Hide your edge and don't put pressure on others
The best way to protect yourself is to be consistent with most people, or you'll be in danger.
The old saying goes: "Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." "This is the law of nature, and it is also the law of the jungle of human nature. People who are strong and competitive often regard retreat as cowardice, but those who are really scheming understand that only by deeply understanding the way of Taoguang and cultivating obscurity and hiding the sharp edge at the right time can they dodge the open guns and dark arrows when displaying their talents, and can they get the sea and sky after taking a step back.
People are often arrogant because of their talents, and they are sharp everywhere. However, "frost hits the grass, guns hit the head bird". Even if a person is a genius, if he does not know how to restrain at all, he will become the target of attack by others, thus bringing unnecessary trouble to himself. It is normal to show the sharp edge, but we should clearly understand the situation and do not blindly show the sharp edge regardless of the occasion, place and other objective forms. You must know how to hide at the right time, and showing yourself too much will often put yourself in a disadvantageous situation.
Xue Daoheng, a talented son of the Sui and Tang Dynasties, was able to speak the "Spring and Autumn Biography of zuo" at the age of 13. In the fifth year of Daye, he was summoned to Beijing, when yang Guang, the arrogant and talented Sui Emperor, was in power. In order to show the level of his article, Xue Daoheng presented the "Ode to Gao Zu", and Emperor Jue was very unhappy when he read it, saying: "This is just a beautiful text. "Once, emperor Jue talked with his ministers, saying that he was only eight buckets high and proud of the heavenly scribes, and Yushi Dafu took the opportunity to say that Xue Daoheng was conceited and talented, did not listen to instructions, and had the heart of a monarch. So Emperor Jue ordered Xue Daoheng to be hanged.
It seems that Xue Daoheng has offended many people because he does not know how to hide deeply and protect himself. There was not only the Sui Emperor, but also the Imperial Master who had entered the rumors, and there might even be the rest of the ministers, otherwise how could no one intercede for him? Because the sharp edge is too exposed and offends people, Xue Daoheng can be regarded as a typical.
To be a person, you must have sharpness, but sharpness does not mean sharpness. Sharpness can show one's heart, but sharpness can put pressure on others. If you want to show your talents in your career, you can use a little trick to "show it cleverly, remember that before the time is ripe, don't show too much sharpness." Young people always want to know that they are an extraordinary person in the shortest possible time. To make people know themselves, of course, we must first attract everyone's attention, and to attract everyone's attention, we must only start from the aspect of words and actions, so it is easy to show the sharp edge of words and actions.
Although Xu Junjin has only been in the company for half a year, he has already become a project supervisor of the marketing department, but he is not satisfied with this, and he has long been interested in the position of deputy manager of the purchasing department. He watched the deputy manager of the purchasing department stooping all day long, unresponsive, nodding at the leader, and giggling at his subordinates, thinking that he would beat him as soon as possible no matter what. He felt that he had an advantage in all aspects: young, erudite, trendy, responsive, computer-literate, and English; and vertically would cater to leaders, horizontally good at interpersonal relations, and it was easy for him to grab the position of deputy manager. So, he drafted a tens of thousands of words of "changing the workflow of the purchasing department", and after handing it to the big boss, there was no movement for a week. When he was about to go to the big boss for an interview, the big boss asked the secretary to call him: "The spirit is commendable, but you do your job well first!" "There are many people in the workplace who are eager to show their talents and strengths, hoping to get the recognition of leaders and colleagues as soon as possible, and they must compete for a "first hand" in everything, and sometimes even have to "rush to run". Therefore, it is harmful and not beneficial to the newcomers in the workplace who have great ambitions. Chang Ying is a shrewd and capable woman who was highly valued by her boss at a young age. Almost every time there is a meeting, the boss will ask Chang Ying's opinion. Chang Ying also always gushed out his high opinions, completely disregarding what the people around him thought. Chang Ying's limelight is so strong that the employees in the company who are older than her and have higher positions than her are somewhat unsightly. Chang Ying's concept is avant-garde, although she has been married for several years, she has made up her mind not to have children. This was originally just a private matter, but some good people went to the boss to blow the wind, saying that Chang Ying's official desire was too strong, and in order to climb up, he did not even have children. This statement spread throughout the company for a while, and Chang Ying became an "official madman" overnight. After that, Chang Ying found that her colleagues looked at her strangely, and talked to her as "short and fast" as possible, and an invisible barrier separated her and her colleagues. Chang Ying is very aggrieved, she is not so utilitarian as everyone thinks, why is everyone looking at her so dismissively?
There is an old saying: "A gentleman hides a vessel in his body." Wait for the time to move. "It's hardest to do without this. There is no such thing as this device. For young people, there are many harms. And the benefits are minimal. This kind of sharpness is like a horn growing on the forehead, which is bound to stab others easily. If you don't go to find a way to smooth out your horns. It's been a long time. Others will also break your horns, and once the horns are broken, their own pain will be even greater. It is not surprising that you are too exposed in the workplace and do not pay attention to balancing the mentality of those around you. Chang Ying is not blind, but he is blindly high-profile and not good at hiding his sharp edge at the right time. One of the biggest taboos in the workplace is to show yourself too much. Whenever they are praised or promoted by their leaders for their work achievements, they are swaggering around in the office, and once the news spreads, these people will definitely attract the jealousy and red eyes of their colleagues, which will lead to unnecessary trouble.
Do not show anything sharply, properly perform it, and occasionally show a sharp edge, which can leave a good impression on leaders and colleagues, but we must grasp the degree. Do not do too much for people, do not rush to give opinions, do not overstep, let the leaders and colleagues eliminate their guard, know how to protect themselves first, gather their vigor and wait for the opportunity, and avoid self-centeredness.