Once upon a time, we thought that strong is hard, that is, indifference, that is, there is armor that can resist the open guns and dark arrows, there are swords that can cut through thorns, that is, there is strength that can break through, there is no retreat, no compromise.
But when we grow up, we find that we are really powerful, as if it is not what we imagined.
1, destruction is not powerful, creation is
In the movie "New Shaolin Temple", Andy Lau plays a brutal warlord young marshal Hou Jie, who is the best at killing people, and he once felt that only by killing the enemy can he bring eternal stability to his army and family.
The wife did not want their family to live such a life of fear, fighting, killing and killing, but she tried to persuade him to give up, and he just wouldn't listen.
His mantra was, I can't sleep without killing him.
To this end, he first killed his own confidant, and later started the idea of worshipping the big brother. However, man is not as good as heaven, and Cao Man, a subordinate who has long been dissatisfied with his arrogance, betrayed him at a critical moment and wanted to put him to death.
He escaped, but his beloved daughter was killed in that vicious battle. Grieving the loss of his beloved daughter, his wife was discouraged and refused to forgive him, so she chose to leave.
He didn't understand, he thought that he was more fierce and stronger than others, and he could protect his wife and children, but he didn't expect to bring the greatest harm to his wife and children.
Legend has it that one day the Buddha met the gangster Agrima on the mountain, Agrima was very fierce and famous for killing people without blinking.
He had heard that the Buddha was superior in wisdom and boundless in mana, so he wanted to kill the Buddha even more, because he felt that if he did, people would think that he was more powerful than the Buddha.
The Buddha said to Agrima, "Before I die, I have another wish, to cut down the branches of this peach tree."
Agrima dropped her knife in her hand and then dismissively threw the cut branch to the Buddha.
The Buddha picked up the branch with pity and said to Agrima, "Well, now please let it grow back."
When Agrima heard this, she couldn't help but laugh, because everyone knew that it was impossible.
The Buddha said compassionately that you think you are very powerful because you think you can easily hurt the lives of others, but you forget that destroying, hurting, destroying is actually the easiest thing, even a child can do it, but that is not really strong, the real strength is just the opposite, it is to help others to relieve pain, heal pain, get new life.
Agrima had an epiphany and later became a faithful disciple of the Buddha.
2, confrontation is not strong, tolerance is
When I was young, my greatest wish was to face the real world, one day to grow claws and armor, and then to be afraid of all swords and frosts.
Therefore, I have also struggled to resist, and I have also been shirtless, and I also want to be iron-hearted.
However, after exhaustion, I stumbled upon that the most explosive force was not anger and resistance, but love and tolerance.
I think of a movie that I can't forget for a long time, called "The Mystery of Windsor".
The girl's father, on her tenth birthday, got into a fight with the plaintiff's lawyer out of anger over the unjust verdict, and as a result, he punched the nail on the head, and he was sentenced to ten years in prison.
In the most difficult times, the neighbors and friends in the town have always taken care of her and her family like family.
From that day on, the mother began to drink alcohol to dispel her sorrows, unconscious all day; the younger brother of a little baby, and a mute; and the ten-year-old Metch had to become the mistress of their house overnight. Taking care of my mother and brother, visiting my father on time, and going to school myself.
Maech had promised her father to visit her drunkard mother on time every week, but every time Metch went, her mother was drunk and unconscious, and Metch could not forgive her mother for evading responsibility at first, she felt that her mother was an alcoholic, hopeless.
As she herself said: "Dad, the person who has been with you is me, I could have given up, I could have, did not leave, did not give up, it was not easy for me, when she was drunk, I was taking care of my brother, and the person who has been watching you all the time is also me." 」 ”
But Dad said, "You're young and smarter than me, but that doesn't mean you're wiser, and every night when I go to bed, I think about my family being torn apart and suffering, and now I can put it down to that lawsuit and regret it for the rest of my life, and I can also put it down to my fiery temper, because I beat the other person's lawyer and blame myself for a lifetime, or I can be a big mold myself, and then repair myself, look a little bit, and that's what I'm doing." ”
In the face of difficulties, in the face of injustice, resentment and confrontation seem so natural, but that does not help us out of the predicament. There is an old saying that when the heart is bigger, the matter is smaller. Because of her father's strength, Metch began to try to forgive her mother.
3, fear is not strong, love is
There is a tale of the south and north winds, from the fables of the French writer La Fontaine. Saying that the south wind and the north wind do not give in to each other, they both feel that they are stronger than each other. So they decided to give it a try to see who could take off the pedestrian's coat faster.
The north wind first exerted its power, and in an instant, the wind was cold and bone-chilling, and the pedestrians not only did not take off their coats, but wrapped them tighter.
It's the south wind's turn to show off. The south wind only blew lightly, the earth became warm, and the pedestrians felt more dry and hot, so they quickly unbuttoned their clothes, and then had to take off their coats.
Really powerful is not to be feared, but to be loved.
Shakyamuni Buddha was originally the prince of the Indian Shakya tribe, his father, the King of Pure Rice, was brave and ruled the side, and his greatest wish was to train his son Siddhartha (Shakyamuni) into a great reincarnation king, and a Sadari who could fight on the battlefield and bravely kill the enemy.
But the prophet predicted from an early age that Siddhartha would grow up to be a great practitioner.
This prophecy made it difficult for the King of Pure Rice to sleep. He did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to remove all the old, weak, sick and disabled in the Acropolis of Capira at that time, hoping to isolate Siddhartha's sympathy, pity, and compassion from childhood.
However, despite this, Siddhartha was born with a bodhisattva heart, and although he was indeed excellent in martial arts, he did not like and advocated the use of force and war to solve problems.
From his departure from home at the age of 29 to his great enlightenment under the Bodhi tree at the age of 35, he used the wisdom of love and tolerance to help countless sentient beings to liberate themselves from their troubles and stay away from suffering, preaching the Fa for more than 40 years, talking about the sutras for more than 300 times, crossing countless people, and being loved and admired by countless descendants.
It turns out that being strong is not destruction, not confrontation, not making others afraid, and being strong is not what we think it is. On the contrary, being strong is achievement, it is tolerance, and it is what makes people willing to come closer, like a spring breeze.
Strong is not to grind out calluses, but to harvest growth; strong is not to grow armor, but to dare to face; strong is not ruthless, but to know how to tolerate; strong is not to overcome anything, but to learn to bear; strong is not to fear nothing, but finally no longer escape; strong is not to have no opponent, but finally willing to take others as a teacher.
Finally understand that the real strength, not in the face of the devastation and difficulty of life, gradually become cold, mean, and even fierce, but taste the sour, sweet and bitter, see the cold and warm of human feelings, but the heart is still warm and compassionate, soft and open-minded.
Reading Notes No. 4: Have a good heart, say good things, do good deeds, and read good books. Although it has not arrived, the heart yearns for it.