Recently, the successive "Pinduoduoduo" incidents and the upsurge in the system have ignited everyone's "996" and "anti-996" emotions.
In the past, our entire country, the whole society, has always advocated a kind of struggle value:
"Today's struggle is tomorrow's harvest"
"Tianxing Jian Gentleman perseveres in self-improvement"
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Recently, more people have begun to reflect on the original intention and meaning of the two words "struggle".
This is a good thing.
Source: "I, to the end of the work"
After all, a person's choice of struggle or stability is not noble or not, correct or not.
At least for individuals, there is only a difference between left and right, and there is no distinction between high and low.
I have met many young people, listened to the old saying "don't choose stability when you should struggle", so when you are young, you go out of your comfort zone and grow up desperately, and you have reaped your own fruits.
But what I want to discuss with you more is the next sentence of this sentence, a sentence that many people have not thought about at all, and do not want to think about at all:
Don't choose to struggle when it's time for stability.
For every small individual under the torrent of the times, compared with "never choose stability when you are struggling", I think the phrase "never choose to struggle when you are stable" is more practical and instructive.
First, let's discuss, what is the time to stabilize?
I'm not an ageist on this issue, and I don't want to take sides with anyone, I'll just say that one point that everyone will encounter, but that is easy to overlook at the moment, is:
We do everything with a window of time.
Source: Quartet
For example, the years of college are when you have the most disposable time in your life;
The years when you just graduated from work are when you have the best physical condition and the most exuberant enthusiasm for work;
And when you are middle-aged, have a family, have children, you have more experience and resources at work, but your energy has not been as good as before, you must also gradually divide your time more to your family, elderly parents, worried children...
At this time, even if you suddenly wake up and want to struggle and pursue your dreams, of course, in theory, of course, it is feasible, but in fact, you will find that you have missed the best time to do this.
Because this is the time when you should pursue stability— the most rational choice.
When you have a bond and need to spend a lot of time to run and take care of the family, an unstable job is likely to make you suffer from the enemy.
When you raise your mind, a job that seems too busy to use 996 to prove value can no longer move others to move yourself.
When you've climbed a step and looked up, there's always a higher platform, better views, but it's going to be harder to climb up.
And then you think about it, why bother, go with the flow, take one step at a time, and fight for a little hope? You're dead and don't want to do it anymore.
When I was younger, I also thought that middle-aged people were really timid and always flinching.
But now, when I'm ten years older, I realize that this is the transparency of middle-aged people.
Source: "We Can't Be Beasts"
At every stage of life, if not without choice, most people should maintain a dynamic balance between being strong and stable.
For example, in the pro-cyclical struggle, in the counter-cyclical stability.
The ancients said that "the reach is to help the world, and the poor are alone" is this truth.
Let's talk about what the word "stability" means to us.
I found that many people have a misunderstanding of the two words stability, such as thinking that stability is to refuse to grow, stability is to eat and wait for death, and stability is to stay in their comfort zone and not come out.
This misunderstanding directly leads to many people preferring to live in big cities without a fixed place rather than living and working in small places, preferring to work in the private company 996 in the north, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, rather than being diligent and stable in a stable job.
But is this choice really the right one?
First of all, you have to know that unstable jobs are not as tempting as people think.
Now when we mention precarious jobs, the usual impression is high income, strong growth, and bright and bright daily access to high-end office buildings, contact with the best people and ideas of this era.
In fact, these are only a few examples.
The unstable jobs in reality are more low-level employees who are led by PUA in private companies, programmers who write code every day, and middle-aged people who dare not go home if they are not careful.
They feel more about the future, the inability to control life, and loneliness than income and growth.
Yes, it's the loneliness of tightening the strings all the time, worrying about the weight of the move forward.
Source: "My Uncle"
On the other hand, stable jobs are not as bad as everyone says.
At present, stable work in China mainly includes civil servants, public institutions, state-owned enterprises, as well as schools, banks, hospitals and other government-sponsored or participatory units.
How high is the threshold for the selection of such units?
You go to see the gradual rise in the popularity of the examination for the examination and the public institutions, and look at the news that the graduates of the Qingbei Fujiao are scrambling to enter the system, you will know.
Do you think that these highest educated and smartest people, these excellent people who have become habits, choose to enter the system in order to go in and eat and die?
Of course not, in fact, they chose the system because they realized that stable jobs also have many opportunities, a big stage, and can provide a higher platform for people who are really capable.
Like the college classmates I wrote before in "The young people who poured into the financial circle in those years are now frantically advancing into the system", they recently went to a bank as the president of a branch after the district government served as a secretary to the district chief for several years.
Think about it, starting from the bottom step by step, many bank employees do not want to become presidents until retirement. But experience within the system can provide you with this opportunity.
Source: Naoki Hanzawa
So stability, never limiting a person's shackles, want to do things, want to achieve value, anywhere can be.
In fact, people are all seeking advantages and avoiding harms, no one likes to toss, everyone wants stability.
Even if you see someone around you tossing and turning all day long, they are still in order to be able to transform their lives into the way they want to be and then stabilize, this struggle, in essence, is the pursuit of a higher level of stability.
After all, who does not want to have a stable income, a secure life, can live the life they want, do what they want to do, not be bound by the pressure of life, not be troubled by tedious chores.
In the final analysis, what everyone hates is not stability itself, but stability and emptiness.
The next question is, when we choose stability, what will we lose?
This brings us to the "impossible triangle" theory I saw earlier in the work.
What is the Impossible Triangle? It is that something has 3 points, you can only get up to 2, you can't get all 3 at the same time. We often say that fish and bear paws cannot be combined.
And what is the impossible triangle about work? It's income, growth and stability.
So tell you, you go to any job, want income, don't expect stability, want stability, don't pursue income, if you want income and stability at the same time, then the growth type will inevitably be abandoned.
Don't believe it, you compare your own work, is this not the case.
Therefore, I always recommend that when young people choose to work, give up income and give up stability, pursue growth, go to some high-speed development industries to work steadily for a few years, and quickly improve their abilities.
Because your rapid growth can be converted into high income later on. This is what we often say about not choosing stability when it is time to struggle.
And people to middle age, to turn around, more emphasis should be on the stability and growth of a job, for which you need to compromise is income.
Don't stubbornly think that stable work is not growth.
If you look at those who work in a system that requires high technology and experience, such as teachers in public schools and doctors in public hospitals, there are not many things at all, and the growth is stronger than who.
Moreover, because there is a stable system to guarantee, a stable career promotion system, and a stable promotion ability, people who work in these places often grow up more unfettered.
Source: Rick and Morty
Even if it is not in such a place, when you follow the impossible triangle of choice of stability and growth, compromise income, you do not have to worry about the middle-aged layoff crisis of discoloration.
Because of what?
Usually middle-aged people are laid off for only two reasons: either you are useless, or you are too expensive.
If you maintain "growth", you solve the problem of "uselessness"; compromise "high income" solves the problem of "too expensive".
You can work with peace of mind and stability until you are old.
Don't choose stability when you're struggling, but don't choose to struggle when you're stable.
Yes, for many people, choosing stability is a more cost-effective rational choice.
We must abandon the strange student mentality of competing in the most difficult places, and do not believe that you look at the business circle, which company will squeeze into a Red Sea industry, and everyone is scrambling to go to the blue ocean industry.
For individuals, stability is a scarce resource like a blue ocean.
Look at those around you who have stable jobs, and you will find that there are two kinds of people at most.
One type of person is one who has a mine at home and whose parents can continue to provide basic protection for the foreseeable future.
Another kind of person is a capable person who has experienced fierce competition and rushed out by strength, such as passing the examination for public office and examination for career editing.
Either way, the threshold is visible to the naked eye, and it will get higher and higher.
Source: "A Kiss and a Promise"
So, from the perspective of scarcity, if you are middle-aged, feel the turmoil of life and the torment of work, and hope to change a way to live the next life, then my advice to you is:
Select Stable.
First of all, we must admit that not everyone has the right to choose stability.
Although life is a runway where everyone walks together, for different people, the end point is completely different.
If you have reached the end of the effort, even if you see a large crowd of people still running, please rest in peace.
Because this race of life should be only yourself, others are not your competitors at all, at best they are companions on a certain road, forcing yourself to run with them, you will forget your end.
Source: Unnatural Death
In my impression, the deputy county magistrate of Longhua County in Hebei Province, who chose a stable job and the author of "Those Things of the Ming Dynasty", said this sentence in the same year:
To succeed is to live your life the way you like it.
The premise is that you want to think clearly about the life you want, and then self-consistent.
In this way, you can not only choose stability when it is stable, but also choose stability when it should not be stable.
Even if one day, you rediscover what you want, what you want to achieve, no matter what age, no matter how difficult it is at the moment, you also have the courage to give up stability and toss yourself again.
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