After more than 4 years, your wife Shinigaki Yui has returned.
This time, she and Ping Kuang not only officially registered their marriage, but also had children.
It is truly doubtful
But in the face of a new life, this harmonious couple with a clear division of labor also began to be caught off guard.
After naturalization, whose surname is, how to take maternity leave, who will take care of the children....
These problems are obviously different from ordinary household chores, and there is no way to solve them by signing a contract.
It can only be discussed.
But the performance of these two people in the play is simply too "surreal".
Every time Shiori and Moriyama encountered a problem, they could reach a consensus by having a cup of tea and sitting down to chat.
Weigh the pros and cons, be reasonable, be calm and empathetic.
There were no disputes throughout the process, not even a change in tone, and the family meeting went smoothly in a harmonious and harmonious atmosphere.
Most importantly, the male protagonist Ping Kuang is also exceptionally good at reflection and can think from a female perspective.
Where does such a husband get it?
More "surreal" is the external environment in which they live.
When Ping Kuang took maternity leave, his friend touched the stubborn boss with a word.
Boss Daigo: Maternity leave is such an important thing!
The problem is solved again.
Although the whole drama involves many problems that couples will encounter in the marriage and parenting stages, the solution to the problem cannot resonate.
Their so-called "consultation" is actually "preaching."
The reality they face is all with an idealized filter.
With all due respect, just lying in bed really doesn't make people feel the pain of pregnancy from these terms
Obstacles fall down with a single push, can be easily broken, absolutely not cruel, and even less real.
It is really too fake, and it can be said that there is no reference value.
Here's the manual @ Niigaki Yui and @ Hoshino Gen, if you two are kidnapped by the Japanese Propaganda Department, you will blink.
01
The first step in the marriage of Shiri and Pingkuang is to "change the surname and naturalize".
In Japan, naturalization is not as simple as writing the names of two people on a household register, but one party has to change his surname.
That's why Moriyama Shiori changed his surname to "Tsuzaki".
To get married, change your surname first, which may be a Japanese feature.
As early as 1898, the Civil Law of the Meiji Era of Japan stipulated that husband and wife must maintain the same surname, and in principle, they can use the husband's surname.
After World War II, although the second half of the regulations were deleted, in the patriarchal society, the same surname is almost equivalent to the "surname of the husband".
The woman's change of surname at the time of marriage is regarded as an unshakable social tradition in Japan.
If the man changes his surname to follow the woman's surname, it will be said to be "into the excess", and it will not be able to hang on the face.
For a long time, everyone thought there was nothing wrong with this way.
But as women entered the workforce and their economic status improved, they realized that something was wrong with changing their surnames.
More and more people support individual surnames
In particular, Japanese people like to use surnames to call others, and the sudden change of their surnames that they have used for decades has a sense of "deprivation".
Moreover, changing the surname is indeed a troublesome thing that "involves one hair and moves the whole body".
Not only do you need to change your ID card, driver's license, bank account, insurance, etc., all of which have to submit materials one by one to apply for changes.
To change a surname, you also need to report to the work unit.
If you are divorced, if you want to change your surname back, you have to go through the process again, which is equivalent to indirectly telling your relatives and colleagues, "I am divorced."
Besides, shouldn't husband and wife respect each other's wishes? Even if we want to change, why do we women always change?
In the eyes of many modern Japanese families, changing one's surname is no longer the default option, but a serious matter that must be fully discussed.
But it is indeed rare for a couple like Shiori and Hiraku to calmly and talk about the pros and cons, and to decide whose surname they are with in three or two sentences.
Because in reality, the trouble derived from changing the surname has reached the point where it is necessary to fight a lawsuit.
For example, some work units are not allowed to use the old surname, even if they go to court.
Source: Phoenix Weekly
Some who are unwilling to give in, have been married for 40 years and have two children, in order not to change their surnames, simply do not register for marriage.
There are also more persistent, in order to keep their surnames, but also want their children to be justified, have a child and divorce once, so that they can restore their original surnames.
After tossing and turning like this a few times, the company went crazy.
"The next time you divorce me, I'll let you leave!"
As for the question of whether couples can have different surnames, Japan has been discussing for almost 30 years without results.
In fact, the issue of surnames is not only controversial in Japan.
Once, about the papi sauce children and husband's surname, the Internet quarreled wildly.
Calling people "marriage donkeys", "fetal devices", and any ugly words.
It is indeed quite ridiculous to even create a "surname right" that does not exist in law, and to fight for it.
It is not to inherit the throne, and it is better to argue with whom to surname, so it is better to consider what to eat at the next meal.
02
After the discussion of the fluttering surname, the most unconvincing pregnancy link in the whole play came.
In the company where Shiri is located, when the female employee is pregnant, she said it does not count.
You have to get in line first.
The previous person returned from maternity leave, and the next person could take leave.
When Shi Li proposed to take maternity leave, the leader turned a calm face and only asked" "How long do you plan to take?"
Although other male colleagues complained that "no one did the work", what was more magical was that the male compatriots in this drama were extremely reflective.
The next day, he apologized for his words.
Is this a real scene?
In fact, compared with the normal leave, any leader who hears the word "maternity leave" will be excited.
Women take paid maternity leave, which in the company's view is "upside down money", obviously do not do any work, but receive wages.
And after giving birth to a child and returning to the workplace, various chores in the family will also affect the work.
It is difficult to return to the original position after giving birth
Source: [Dear Her]
Therefore, in the recruitment stage, having children is simply the "original sin" of discrimination.
"Getting married and having children" directly deprives many women of the opportunity to step into the workplace
Source: [Kim Ji-young, born in 1982]
When it comes to maternity leave, men are not much better off in the company.
Pingkuang's superior's attitude towards maternity leave is very representative.
"It is understandable that women take maternity leave, why do men need to take maternity leave? It's not that you have children", many company leaders will have such doubts.
Having children and taking care of children has always been considered a matter that women should do single-handedly.
Men don't understand this, just make good money.
Although Japan claims that men can take paternity leave for one year with 60% of their monthly salary, in practice, only 2.3% of them have taken maternity leave.
Many men never know about maternity leave.
It was not until 2016 that for the first time a member of the Japanese Diet proposed to take maternity leave.
Liberal Democratic Party Congressman Kensuke Miyazaki is Japan's first male member of parliament to take paternity leave
It is simply too rare for a boss like Ping Kuang to promise him a month of maternity leave (although reluctantly) and come back to continue working in his original post.
Because in fact, many companies withhold maternity leave, ostensibly agree, turn around and pull you into the dismissal list.
Even if you don't get fired, you will most likely be replaced, and it is unlikely that you will continue to work in your original position.
Taking maternity leave is equivalent to sentencing a contemporary social animal to death
Forced by this, many people do not dare to ask for maternity leave even if they know about it.
What is even more "excessive" in the play is that Ping Kuang also plans to take two months of parental leave after his wife returns to the workplace.
After the boss was fooled by the "workplace risk management" rhetoric, he actually felt that it was very reasonable, and then happily agreed.
You know, in 2018, the proportion of Japanese men taking parental leave was only in the early 6% of the country.
Two weeks off to make headlines, let alone two months off?
Japanese Environment Minister Shinjiro Koizumi became the first Japanese cabinet minister to take parental leave
This made me wonder if the company might have been able to take parental leave so easily.
Putting aside this unrealistic setting, parenting is something that both husband and wife should work together.
Why is it not okay for men to take maternity leave and parental leave, but it is okay to take leave for illness or other reasons?
Essentially, the belief that "maternity leave is a 'privilege' for women and that men do not need maternity leave" is rooted in stereotypes about the division of labor between the sexes.
The view of "male outside, female inside", as an "East Asian characteristic", has dominated mainstream society for too many years.
03
Can you imagine that in the face of this pile of bad things that are big to think about, these two people can always be as calm as signing a contract.
The whole drama can barely be counted as disputes and contradictions, and there are only a few.
For the first time, Ping Kuang reflexively said "I will help you" after the obstetric examination.
Immediately afterward, Shiori solemnly pointed out the error of this sentence.
Moving his lips, he educated all men by the way.
The second time, in order to take maternity leave, Ping Kuang worked overtime until Chinese New Year's Eve night, and received a text message from Shi Li saying that he needed toilet paper at home.
I had to carry the paper home, but I found that there was actually paper at home.
Pushing open the door again, the house was unoccupied, and my wife sat on the couch, laughing and sharing with him the baby products she saw.
Seeing this scene, Ping Kuang, who had always had a heart like stopping water, collapsed a little.
Think you're finally going to quarrel with them?
Shiori said that he was uncomfortable, and then he cried bitterly.
Immediately afterward, one of the two lay on the couch and the other on the ground, crying.
Contradictions and conflicts, none of them.
Also, who let the other party is Niigaki Yui (smile).
The next day, the two men talked calmly again, ending with "It is a curse that men must be strong, and it is hard to say it."
In the conversation with his father, Ping Kuang also helped the majority of men break the theory of "top beams and pillars" and publicized a wave of "husband and wife each top half of the sky".
You find that no, as soon as there is a disagreement, the Buddhist couple just sit down and talk, and everything will be solved.
It's incredible.
Many times have to wonder, will the couple be a robot with a well-programmed program?
Never quarrel, always be considerate of each other, and say something incredibly correct without changing your face.
Friends, colleagues, and parents around them all have extremely correct three views.
The most uncomfortable thing is that they obviously live in the most ideal environment, but they also have to teach you to be a person by appropriating and amplifying the actual plight of ordinary people.
Not convincing.
In reality, a place of chicken feathers is as light as a feather in the play.
You think you can boil a bowl of Chinese medicine with these serious issues, and the result is a cup of boiled water.
After telling a bunch of big truths, in addition to contributing a wave of material to the hot search, it seems to have no effect.
However, the audience's desire is really simple, you can see the new wall knot clothes, but also what bicycle.