of measuring a ruler to the end, the wild nature of natural gifts is gradually disappearing from the children's personality: "Spring and autumn outdoor travel is often replaced by indoor visits" "playful, naughty and mischievous have become common negative comments" "10 minutes between classes have become a single choice question that can only drink water or go to the toilet"... From rabbit training to captivity, children are overly restrained either because of safety concerns of parents and schools or in order to win the future.
Wild Kids = Bad Kids?
Ms. Zhang, a citizen of Guiyang, was repeatedly told by the child's class teacher: "Your child always likes to play and play with classmates between classes, so it is easy to bump into, it is more dangerous, please discipline at home, let him sit and rest more between classes." ”
In the face of the teacher's admonition, Ms. Zhang was helpless and depressed, and had to agree with her mouth. She sighed: "Children in the third grade of primary school are already active and noisy, and they are just in class, if they can only sit quietly and rest between classes, then isn't this kind of education erasing the nature of children?" ”
Some parents said that compared with their own childhood, today's children are more and more vulnerable, and they will be scared to cry when they see spiders, and their hands are cut for half a day. In the past, small partners ran all over the mountains, climbed trees to catch fish, picked fruits and shrimp, especially happy, and now whoever children dare to climb over the wall and climb trees will definitely be severely criticized.
The reporter visited some primary and secondary schools in Guangxi and learned that outdoor activities such as spring and autumn tours in the past have often become indoor activities such as visiting museums and memorials in recent years. Some teachers say that indoor visits are less risky than outdoor tours. The class teacher of a primary school in Nanning City said that in the previous composition class, some students said that they had never seen phenomena such as "swallows flying low", and even some students asked: What does the trumpet flower look like?
"Kids really should go outdoors and get close to nature." The person in charge of a junior high school in a county in Guangxi said, "The school carries out extracurricular activities, but it requires the approval of the competent departments at all levels, the procedures are both troublesome and strict, and parents can only be encouraged to take their children on outings." ”
Parenting becomes captivity?
At present, it is not difficult for people to find that due to a variety of factors, more and more "wild children" around them have disappeared, and more docile "little sheep" and "well-behaved rabbits" have become role models in the mouths of teachers and parents.
Evaluation is labeled, rewarding good children, and suppressing wild children. Many manifestations of behavior that are related to wild nature are regarded by some teachers and parents as typical negative cases. Some parents said that they are most afraid of hearing teachers leave comments such as "mischievous, naughty and disobedient, no rules, no discipline" to their children, so that parents have no face, and the children's hearts are uncomfortable, this kind of labeled evaluation makes everyone dare not encourage children to release their nature, and can only blindly cooperate and comply with the teacher's requirements to strengthen discipline.
Safety is greater than the day, captivity to ensure safety. The principal of a primary school in Nanning said that now that the safety of the campus is greater than the sky, the teachers feel great pressure. Recess is a time when the safety risk of the school is high, and the school will arrange "teacher safety officers" to patrol the floors and playgrounds between classes, always keeping an eye on the safety of students and preventing accidents. The relevant person in charge of a primary school in Guiyang City said that the current imbalance between teachers and students, safety accountability is becoming more and more stringent, the school has to reduce children's outdoor activities to reduce safety risks, and even some children in captivity, which is also a helpless move.
Fight for talent, fight for achievements, and parenting has also become captivity. In reality, in order to avoid their children losing at the starting line, many parents have to give up the outdoor activities of "wasting time" and go to various indoor training classes, piano practice rooms, painting rooms, etc. Le Le is in the fourth grade this year, and every weekend, he needs to take three extracurricular classes in English, calligraphy and taekwondo, and only has half a day off on Sundays. Ms. Chen, the child's mother, said that teachers like obedient and talented students, and watching "other people's children" can always get praise, while their own children are always ignored, worried that their children will be affected, and they have no choice but to enroll their children in several interest classes.
Call for wildness and let children grow freely
A middle school principal in Guiyang City said that many people lack enough understanding of children at present, and often give value judgments through some individual behaviors or performances, especially for behaviors like "wild". He proposed that "wild children" are not equal to "bad children", and it must be seen that wild nature collects more beneficial qualities such as tenacity, bravery, indomitability, and the courage to break through. "Breaking to have vitality", if you only see the destructiveness of a certain behavior in the process of children's growth, and ignore the overall observation of the behavior, and do not consider the significance of behavior to the long-term development of children, it is neither objective nor scientific.
Sun Yunxiao, chief expert of family education at the China Youth Research Center, said that the spirituality and wildness of human life mainly come from the gifts of nature. However, today's children are far away from nature and alienated from nature, which is worrying.
Sun Yunxiao believes that some primary and secondary school students go to the suburbs and do not feel the charm of nature. Some children are more willing to go into air-conditioned rooms and immerse themselves in the virtual world created by science and technology because of the difficult mountain roads and insects; some children are subject to academic pressure and rarely have the opportunity to really go out and feel the wonders of nature. He suggested that children should not always be immersed in the virtual world created by science and technology, but should create more opportunities to take children into nature, and cannot let technological tools become the only cognition of real life, which is an "anti-natural" behavior.
At Binhu Road Primary School in Nanning, the class teacher praises the children in the class every week. "We emphasize the need to be good at discovering the strengths of students and tolerating children's shortcomings. If there is a child who is not praised, then we will make the teacher reflect on whether he lacks care for the child and has not found the shining point in the child. Luo Ying, deputy principal of Binhu Road Primary School, said that teachers should educate with love and respect children's personality, rather than blindly educating them into the way they want, and let children thrive in a healthy and free atmosphere.
In order to cope with the objective campus safety risks, avoid captivity of students, and release the nature of children, some teachers also proposed to improve the campus safety guarantee mechanism and insurance claim system, so that schools can no longer be tied when promoting diversified activities inside and outside the school.
Source: Half Moon Talk, No. 11, 2021
Half Moon Talk Reporter: Luo Fei Lin Fanshi Zhao Yeping
Editor-in-charge: Yang Jiannan