"Yuli" is a biographical film based on real people, the legendary Cuban dancer Carlos Acosta, with talent and hard work, to create his own life legend, breaking the tradition, becoming the first black dancer to perform Romeo at the Royal Ballet in London.
Through the choreography of a large-scale autobiographical dance drama, the film unfolds memories and returns to the very beginning of time, slowly interpreting the legend of a lifetime in dance. Different from the youth dramas such as "Dance Out of My Life" that express the pursuit of self and dreams with dance words, Yuli's performance methods are more serious, memories and reality are intertwined, and there are almost no complete dance fragments.
I'm more interested in the reflections on children's education methods exposed in the film. As a parent, should we force our children to choose a life that we think is more promising and more suitable for their children's development?
Yully is a gifted boy who often plays with other children in the streets, fights with people, and dreams of becoming a football star like Pele. His father was well aware of his talent in dance and forced him to go to dance school to study ballet. As a child, Yuli was forced to wear tight pants, was ridiculed by his friends, and was very bitter in his heart, so he hated his father, often skipped class to fight to express his dissatisfaction, and the contradiction between him and his father became bigger and bigger, but his father never explained, always coldly forcing him to go to the school. Yuli has always felt that he does not like ballet, feel that ballet ruined childhood, with the growth, the motherland experienced war and crisis, and Yuli went to Europe to the world, has a completely different life from his hometown friends, and finally understands and appreciates the path his father chose for him.
It has always been thought that letting young children grow up in the way they like is an enlightened education, just like when we were children, we had a carefree childhood, rather than the heavy schoolwork and endless extracurricular classes that today's children do. However, many friends around me were also forced to go to extracurricular classes when they were young, and they also grew up well, and even had some more specialties than those who naturally let go of growth. In this era, complete laissez-faire is not enough, children are too far behind their peers, if like some children run four or five extracurricular classes a day, it is also too late.
So, when raising children, how to grasp this degree?
Going to extracurricular classes is to hope that children can find things that they are interested in in addition to their studies, work hard for them, cultivate them into hobbies, and ultimately enrich their lives.
What is a hobby? Because I liked it and gave time and energy to it and stuck with things for a long time. If you ask an adult what your hobbies are, he may say that he has a wide range of hobbies, such as watching movies, reading books, listening to songs, sports and so on. When asked which is the best at it, or the details, I can't say why. Sorry, you're just having fun. I have seen people who really love to watch movies, watch seven or eight movies a week, not only the theater hits, but also some unheard of niche movies, and they can also talk about the style of various directors. Because I love it, I will take the time to learn more.
This is also an important purpose to cultivate children's hobbies, through a course, open a door, leading him to explore more is the main purpose of extracurricular classes, not to compare with other children the number of extracurricular classes, and the extra points for further education are incidental gains. The key is to let him develop the personality traits of concentration and perseverance in doing things in the process of perseverance for a long time. People who can focus on one thing can go further both academically and professionally. Adults are easy to be half-hearted, like this today, like that tomorrow, three days of fishing and two days of drying nets, not to mention children with uncertain hearts, it is necessary to force someone to force it.
However, when forcing your child to take a path that you think is more suitable for him, do not be like Yuli's father in the movie, who is strong and unsympathetic, and is directly forced to be sent to boarding school under the banner of your own good, and after skipping class, he will whip him half to death without saying a word. This way of education is very harmful to children, will constantly provoke rebellious behavior, parent-child relationship like an enemy, not all children will finally understand the choice of grateful parents. Parent-child communication is a science that needs to be learned carefully and deserves to be taken seriously by every parent.
Not all children can grow into a generation of dazzling legends in such an environment like Yuli. All his parents can do is lay a good character foundation for him when he is young, let him experience the joy of sweating, let him develop some good habits, such as focusing on doing things, staying enthusiastic about the unknown, and taking the initiative to acquire knowledge. May every child reap the gift of time.
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