"Lan Dao, thank you! Every time I have any doubts, you can always help me solve them in three words, and when can I be like you. "That's what the recent graduate student said at the end of my chat.
I didn't say much, just replied, "You will, tomorrow it will be." ”
Yeah, who can't? As long as the goal is determined, try to take a step, no matter how fast or slow, you can always reach.
Just like me, half a year ago, I was just a student, but I was determined to continue on the road of writing, and I never gave up a single opportunity, so I can have the honor of becoming a mentor today.
The reason why I am fortunate is because this position really exercises me. Although I have only just finished the first class, the process of leading the class has made me gain a lot, so I will take this opportunity to sort it out.
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Years of teaching have made me extremely confident in my mentor's work. But I overlooked the fact that the students in the writing class were different from the students I had brought, not only because the crowds were different and the age was different, but also in their attitudes towards learning and teachers.
They think more that they are not here to get an education or help, but to spend money on services. Service work and teaching work are two different things, and naturally, my tutors are also more hard.
Every morning and evening, batch homework, pay attention to community information, answer students' doubts, comb through the essence of each lesson + expand and add meals, and even as long as they see words or messages that are conducive to the growth of students, they will be forwarded to them in time, hoping to better help them transform.
Even foreign students sent messages in the early morning, I got up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet to glance at the mobile phone, afraid that if I did not reply in time, it would make the students helpless.
However, even with such efforts, the enthusiasm of the students weakened with the increase in the difficulty of the course, and some students began to complain about the course. I immediately shared relevant topics in the group, guided the trainees to think positively, and expressed acceptance and reassurance to the emotions of the friends.
Even though I think I've done a good job, there will always be individual thorn-headed trainees who like to create negative effects. One classmate felt very unacceptable about the results of her failure to submit a manuscript after putting it on the list, but she did commit the taboo of submitting papers. She couldn't find anything to attack on my review, so she found other excuses to start complaining about the course design in the group.
According to my nature, this kind of heart and attitude of the person is inherently problematic, and it should not be ignored.
However, we cannot allow negative energy to spread and affect the learning atmosphere. So in the end, she had to talk to this classmate very reluctantly, and it took half a day to talk before she gave up. At the end of the day, I didn't have a prejudice against me, but simply published course suggestions.
Later, I thought back, if I had taken the initiative to contact her immediately when the list was issued or even after the approval of the manuscript was completed, given her a preventive injection, and then done corresponding psychological counseling, there would have been no such farce. But my cold mentor was psychologically suspicious, thinking that it was a bit flattering to lower my posture to communicate with the students about things other than learning, so I shelved this idea.
After a long and focused teaching by Mr. Dust, I have a new understanding of how the tutor can serve the students. I learned that to be a mentor, in addition to being conscientious and responsible, the level of business is excellent, but also should pay attention to daily emotional communication, establish good communication channels, and prevent all preventable bad situations as much as possible.
In a word, the principle of being a mentor is to have a low posture and not to take too much into account in terms of communication with students; but in terms of business meals and pointing, it is absolutely professional, so that the posture is handsome.
Fortunately, even if there was a little unpleasantness, everyone did not question my guidance and teaching, and I basically kept my handsomeness, and then I needed to practice hard to lower my posture.
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After understanding the general principles of being a mentor, let's talk about what I think is the most important mentality of being a mentor. This mentality is to aim for long-termism.
What is long-termism? Personally, I think it is the courage and boldness to stick to a thing to the end. Always do, keep doing, until it is good, only in this way, will not be because of the consumption of enthusiasm, and produce cold and unactive work.
First of all, for a course, including practical exercises, it takes at least one and a half months to complete. If you add the correction of the third draft and put it on the list, it will not be far to two months. This period of time is not too long to say, but it is not short to say short. Most importantly, as long as the course is not over, problems may occur at any time, and we need to solve problems at any time, without any relaxation.
If the intensity of the intensive work is still something that people can handle, then the heartstrings that cannot be loosened for a moment are really a little tiring to be tightened for two months.
I myself was very enthusiastic and excited a few days before I took the class, but after a few days of piles of homework, I saw my classmates repeatedly asking and talking about many questions, and even when some people did not react to the teacher's meals and questions, I began to gradually feel a little chilly.
Fortunately, at this time, I thought of my original intention of being a mentor. It was the idea of "stick to it anyway" that gave me strength, and I quickly adjusted my mindset and re-actively engaged.
Long-termism will not affect the way forward because of external interference. No matter how small the audience, we have to do our best.
Second, from the perspective of the mentor role, and even the long-term development of the individual, taking a class, or dealing with an adverse event, is too short-lived, so short that it is not worth hesitating or complaining about because of them. Because the road ahead is still very long, bad things are inevitable, trapped in a matter of the moment, how can we see the future?
When I first applied for the writing class, I set the goal of going through the manuscript, and I did it; then I set the goal of being a tutor within half a year, and I did it; then I had a lot of goals, and these goals were waiting for me to achieve, even if it was difficult, even if it was a long time, it was something I had to pursue.
No matter what dream can not be realized overnight, only long-termists who dare to dream and are willing to work hard for their dreams are entitled to pick the final fruits.
To be a mentor, to be a good mentor, as with other things, also needs to either not do it or do it to the end. Only this mentality of being willing to persist for a long time can make us do more vigorously.
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There is a saying that when you give a rose, you have a lingering fragrance in your hand. This means that giving a rose to someone else is not for nothing, and the hand holding the flower will still retain the sweet fragrance of the rose.
In fact, everything in the world is a reason in the end. This sentence is also extremely correct when used in the work of a mentor.
In order to drive a group of inactive students, there was a time when I got up every morning, I would punch in the group first, write down what time I had done, what I did, and how to arrange the time next; at ten o'clock in the evening, I regularly shared what I had done today, what I had gained, what the unfinished things were, and what should I do next.
The trainees saw me posting these things and gradually began to expose their relevant information. I should have been happy with more interactions, but new troubles came. I found that there were students who were earlier than me, and there were students who were more reasonable than I planned, so what should I do?
So I fine-tuned my plan overnight, and then set the morning alarm clock half an hour earlier. Yes, I don't want to miss out on any interaction with my students, and of course, I don't want to give up the opportunity to tap my potential. Getting up earlier and having a more thoughtful plan is exactly what I've always wanted to do and can do.
After a while, there were more and more people in the group who got up early, more and more people with schedules, and students who discussed time management with me privately. Seeing their progress and improvement, and then looking at their gratitude and affirmation to me in the WeChat message, happiness overflowed.
In fact, they don't know, I have also changed a lot in the process of helping them, such as the newly adjusted plan to make me more time, more energetic, I feel better.
There are also some students who are very studious, asking questions in the group and asking questions in private messages; learning-related, habit-related, management-related, several questions a day. Some problems I know well, some I have to think about a little, and some I really need to look up information to solve. After all, they are not ignorant children, but elites in various industries, and self-motivated learners.
I calculated, answered these questions, coupled with the daily course plus meal explanation, at the end of the day, my Q&A volume is often tens of thousands of words, and a lot of knowledge is also in the process of Q&A and explanation, forming new knowledge, and more and more systematic.
Even if I had more knowledge reserves before, the most I could do was the knowledge points scattered by the stars, but by passing them to the students, I had to carefully comb through them, invisibly connecting the knowledge points into a line, and then slowly starting to have a net. Even though the net is small and narrow, it's already changing, isn't it?
The next time someone asks me the same question, I think I can not only answer what his question is, but I can also tell him why it is there, and even talk to him about how we should do it.
This is the confidence and wealth that a mentor gains in the process of helping the trainees.
I hope that I can achieve the dreams of more people while delivering value. Because I firmly believe that every word and every voice I output is reflecting my self-worth and achieving myself.
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The road is obstructed and long, and the line is coming.
Being a mentor is a result; being a mentor is also a beginning.
For me, being a mentor is a job, not a job. Because it requires our sense of responsibility, initiative, service and other capabilities, but it is more than that.
The mentor should be a love that comes from the heart, a life that shakes another life; a posture that can be low, a posture that can be handsome; a tenacity that can survive, and a dream that can reach oneself as an adult.
The road is long and walking.
The gift to the students at the beginning of the article is also silently recited to themselves at this moment: "You will, tomorrow will be able to!" ”