Wen \ Pillow Book Listen to Snow, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
Ernest Hemingway said:
"Anyone's life, if told truthfully, is like a novel."
But some people's lives are romance novels, some people's lives are literary novels, and some people's lives are horror novels.
The life of the great writer Hemingway is more complicated than anyone else's, both a military novel and an inspirational novel, but also a horror novel about women.
He has been married four times, had three children, has countless lovers, and has a 30-year "Plato" relationship with Hollywood actress Marlene Dietrich.
He spends his heart, is lustful, eats, drinks, gambles and sucks big ma, and basically has all five poisons. Although he can be said to be an iron-boned tough guy, he is also an incompetent husband and father.
His love history tells the woman:
A man's love is a leaf in the wind, which may be romantic and gorgeous when it dances, but when it falls, it is chaotic and dusty.
Too good for men, women will only get tragedy.
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"How I wish I had died while I still loved her alone." - "A Feast of Flow"
In 1920, at the age of 21, Hemingway met Hadley Richardson at a party and came forward to talk:
"I may be drunk and dizzy, but you do have a very good temperament."
Hadley, who was 8 years older than him, had just experienced the loss of her mother and soon fell into his passion. Soon, they got married.
After marriage, Hadley received a large inheritance, but for Hemingway's development, the two went to Paris.
In Paris, Hemingway wrote full-time, living off Hadley's legacy and her income from teaching the piano.
The two lived upstairs in a noisy sawmill, a two-bedroom suite with no hot water, no indoor toilet facilities, no thermal facilities, only a disinfectant toilet, a bed made of spring mattresses on the floor, and only a round neck long-sleeved sweatshirt to wear as underwear when it was cold.
In addition to the poor living environment, they often starved, and even when they walked to the banks of the Seine, they had to choose to take the road of "no shops selling fruits, vegetables, or wine".
Hadley didn't care if her clothes were worn, whether her apartment was shabby, or even gave up her favorite music for her husband. She accompanied her husband throughout the celebrities and took good care of him, even his stubborn, rogue personality was fully accepted.
They love each other warmly and romantically, affectionately calling each other "little mashed potatoes" and "tardy".
But later, Hemingway became famous, and their differences grew.
The first disagreement was that Hadley accidentally lost Hemingway's manuscript in order to allow more people to see her husband's work.
Although Hemingway forgave her on the surface, he had a mustard in his heart.
The second disagreement was that Hadley was pregnant, Hemingway didn't want children, and the doctor told Hadley that her body wasn't fit to have children, but Hadley insisted on giving birth.
After the birth of her son Bunby, Hadley is busy taking care of the children, Hemingway is busy flirting with women: the beautiful Duff, the fashionable Pauline, the wild Eloise...
He began to dislike his wife's bloated body, disliked her wife's opposition to his writing essay diss mentor, not only cheated in marriage, but also caressed his lover Dave in front of his wife, and also asked Hadley to accept Pauline and live a life of a monogamous wife.
Hadley experienced heartache and despair and finally chose fulfillment.
After the divorce, Hemingway left the copyright to Also the Sun Rises and his son to Hadley.
He said to Hadley:
"I think it may be because you haven't fallen with us. You're not really in this story, but you're beyond the story because you're better and more decent than the rest of us... I love you, Tadi, and my goodness is only manifested through you. ”
But ironically, the book is based on his next wife, Pauline.
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Moving from one place to another, the mind is never liberated, and it does not matter where it goes.
- "The Sun Also Rises"
In Hadley's marriage to Hemingway, Pauline Pfeiffer was an intruder. She is the editor of the fashion magazine Vogue, from a noble background, young and beautiful.
She began to interact with the Hemingways as friends, calling them "my darlings", and went with them to Pamplona, Spain, for a vacation, and under Hadley's eyes, she spent the night talking with Hemingway, talking about literature and books about the world, and even sneaking into Hemingway's bed during the couple's nap.
The three of them live in a house, eat together, play together, and on the surface the years are quiet, but in fact they have their own sufferings:
"In the hostel, everything about us was three: three breakfast plates, three towel-made nightgowns, three swimsuits hanging from the clothesline. On the windward gravel path of the hotel, three bicycles were parked on the bike rack..."
Hadley is a conservative and introverted housewife, while Pauline is a fashionably dressed socialite.
Hadley would only blindly encourage Hemingway, but Pauline was able to have a deep spiritual exchange with the writer Hemingway as a fan.
Hadley lost Hemingway's manuscript, but Pauline gave Hemingway's work a lot of insights.
Therefore, Hemingway liked the new and tired of the old, and chose Pauline.
After marriage, Pauline's family provided them with strong financial support, and their lives were leisurely, often traveling, going hunting in Africa, drinking at the famous sloppy Joe's bars, fishing, and watching bullfighting.
Unfortunately, Pauline repeated Hadley's mistake by giving birth to two sons by caesarean section, and the second son, Patrick, was born and almost died in childbirth.
Hemingway cheated again on the grounds that her post-caesarean section was uncoordinated.
Pauline tried to save the marriage with money, plastic surgery, etc., she said:
"You can't leave me like you left Hadley."
But Hemingway accused Pauline of "murdering" his marriage to Hadley, and the results were deserved. Sure enough, women who are promoted by extramarital affairs have original sin, while men are always innocent.
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"If you stop complaining and stop pursuing things you never get, you can live a good life"
- "For Whom the Death Knell Tolls"
In 1936, Martha, her mother and brother went on vacation to Florida and met Hemingway at the Scruffy Joe Bar.
At that time, he was a famous literary master, and he was only a newcomer author who had written two books.
Hemingway invited Martha to his house, saying that he had read Martha's book and was flattered by asking her for an autograph.
Later, when the two talked about the Spanish Civil War, Hemingway said that he was organizing a group of journalists and writers to report on the battle, including Camus, Neruda, George Orwell, and others, and invited Martha to go with him.
Not wanting to rely on anyone else, Martha found the editor of Collier's Weekly on her own and went to the Spanish battlefield alone. He wrote his first war report, "Only Bullets Wail", and gradually became famous.
Hemingway embarked on a passionate quest for Martha and inscribed in his work For Whom the Death Knell Is: Dedicated to Martha Gailhorn.
Later, Martha became his third wife.
After the marriage, Martha reported that she was going to fight in China and asked Hemingway to go with her.
In China, Hemingway enjoyed being surrounded by people, receiving visitors in hotels and giving passionate speeches to college students.
This bored Martha, and there were so many people living in the depths of the sea, she only wanted to go to the front line, to speak for the innocent people, But Hemingway thought of hunting, fishing, staying in a luxurious hotel vacation, he did not support her ideas, always taunted her.
Hemingway was also disappointed in Martha, and he often called on his friends to party at home, leaving a mess, and Martha preferred to interview rather than take the maid to clean up the mess for him.
He was an alcoholic, making trouble everywhere, and the room was always dirty and messy. He also raised a group of fierce male cats in the house, which caused a lot of complaints from his neighbors, and Martha took advantage of his outing to castrate his "love cat".
In the years that followed, the two quarreled.
After marriage, critics always ridiculed Martha as "Mrs. Hemingway", saying that her writing style imitated her husband, and then Martha sorted out her mood, left her husband who was still on vacation, went to the Finnish battlefield, and wrote a new work "Liana", which received unanimous praise, and critics praised her portrayal of female characters better than Hemingway.
This evaluation infuriated Hemingway, who was dissatisfied with his wife, and he took revenge on Martha: waking her up while sleeping, shouting and shouting, satirizing her work, intimidating and beating her, drawing a gun at her, and even squeezing out his wife's journalist status in Normandy.
But he did not expect that he had just arrived in England and had a car accident and did not go to the front line.
Martha sneaked into a medical ship, hid in the toilet for a night, disembarked after dawn, and became the first female reporter to cover the Normandy landings.
Later, Hemingway took Mary again, and Martha chose to divorce.
Unable to accept his abandonment, Hemingway took revenge on claiming that his marriage to Martha was the greatest mistake of his life and wrote a poem insulting Martha.
In this regard, Martha said in her autobiography "My Journey with Another Person":
"My life is not anyone's footnote."
She was one of the greatest American war correspondents of the 20th century, having fought in almost every international war of the last century, including the Spanish Civil War, the Finnish War, World War II, the Vietnam War, and was still fighting on the front line at the age of 80.
Her life is self-effacing, wonderful, and her achievements are unsurpassed. She wasn't anyone's wife, and she had a louder name—Martha Galehorn.
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When a story reaches a certain level, you will find that death is the best ending. - "Death in the Afternoon"
When Hemingway met Mary Welsh, she was a married woman or his brother's lover.
She was Hemingway's longest-reigning wife, and because Hemingway was old and needed someone to take care of her, she listed Mary as the sole heir to the estate.
Hemingway and Mary had experienced two plane crashes.
However, this couple who are suffering from great difficulties and immortality still do not cherish it very much, but frequently quarrel and even fight hard.
I don't know whether the power of money is too great, or Mary's tolerance is too high, anyway, until the end she guarded Hemingway's "young heart" of "drinking, fishing, and loving beautiful women", and even the reporters familiar with him praised Mary's care.
Soon after, Hemingway's second wife Pauline died, and her son Gregory underwent sex reassignment surgery and went to jail, writing to accuse Hemingway of killing his mother.
Hemingway began to reflect on himself, but he thought about it the most was the first Hadley, and wrote "The Flowing Feast" with her as the heroine:
"I love her, and I don't love any other woman. How I wish I had died when I loved her alone. ”
He called and told Hadley that he had written a memoir of his early life in Paris and asked her if she remembered the past.
"I remember it all."
"The books are full of traces of you, and writing about those days and living again means a lot to me, that's what happened between us."
At that time, Hadley had gone through a 35-year marriage with her new lover Paul, and she cried when she heard him say this.
Hemingway said:
"Loving someone is not too much, you're right, I screwed it up."
Two months later, he picked up a shotgun and ended his life before Mary woke up. Does he really love Hadley the most? Or is it that man is dying, and his words are good?
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Behind every abusive artist and writer there are many women who suffer silently. Being the wife of the great writer Hemingway is not something to be thankful for.
His love history tells women not to be too kind to men, because he will take your good for granted, and will only spoil people who do not know how to appreciate, but they will not be fed with a heart that does not know how to give back.
The first Hadley had all the virtues of a good wife, kind, gentle, and happy, and she tolerated his poverty and bad temper. But when he was ordinary, he used her, and when he became famous, he betrayed and abandoned her, and he also had the delusion of a monogamous wife, and finally chose Pauline, who was of higher value.
Of course I believe that Hemingway has a nostalgia for Hadley, because of her obedience, her inconsiderateness, her infinite patience, this is not what ordinary women can do, but that is not love, it can only be a kind of death of kindness and shame, otherwise, he would not betray Hadley.
So, woman, if you want long-lasting affection, please put away your Virgin Heart.
Maybe you could say that men are "slutty" and always like to chase, but that's their nature, and smart women take advantage of this with good men.
Be good to men, and divide the timing.
The other party needs your good, you give moderately, call the snow to send charcoal.
The other party does not need, you give unrestrainedly, saying that good is the icing on the cake, not listening is to kneel on the pole and lick, he will not cherish.
The second Pauline went to great lengths to grab Hemingway, didn't Hemingway betray her as well?
It can be seen that men's hunting consciousness is engraved in their genes, and they are stronger than women.
A woman who loses herself and lives as a sheep has only one ending: she is boiled into porridge, boiled into soup, stir-fried into vegetables, and eaten dry and wiped clean.
So, women have to be wolf like the third Martha.
You can rest in marriage, but you can't lie flat in marriage. You can remove your armor, but don't give up your martial arts.
Marriage is not a safe haven, it is a game, paying attention to balance, is a parity.
Take the candy in one hand and let the other party feel your affection and dedication; hold the stick in the other hand, ready to protect and defend yourself at any time, so that men dare not make a mistake.
You must also have the ability and foundation to settle down, and when you are more dazzling, you don't need to fear his change of heart.
The fourth Mary gave up her job to cook for Hemingway, iron his underwear, and sew buttons, and it turned out that he was not with a young woman? So, don't live yourself as an old mother. The premise of giving is equality, and the premise of loving a person is to love oneself.
This is not chicken soup, but a real big truth, I hope you and I can encourage each other.
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