The son often does not like to use chopsticks to pick vegetables when eating, likes to use his hands to take the dishes directly into the mouth, sits in front of the table without sitting, kneels on the chair on both knees, leans against the table eyes, ignores the dishes and chopsticks and directly stares at the dishes and meat on the plate, and quickly reaches out and grabs his favorite dishes and stuffs them directly into his mouth.
Looking at his appearance, sitting without sitting, eating without eating, very angry, training him in person: "Take good chopsticks, support the bowl, use chopsticks to pick vegetables can not be used to clip vegetables, give you chopsticks to use for what!" Yelling at him loudly, he was also frightened, and directly obeyed to take chopsticks to pick vegetables, but not long after, he was used to using his hands to take vegetables to eat, and he did not like to eat, every time he made a good meal, he was directly eating vegetables.
"Eat without eating a bite, how many times have I said, eat a bite of rice, eat another bite of vegetables, can't always eat vegetables without eating, why don't you always listen to what your mother says, always take your mother's words as the wind in your ears" Every time I see my son eat, I nag in his ear every time, but no matter how I say him, the way my son eats still can't change.
I often tell my son to eat a mouthful of rice and a mouthful of food, take a bowl with chopsticks to eat, sit seriously, eat can not speak, but it seems that there is no use at all, he is still like that, like to touch the dish with his hands, sometimes directly with his hands to eat vegetables, it is simply the appearance of primitive apes eating.
No matter what method I used, I took the whip and put it next to him to scare him, if I didn't eat well, I would be beaten, and at first he was trembling and eating a little meal, but he didn't seem to have any appetite at all, and after eating a few bites of food, he ran away, I was afraid that he would not be hungry enough, and begged him to go back to the table to eat, but this method was useless.
Every time I went to dinner, my son was either yelled at by me or beaten by me, every time I ate, everyone was very unhappy, I didn't eat well, he also ate badly, each tortured, looking at his thin and small body, both painful and helpless.
Every time I see someone else's children eating in a big mouth, eating with taste, and seeing other people's children enjoy eating, I am extremely envious. I am always very envious of the scene of other people's children eating, not having to be coaxed by adults, not feeding adults, and eating by themselves.
One day I went to a friend's house and my friend's son was two years younger than my son. When it was time to eat, the friend made a meal and brought it to his son, after which the friend ignored his son and then beckoned me to sit down to eat.
I watched his son there tinkering with his own food, my friend did not care about his son, and never asked him any questions, and after a while, the friend's son ate the rice and vegetables clean, pointed to his empty bowl and said to my friend, "Daddy, you are full." ”
I was surprised and said to my friend, "Why is your son so well-behaved?" He didn't have to be fed by adults, so how did he know how to eat there? And eat so much? He laughed and said, "That's because I let her eat completely, I never constrained him how to eat, he likes to eat as much as he likes." I looked at him with doubt, and he seemed to see through my mind and smiled at me
"When we were young, were we often disciplined by our parents when we were young? Eating can not eat out loud, the dishes on the plate can not be picked, the dishes in front of you to eat what dishes, do you feel that when you were a child, you sometimes had a little unhappiness. ”
"When adults were young, they all taught this way, and there is nothing wrong with it." I retorted.
"There is no mistake, adults teach us that there is a certain truth, but when we were young, we were short of materials at that time, and there was nothing that could make us pick and choose to eat, and it was good to eat well, but now it is different, the current era is rich in materials, children want to eat, we can find a way to buy and afford, but also give children a chance to pick and choose, when we were young, we didn't have anything to eat, but our bodies are healthy and strong. Now children eat nutritious but the body is weak, our requirements for children to eat are not too much, worried that children eat not good or not full, afraid of this and afraid of that, which has the opposite effect. With so many rich and diverse foods in front of him, why don't we give him the opportunity to have a free choice, let him eat whatever he wants, and don't need to restrain him. Isn't it the effect we need to make him eat happily and eat comfortably? ”
"We as parents want our children to grow stronger, but the rules of eating can't be abandoned, can't we?"
"In the past, when I went to other people's homes to eat, or had dinner with the leaders, everyone might think that it was rare to eat a big meal, but I still looked at the face of the leaders, and the dishes I liked in front of me did not dare to eat more." Now a meal, the meals in front of me, I am indifferent, because the dishes I usually eat can usually be made to eat, anyway, these things are not so rare, the rules of eating for the current children what the future is, we can not foresee, why not seize the opportunity now to let the children eat happily and comfortably, grow healthy is the most important. ”
My friend said it reasonably, after returning home, every time I came to dinner, I no longer nagged at my son's various eating rules, and I let him eat as much as he wanted, whether it was with his hands or with various tools, I no longer interfered. Soon it was discovered that he was no longer so rebellious and rebellious about eating, but had eaten more than before, although he was still accustomed to eating with his hands, so what? As long as you are healthy.